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I agree. She wants to help you and knows who can. She's not 'abandoning ' you ( a fear many, if not most, of us have) or giving up. She just knows...

I was worried about similar judgement from my T and I flat out told her. She said that she's not here to judge me but to remove my burdens from my shoulders. She's there to help. I'm sure your T has heard all kinds of things. This probably isn't the first time she's encountered something...

You were manipulated and abused by someone. It's not your fault. They twisted your feelings to their own ends. It will take time but Talking about it helps. But the fault is theirs, not yours.

In many things. Too many things. It's really sad in some ways. My guess is he is talking to you that way because he doesn't he doesn't see what he did is wrong and doesn't consider the people he hurt as victims therefore he can't see you as one. Just spitballing.

Thanks. I think it will be a good thing.

That's what I figured. Those incidents were when I was a minor and only lasted a few years. Nothing sexual or anything with me as a child and adults. Except there was incidents with my siblings but no adult was involved and no one was over 12. I was/am afraid talking about it will get it us in...

I start therapy tomorrow and I'm scared. i don't know where to start, if the T leads you or lets you start. I have incidents from almost 25 years ago to 7 years ago. All affected me in different ways, some due to age. Some of them are pretty scary but I really don't want to go anywhere...

It's a weird situation. it probably won't come up for a while in therapy but I'm really not sure how to proceed. It was really kids just being kids and no adults were there. No one 'made' them do it. The adults kept it quiet after. The oldest was under 13. It's that chestnut of is child...

One of my incidents involves child on child (under 10) and I really need to mention it as it is a precursor to one of my trauma encounters ( parent's discipline afterward) but I don't want the people to wind up on the sex offender registry.

:) I did finally enroll them in daycare. I think it will do all of us good. The littlest only goes 3x a week but that's 3 days I'm without kids. As much as I hate to do it. The benefits for all of us make it worth it. They only go until 3pm. After a bit I may figure out something to do...

His mom isn't an option as she didn't want my husband when he was a baby so she's not really in the picture, certainly not enough I'd leave them there.

I can't talk to my husband's family because they all feel it's women's work to raise the kids, while Dad makes the money. they don't feel I should need help or even ask. They told me so when I was pregnant. They won't watch the kids more than during the day, and not both. The grandmother has...

I least I don't feel it is.

Sounds good to me. Even a day would be nice. I have friends I'd like visit without one or more kids tugging at me, begging for my attention. The oldest, in my mind is very needy. Unless you are physically touching him or within arms reach, he acts out. I figure it comes from all the time...

I was abused as a kid and exposed to violence and threats of violence. It really messed me up ( why I'm here in the first place:(:cry:) . I have two kids and I love them but I'm relapsing. My problem is , my husband cannot/ refuses to handle the kids more than 20mins-2hrs at a time. He made...

All of this is so my mother. She's not a bad person. I'd like to believe that, but her thoughts and behaviors are not that of a normal human being. I wish we got along better, that we were close. So does she, but blames me for it. Like I hate her for no reason. I don't hate her but after...

I'm glad I'm not the only one. This happens to be a lot.

Yes, I do. My husband works nights and sometimes I just hate sleeping alone. :(:sorry:

Thanks. The first abuse was familial, the assault was my employer and then my ex. I do like to play video games. It became my outlet. But my family is really judgemental and doesn't necessarily find it appropriate at my age. So that's why I'm embarrassed. I guess I expect others to be too...

I'm not sure where to put this. I feel like apologizing but I'm also questioning if that's a normal feeling or response but...anyhow... I find myself still interested in playing with toys a 9-10 year old girl would want to own. I mean not just collect to reminisce but actually full on play...

I ALL THE TIME. For me, it sucks. I end up taking crap until I want to explode but I don't want to say anything when I deem it mild because they might consider it whining ( losing respect) . It's bad enough I'm afraid to speak up in certain situations that are dangerous and I've wound up...

Yup same here. I can relate to much of this, and other replies. It seems to be a common thread.

Well, you're taking the right first step. I can't tell you how long it will take to feel 'normal' or 'functional' again. Some it takes years. Not what you want to hear, I know. Try some way to continue your therapy. See if you are eligible for some that covers therapy. You also may have to...

That was my thought. I was going to start with the first ocurance of abuse and work my way back. But I'm nervous.

Wow, that's terrible. This lady says it right upfront that she does it. I'm just not sure where to start. Mine is fairly complex.