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Sorry - but I have to ask??? ;) Like Kahlan says - you do both have an awful lot on your plate. I was once told that you can't save someone if you can't save yourself and was given the analogy of the parent putting on their own life jacket before putting on their child's. Does that make sense...

Hi Franciemarnie - thank you for your suggestion. I don't think that they're relatives - I believe (although he hates to speak about "them") that they are "recreations" or some such of people he saw when he was in the army. I don't want to hijack Bill's thread, but thank you again - I have heard...

Hi Bill - I hope you don't mind me asking, but do you mean you actually see people? Because my Husband does and they worry him - he sees them around the house. He also used to see a cat too. He says they talk, but he either can't hear or can't understand what they say. x

If they smell nice but are still dirty it could be that the washing powder isn't getting in to the machine but the softener is...?

I'm so sorry Bill - it's the hardest, kindest and bravest decision that any dog owner had to make. A friend of mine had this under her profile on a forum once: “We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own, live within a fragile circle; easily and often...

Hello Dayglo - I've just had a quick look online and here in the UK there are quite a few websites and helplines for male victims of domestic violence and abuse. Please, please, please do not think I am casting aspersions on your wife or you - but I do think you need outside support for yourself...

Hi LuckyStars - once things are a bit more settled, could you tell him what you've just told us? You're still learning (aren't we all!!!) and you will make mistakes. We have a "code" in our house for certain things that Husband doesn't want to talk about or for if he can't. It takes a slightly...

Thank you all - he had his appointment yesterday - the Dr did mention IBS but said he should have more pain with it. She ruled out the nasties, which to be honest hadn't occured to either of us! She did suggest it could be very low-grade food poisoning, and because he's not been ill as such his...

Sorry Kas Can Fly - we posted at the same time! No offense - but that sounds awful! It actually sound like when Husband had Kidney Stones and they started to move - he was cold, clammy and sick with the pain. I am so glad that you have medication now and hope that the bouts get less and less x

Thank you both - that's really interesting. The Mintec tablets were designed for IBS and I think it's mint tea in a tablet! I will give him a call and make sure he gets an appointment - at least if he gets a diagnosis then we can make a plan. Prime-no, your English is superb :) and thank you...

Has anyoe read Oh Sylvia by Dawn French? The football season's started and I really need a good distraction!!!!

Ooh spooky - and thank you! I just posted about this in the Supporters' section - Husband is really struggling with his stomach at the moment, so I will most definitely be looking in to this!

Good morning! I know that this has been mentioned in passing on a few occassions - that stress can cause stomach problems - but I'm just wondering if anyone's OH has ever had an actual diagnosis for anything or any treatment? Husband, every so often, will get a ridiculously rumbly tummy - so...

I bought myself a folder and a notebook! Doesn't sound much, but it's the first step to getting my stuff in order!!!! I may need a bigger book... :roflmao: Ooh! New smilies!!!!

Awww - congratulations to you both!!! xxx

Awwww - Bert and Ernie! They remind my of my best friend when I was little - she loved Sesame Street!!!

Hello Ever Hopeful and welcome. A rant is a very good thing to have from time to time! Congratulations on getting help for yourself and your other-half sounds to be a very, very lucky person to have you. Hope you've managed to get in to the rest of the Forum by now!

I never realised that... :( What I did realise the other day - much to my shame and Husband's great hilarity - I still know all the words to Achey Breaky Heart... and I can do the steps too!!!! :eek::p

I second that Amethist - it is so frustrating to ask Husband what's wrong and you just get "I'm fine" when it's so blooming obvious that he is anything but. I know - talking can be painful - but see Toria's Rules #1 & #2 :)

I can only comment on how Husband's character has changed over the years and empathy / sympathy seemed to be one of the first character traits to disappear. Not for everyone - but for some - and for others his empathy / sympathy went in to overdrive. For example: if we watch the news and there...

Home Rule #1. It's okay to be yourself. Contrarian Rule: I must put a brave face on Home Rule #2: Home is where you are safe and can be yourself without judgement. Contrarian Rule: It's a big bad world out there... I'm not sure where the Contrarian Rules came from - the Army I guess. That...

Good thinking - I have heard of auditory flashbacks - so I guess visual-only (don't know the posh word for that!) is a possibility - thank you

Hi Sunshine - from someone who has been there and felt exactly that way, please, please, please go and see your doctor. Make a list if you have to but you need to tell them the truth and all of it. I got myself in to such a state back in June that I was a liability to myself and it got to the...

Oh... I had no idea you could have one of those - thank you! I always thought of flashbacks as being "back in the action" so to speak and acting out a past event not just seeing it as an image - but that could explain why he often stares in to "space". Thank you. I will try to speak to The Nice...

I posted in my diary a while ago that Husband sees things in the night. He apparently did so quite regularly in our old home - he used to see "the people he couldn't save" standing in the corner of the bedroom at night. He said they would talk but he either couldn't understand them or couldn't...