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We hold our Ts to a high bar. I would hate to have to have perfect responses every time. That said, if you like her, it is a relationship which means stomping thru muck to make it stronger. I agree her response seemed dismissive but are you certain she grasped its imlortance to you? I used to...

I quit therapy a few weeks ago after 5 years. I miss her but believe we went as far as we could. I also believe, for some of us, healing may be a lifelong journey. So, I have the following tools to help me keep pushing forward as a solo.endeavor: . Exercise at the gym w a trainer who has a warm...

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The future is brighter than the past is dark.

Thanks, I needed that!

Ok, officially terminated. I know it was the right thing to do. I read an article where someone described stopping therapy as having your heart scooped out with a spoon. Yeah, it's kind of like that. I know time will soothe the pangs and she assured me she is only an email away and I can reach...

About 100 times. Opening up was always hard for me, too, and she came to appreciate knowing what was in my head. I just tried to be mindful and not do it too often, and part of the growth was expressing the message with my voice, even if it meant reading my written words.

Thank you for sharing! @Tornadic Thoughts I really like what you said about her always being available as a tool in your tool box and only a pbone call away. That is a great reminder and soul soother, knowing that stopping doesn't have to be completely final. And I am trying to consider many...

I am at a point where I am considering stopping therapy. I feel like I have grown a lot and am at a good place. Am I 100% "fixed"? No, and I am realistic in knowing that there will probably always be hiccups along the way. I haven't gone into this with my therapist yet and want to make sure I...

What you are doing is such difficult work and you are very brave. Learning that you have a right to cry is a huge step in healing. Take good care and know there are many kind and gentle people in the world.

Interestingly, it is the fearful part that wants the eye contact. I commend their courage. I want it, too, but feel so vulnerable. I do fleeting glances. Lately she is sitting next to me so will need to move for this to happen. I am sure it will strengthen trust and connection and really isnt...

It is ok when we start session and are sharing casual chit chat but as soon as we start the work, boom! Wall's up. I thought it was the part making all the walls but it's me, too.

I am in therapy and happy with my therapist but I have a terrible time with eye contact in session. I understand the vulnerability and so on that goes along with such a direct connection. I know this is also a protective mechanism so she won't get too close. I can't see her so she can't see me...

I'm right up there with @desiderata310 It took me about 3.5-4 years to really dig in and start to do the hard work. It wasn't anything that my therapist was or wasn't doing, it was my resistance and fear. Big time fear. I am still not 100% open with her and I now understand that these defenses...

From what I have been told, it is best to have a different therapist than the one he is seeing. Triangulation throws things off balance and it eliminates any possible preconcieved ideas or bias his T may have formed. Many therapists refuse to do both solo and then couple counseling for that...

The idea of using substances as a cure all is a short term solution, I'm afraid. When the numbing wears off, the problems remain and drugs are not cheap. An ayahuasca retreat costs $450 for a two night retreat. I am sorry to hear you are struggling. Maybe there's a better way.

They only have as much power as you give them.

It surprised me what was uncovered, what I had forgotten and how it has impacted me. It was a long road of bumps and stupid decisions that could have been circumvented if I'd stuck with therapy the first time I tried it. Ive been chugging along for a really long time but things are getting...

Funny, my wife recently asked me, "why do you have to push yourself sooo hard?" Not an easy answer. I believe exercise releases all of those good chemicals that counter anxiety and depression, plus, damn, it feels good to tackle a tall mountain or long bike ride. I took on the challenge and...

Far.from being an expert at this stuff but I think you need someone who touts themself as a relational therapost, because that is what they bring to tbe table..relationship!

I do believe it is a law that they must give you 24 hour notice before entering the property. You do have rights, so you may want to check into that. I am a landlord and have to do that but am not sure if it is a state law or what. I know that doesn't address the big issue but he shouldnt be...

@Hope4Now I appreciate your post more than you know. My therapist takes up a lot of head space and I understand it makes sense since she is there to meet my needs. Sometimes it really bugs me but mostly it is in check. Yeah, attachment..part of growth.

I hate this question as I never have an answer, either. Ugh. I usually look blank or say "nothing," or "I don't know." It catches me off guard and I sometimes thought she was throwing it out to fill in a blank. I told her I never know what to say so she quit asking. And if I do need something...

Good for you! I was let go from my job over two years ago and haven't looked back. It pissed me off big time, too, but it didn't take long for that feeling to go. I hadn't been happy there for a long time and they actually did me a life changing favor. I am so happy for you going back to school...

As one with abandonment issues, when I started therapy I thought it would be yet another time where I would get attached to someone and then they would eventually be gone, so why set myself up that way? But after working together for several years, it was unavoidable. I still think it is...