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Maybe a good way to point it out is with a joke. If my gf asked me to buy chicken thighs, I would probably buy drum sticks too as I just learned from your post that there is a difference lol. Def. sounds like some abusive and manipulative parents are still in your mind. Maybe something like...

Can you get away from them at all?! If not, start by seeking validation from outside that house! Come to us everyday, find some local support group that is donation based (if possible). Do not seek validation from your abusers! They will never give it to you. Their reality is warped and they...

I agree with @sun seeker in regard to utilities (as practical) and also about your value as a person in her house. I love what everyone has said so far!! i often have fantasies about being wealthy enough to help the people who were good to me, or anyone who needs it. Maybe she was in your...

What about taking her to the doctor next time she is with you? If a doctor notices anything, CPS will be notified immediately and the doctor's words are the evidence. It's unfortunate how this works in that physical evidence must be present or the child must be able to say what happened. PS...

wtf is wrong with people? I really hate that whole "scaring people is funny thing" like 14 yr old boys bullying someone! This guy doesn't sound like a real friend to your brother! Best thing you can do is write in the youtube comments as much as possible. I'm sorry, there's not too much else...

Forgive me if I am off here, but why is this unhealthy? Also, are you so sure it wasn't real? And if it was just something you imagined to cope, I honestly don't see the need to let it go or force her out of your mind. I mean, maybe don't speak to her in front of others. But I talk with...

I couldn't have said it better! I was very lucky and had almost a hollywood type story about this. Long story short I was 24, living in a trailer parked around a city where I got robbed and assaulted, ready to give up and secretly planning my suicide. Then a man who was a psychic medium...

I absolutely agree @Solara and I honestly can really relate to how you feel when that comes up. However, if we compare our healing, our healing timelines, or our pain to other people we can drive ourselves crazy! For example, a person who has severe experiences like me or you might improve...

Exactly! Why are we always having pissing contests, even about our pain?! that whole "my pain is more righteous than your pain" We invalidate each other left and right because no one validated us. By "us" I just mean humans...

This is just my view, but I see trauma like a spectrum. In this world, most people will fall somewhere on this spectrum, and many of us will end up on the extreme side or PTSD 'zone' We live in a world filled with violence and abuse for generations. In my humble opinion, it's way more common...

I second @Glitterkitty and welcome to the forum! It breaks my heart to read all that you have been through. We are here for you!

Hi @Bookoffee I've had a lot of bad doctors in my life, and I'm not in a position to judge from this one thread, but it sounds like a 2nd opinion is in order! Can you find a different doc? I was once told by the only nice doctor I ever had to watch out for doctors who suggest surgeries for...

@ekane I recently had a talk with a SSI lawyer as I am considering this route too. I don't know what state you are in but I can tell you what he told me. It takes a minimum of 6 months for the application process, maybe longer if you are denied and go into appeal process. If you are working...

I'm glad that helped! I learned that trick from one particular place that served homeless people. It was very intense to work there and a lot of my coworkers were also ptsd or recovering alcoholics/recovering addicts/out of prison and as a result we all had our 'cray-cray' moments at work. The...

I just went through a long and brutal search and finally found a therapist I like. I have a bit of advice that I think might help you: I made an excel spreadsheet with a list of therapists to potentially contact. Separately, I made a list of qualities that my ideal therapist MUST have and a...

Hi @Justmehere , I worked in nonprofits for 6 years and battled my trauma issues under a pile of work too :( I want to offer some quick "get those damn emails done" practical advice and then I would be happy to have a private debate with you if you want! I really mean that, not trying to sound...

For me, PTSD is like a ghost that follows me around and always will. Sometimes that ghost is chill and will sit back and read a book in the corner. Then he turns all Scrooge's homie on me and he shakes and rattles chains in my face and screams in my head for years at a time! Can I get an...

OMG HOOK ME UP!!! :) Side note, back in the day, Tim Leary used LSD in psychotherapy and had great results, especially with alcoholics. Sometimes good drugs get outlawed while bad ones get commercials...

I hate to be the one always bringing this up, lol, but medical cannabis is a HUGE help in this department for me. If I don't eat from stressing out all day, then my blood sugar level gets low and it affects my mood pretty bad. Smoking weed has been a "cure" so to speak in terms of getting my...

what a great thread! I was just joking with a friend of mine the other day about how the US government is like Ike Turner and we are all Tina's. I mean, when we see a woman in an abusive relationship we say "GET OUT! LEAVE HIM!" but when it's the government, we make excuses like we're all...

I second what @TXbandit said. I ran away at 13 and ended up in the system. All the scary parts aside, I felt safer there than with my parents. I remember feeling safe for the first time there and didn't want to leave my first group home. Plus, you're in Canada? Forgive my ignorance, but I've...

It hurts me to read your story and see how some small town "shame" BS would make so many people act so despicably toward you. I can't tell you what to do either. All I would say is whatever you decide, know it's ok. You're not a bad person for not going, considering the high volume of...

Ditto to all of the above! And I would highly recommend edibles if you need to sleep or if you need to use during the day while at work or somewhere that's not friendly or appropriate to 'blaze up'. But be careful, edibles are super strong! Just take a small bit to take the edge off during the...

Hey Girl, I don't know if this will make you feel better, but this whole thing reminds me of when I worked in San Francisco with the homeless. There were SOO SO many mentally ill people, and I would OFTEN get someone, either male or female, who would latch onto me or my office mate and we...

honey you're fine just do what you can to get there! Pop in a few mints and stick of gum! You go girl :) Sending you love and support... PS I pretty much take several bong hits before doing anything these days.