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So how has your “research” been coming along? I have made a lot of progress in the past 2 years! I am so happy that you discovered the same thing I did - isolating helps me connect to my feelings quicker and easier than being around people.

I sort of do the same thing except that I take care of elderly people so I sit around all day with them and can connect easier.

See red flags are everywhere. As adults of course we are tempted. I have come to realize that because I am disassociated I don’t have much pleasure in my life so when I would meet a nice person who likes me and I liked him I would go overboard! Most times it was an illusion that we were...

If you think you are damaged goods you are not damaged goods!!! This is something that we as Survivors need to convince ourselves of in order to survive.

A big red flag!!!

Also, ask yourself this question: would I stay with this person for 6 months w/o sex? If the answer is no then you aren’t being honest with yourself. I ask myself: “now if I had to pay for dinner tonight would I go?” If the answer is no then I have my answer he isn’t for me.

But being physics doesn’t have to mean sex! Holding hands, hugging, sleeping in the same bed, all are nice and steps towards a closer authentic relationship that lasts forever!!

Thank you!!

I agree with the observe part. Stop all the “physco babble” stuff like arguing or trying to figure out what is going on and experience it because that is what I call a “blocking” technique” I have used to keep memories at a distance. I typically will “test” the little voice to see if it is...

Aw! Start off as friend first so that you can see what you are getting - minimum of 6 months. If someone can’t be your friend w/o sex For 6 months then it is a deal breaker Clearly their motives aren’t pure. Many people seem like they are together when they are not and the last thing I need is...

For myself, I will be reading then see a person walk by...I know that person isn’t there but I see their “reflection” and I call it a “WakingFB” (as in a waking flashback). You are looking at people as if they are sitting there at the table with you? What are your projections?

Thank you! You too!

Covid has really knocked me out too!

I started having intense flashbacks about 2 years ago and I have been aware of the pain I have had to endure great emotional pain by seeing (for the first time) what really happened to me as a child. Seeing my beloved grandmother as an enabler (aka accessory) and my moms’ youngest brother as my...

I think - but don’t know - that when you get to the “full immersion” flashbacks you are resolving that particular flashback totally. There was a good thread (which was closed about a year ago) where the people said soemthing similar to this. I think all of this is good, yet frustrating! Getting...

Thank you all for responding. The somatic flashbacks seem to be increasing in terms of “volume”. So they started out at 1 and now have increased to a 3. I hope this continues.

Omg! I do the same thing and my interview by Oprah!!! And, I was watching “A star is born” and while listening to lady Gaga sing I was able to connect with an issue I had experienced “without connecting to my feelings” SUDDENLY I connected!!

I got COVID April 10th and had the first symptoms: headache, extreme diarrhea, slight fever, cough, tiredness that wouldn’t stop. Over the past months I’ve been on a cycle so it comes and goes but it doesn’t seem to end permanently- it comes and goes and then comes back again!! I’ve noticed...

I am learning a lot here! When people stand too close to me “yes I get triggered”. No one should apologize for being triggered if you are triggered there is something there you need to explore. Being disassociated I’ve noticed that everything is “magnified” as in a woman looked at me in the...

Sorry for the delay but I have been busy moving into my new home! Overall I look back at my life and see that the people who became dangerous to me showed all the telltale signs. There are plenty of safe people in this world but I didn’t have any interest in them because of my dissociation. Now...

Consult an attorney. How long hasn’t he cashed your rent checks? Many landlords in nyc will often not cash the rent checks and an attorney would tell you to mail landlord a letter saying you have put a stop hold on the checks you sent him and have deposited the monies for him in a bank account...

yup!! It is so awful to think that the guy you are dating is about to pop the question and the reality is that he breaks up with you! Leaving me baffled as to how I “missed” that!

I think I understand what you are saying. I call these “ideas” that occurred during the (original) trauma - “tapes”. They seem to be a “thought” I had when the original trauma took place and it sticks out as a very “loud voice” inside of the original traumatic event. Most times it is the first...

And while I am at it, I often have this problem with some of the responses I get from "Threads" I've started!! sorry but this will spur me onto to learning more...

WOW! ok so using your definition tell me if you think this is a trigger because in my mind it was: I grab a pack of cadbury mini eggs, i rip open the bag and flash "i see my 11th grade boyfriend G and him giving me one as a gift when i picked him UP from the store where his girlfriend worked...