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To answer your question, yes, being abuse like that can cause many problems: there is a lot of research stating this. Reading it helped me heal a lot, mostly by letting me know that, contrary to what my abusers had told me, I wasn't the problem and wasn't the only person whose parents were...

Hi. I'm a little older than you, but I hope you don't mind me offering advice on how I somehow managed to get through the pain of PTSD. I had it very badly at your age, but I couldn't afford afford a therapist (and I'd already tried asking other adults for help and they weren't interested in...

Hello. I relate to your life story. What has helped me a little, in re-parenting myself, was discovering adult who were around my parents' ages (e.g., teachers in real life, college-educated adults or Ivy League professors online I'd never met) whose careers or positive life advice interested...

Hello. Have you looked at health websites like the NIMH PTSD webpage? (I'm sorry I couldn't post the link for you. I tried to, but this website said my post count is too low at the moment to be allowed to.) It explains the symptoms, and gives several links to other articles on how to treat it, etc.

Hello. Since you asked for reassurance, would it possibly help and calm your anxiety by reminding yourself that, in the event that you do see something suspicious, you can contact a flight attendant and they'll be able to help keep watch or notify the pilot, in case they need to turn around or...

Perhaps reading the stories and tips from other abuse survivors on a Buzzfeed article, "This Is What Sex Is Like After Sexual Assault" might help. Several of the survivors who were raped or grew up abused for several years said they were looking forward to changing their future, despite what...

I remember overhearing a few, male classmates in elementary school laugh and joke about how their parents would hit them if they ever misbehaved; I didn't understand why they found it funny because it deeply hurt me to be treated like that by my parents (especially when I didn't do anything...

Thanks for your reply, Moo. It helps to know I'm not the only virgin.

Some asexual teens and young adults have tried coming out to their religious parents, who didn't accept them because they thought it was weird or wrong for their child to not be interested in sex; some even tried pressuring them to date, get married, and have children, because they said that...

Oh, I forgot to clarify: I worked through my depression and suicidal thoughts, myself, so I'm much better, now, than I used to be.

Thanks, everyone, for your replies. First, Eve, about not really making friends: I've always been an introvert, labeled shy. I had more friends while I was in school, than I do, now. But even then, I still didn't grow to be sexually attracted to them; I had a few crushes, yes, but didn't feel...

I've already heard from other asexuals in other forums, who were physically, emotionally, and or sexually abused. Other asexuals who were or weren't abused growing up just reply that it doesn't matter whether the person's abuse was the reason or cause of their asexuality, but for me, personally...

To explain my background, I grew up in a dysfunctional household where I was physically (hit, whipped on my buttocks) and emotionally abused throughout my childhood. In fifth grade, while learning about sex ed, I felt repulsed at the idea of sex. In middle school and high school, I occasionally...

I hear you. Ditto for me: I wish I could feel the few moments when I felt extremely happy as a child, again, but, as an adult, I can't recapture that innocence.

I relate to your family history, Simply Simon. There's only so much yelling a child can take. I tried to ignore my parents' constant yelling that went on for hours, but it eventually would become irritating because I wouldn't be able to concentrate as well on completing my homework for school...

Yeah. I felt the same: I couldn't believe how his nice, friendly and calm voice in interviews (giving an appearance of being happy) was belying his inner turmoil with himself.

I'm surprised she said that to you, especially since she's supposed to be a "specialist trauma therapist;" I've read parts of textbooks for therapists that specifically state that many children who are abused are too afraid to tell anyone about it, especially if their abuser(s) are related to...

I came across a long radio interview that Chester Bennington did in February 2017, where he mentioned that he felt fine whenever he tried to focus on taking care of his family, friends, etc., but that when he's alone or by himself, that's when he has negative, dark thoughts.

Thank you for caring; not everyone cares. Caring and being there for your cousin and friends who were raped or assaulted is meaningful.

My local police didn't help me; one told me that his father used to beat him, too, and that corporeal punishment was legal. Both believed my abusers' lies that I was the one who was the cause of domestic problems. The police told me I should behave and mind my abusers. I was angry and tired of...

This is what I'm wondering, too. How is a physical abuse survivor to know whether their abuser(s) was feeling sexually gratified during the abuse or not, to label it, legally, as sexual abuse? (i.e. when your dysfunctional abusers--who told you they grew up being spanked and whipped...