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Has anyone else been blamed by their dad for their dad hitting/attacking their mum? When I went to university and started working whe I was 19, My dad's domestic violence escalated a lot towards my brothers and sister and mother. I stayed at uni but returned to my family on holidays. It was on...

I asked my therapist the same question once. I thought she explained it in this way. She said that when we go through a trauma, the stress hormones flood the brain. They stress the brain, and because the brain can't have a break from these stress chemicals, it gets damaged. She said the brain...

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I dont' see my family as a family. Sexual abuse, abandonment, emotional blackmail, emotional torturing and control, a parent lying to have a child punished IS NOT a family. A sister who emotionally blackmailed me at I time I was at uni, and has treated me terribly ever since, unless I behave all...

Warm Banana Bread and Peters icecream 75g brown sugar 75g Low GI sugar 400g mashed bananas 170g plain flour 1 egg 75g margarine Canola spray Cinnamon to taste 1 tablespoon vanilla essence 1Pre-heat oven to 180ndegrees and spray and flour a glass container 2 Combine margarine, mashed bananas...

I don't understand how one can like liking a symptom of their PTSD. They like things with their PTSD, I understand. It's usually a memory they are trying to recover. But how can one like the liking. Does that make sense? I don't like my hyperventilation for example. I'm sorry for your...

I think being an adult is working, contributing to social conversations, taking responsibility for what you say, working with all your emotions, working with your empathy, keeping on going even when it gets tough, putting good into your community to strengthen it. I think I used to do this but...

10 years of therapy. I was on a high dose of antideppressants for the first 6 years, then have been antideppressant free for 4. It is frustrating how long it takes to get better.Wish there was a blue pill. The wierdest symptom that happened to me was in the 10th year of my therapy, where I...

I would believe in your emotional response. For example, I have got back maybe 1000 of resolved memories over 10 years. Most of them only 3 seconds long. In one of these memories I recovered 10 years into therapy I couldn't tell the difference between my mum and my dad in my trauma of my attack...

In the same way you hate a toddler that cries, you parent them. You don't have to like yourself to be a friend to yourself. Who was it that taught you to hate everything about yourself? A child doesn't learn that, it is taught. I think you are stuck in a situation where you say you are not...

You don't need friends if you are a friend to yourself. I don't see that. Please be a friend to yourself and stop being hard on yourself. PTSD is real, your friends denying that doesn't matter, but you yourself denying it is what I found that hurts myself more. My husband would tell me "Don't be...

wonderful news. I had to be on meds for 5 years, they were really necessary to live, and then got enough counceling (5 years) to get off the meds. I've been off them 6 years now. You won't need to go back on them after you recover a bit. It really is a wonderful achievement. congratulations. You...

I was discussing this with my psychologist in my last session. She said when you are ready to start socialising and heal from past hurts, that's good. She also said you also do not have to be close to people if you don't want to. It's easy to swing the other way too and start socialising to...

I'm not a particularly good cheese sharer, but I like your post.

The therapist having seen it before is true. She would know what is going on. Reactions to particular ideas and words is how the therapist tries to learn what is going on with you. It sounds like you have a good therapist there actually. To get that kind of response requires a good therapist...

It may be a good day for the therapist though, she may have got a lot of information.Not all is a loss. I don't think it was a failed therapy. Things can change. I have moods similar to this, this is really strong dissaocation. They reflect what I saw in my trauma. My moods started coming out...

Yes, they should be punished, for me, for the child before me, for their emotional abuse over 18 years to break me down deliberately to cause me untold damage. They won't be punished. :( Why? There is no evidence so they would not go to jail is what the police told me when I filed a report...

Thanks Junebug:) I think it will be helpful too.

My therapist told me something that sought of makes sense to me, she said they deal with emotions. There are emotions that need releasing and that is how made progress over the years with therapy. In my own experience, I would pick 5 psychologists that I would interview. If I felt a bit...

Does anyone else know anything about having an unconscious dual view of their trauma? I realised recently I had a view that was beneath my conscious that my mother behaved the same as my attacker in my attack.(1st view). I got that view because my memory laid down wrong after my trauma due to...

I can relate to hating the fleas on the dogs back too. To be honest too, I walk outside and everybody looks to me like a stick of gelignite with a flame on the end. I find it that threatening to be with people. I have worked out if I avoid talking to anyone everyone, I can go outside. It will...

I guess I am being an adult when I am not fighting over who will eat the healthy choice meal with the celery with my husband.

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I have a sister like this. (We had a 10 year age difference). I use to take care of her when my mum went out, helped raise her. Her father although living in the same house had nothing to do with her so abandoned her. He just lived there and he was violent. At 9 years old, she was the most...