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I understand... You're not alone.

As an ex-supporter, I was always advised to give him space and just wait. To remind him I'm hear, but don't fight it. He's been isolating for over 5 months now. I would have fought it if I knew how and I didn't feel it would make him worse. I still love him, but don't know what to do. We live in...

I understand. There are days I feel I am finally accepting and letting go. Then, have days where I fight so hard not to text him. And days that I don't win that fight. I seem to break down and text him every 3 weeks or so. And, of course, that's followed by the silence. Sometimes it cuts all...

I used to think my ex-suffered was "just kind of inconsiderate at times". But it wasn't really that, he was just so in his own head, he couldn't or just didn't think about me. As supporters, we sometimes really want to be supported. We want the norm sometimes, but that doesn't mean we don't...

Jen, very similar situation as mine. Mine, at times, didn't like crowds, but no angry outbursts, no nightmares, but avoidance and isolating and depression episodes. I do not know if I was an actual trigger for him, but I know being in a relationship was. I'm having a hard time letting go...

Same situation, minus an actual break-up. He just cut me out of his life. Lack of closure has made it so much worse than other break-ups. So, I understand, but we have no choise, but to move on. Honestly, do not know how I will ever trust a man again. For me it was already an issue and this has...

I am not sure what to tell you because it will probably seem negative to you. But, based only on my experience, your guy sounds a lot like my ex. The only reassurance you will probably get is in very small ways, he initiates a hug or holding hands or a smile. They usually do not like to discuss...

I'd like to say good, but it's a process. Still no contact. It's really hard getting over a broken heart when there is no closure. But, working on getting past it. One day at a time.

I can feel your pain. I understand it. I believe he cares about you, but, I have to say, he doesn't seem ready. You have given him time, support, and love. You have compromised what you want and need. I've been there. I'm sorry, but it just sounds like he isn't capable if making you any kind of...

I am so sorry someone has betrayed your trust in them. I have issues being able to trust anyone, I know how hard that is. I understand how much it hurts when someone else does not respect the value of your trust. I hope it gets better for you. My heart hurts for you. Why do we always blame...

I have never not had some sence of closure before, it makes it all so much harder. The disrespect hurts a lot and he was always so respectful - it's hard to wrap my brain around it. But, yes, slowly getting easier. Thank you. Hope things get better for us both soon.

Thank you for that. I appreciate it. I've decided not to do anything. I can't do anything to help him and he obviously no longer cares what happens to me, so I need to just find a way to stop the worrying.

I may reach out to his sister, but won't tell her about the PTSD.

My question was from consern. I don't want to hurt him, that's why I asked it. Yes, he betrayed my trust, that does not mean I want to betray his. I just worry. This was not a few week relationship, he was my best friend. I don't want to cling to him and I don't want to hurt anyone.

Some of you know my story, with someone who has had some treatment for PTD for almost 3 years. He was well managed for most of our time together, but still had occasional depression and numbing. He did isolated periodically, but he would respond to texts every few days when it happened. He...

I feel exactly the same way Sftbll. I've said the exact same things. And I'm trying desperately to stop having that grain of hope. The hope makes it so much harder. Honestly, i don't see how I could ever trust him again if he did come back into my life, but I still love him. I can't make myself...

Mine started isolating 5 months ago after 2.5 years. I haven't heard a thing for 3.5 months now. No explanation, just stopped communicating. The desire to hold on is very strong. But, everyone says the healthy thing is to stop trying to apply logic to it and move on. It's extremely painful, but...

I'm so sorry for your pain. I understand the abandonment and hard that is to deal with as I'm still trying myself. Hope things get brighter.

Thank you. No offense taken at all. I appreciate all of the input.

Thank you

I have never heard of that. I appreciate you letting me know, I will look it up. Thanks.

I'm sorry, I did read one post on it (not yours), but it got so off topic I posted my question. Ill research more first in the future.

Does anyone have any experience with, or knowledge of, or opinion on Neurofeedback training for long term PTSD symptoms? The study I read says it shows drastic improvement, especially in regards to depression. Just curious if anyone has any real life experience with it. Thank you for any input.

My only advice, as a previous supporter, is to try to explain. Communicate as much as you can. He may not fully understand, but every word will get him closer to grasping it. Supporters are often scared to "push" their loved one to talk about it. Don't downplay, trust him to hear it. Wishing...

Welcome. This forum is a great resource. I wish you the best!