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@Sweetpea76 It's just so weird bc literally 1 day he was fine and the next he was completely shut down. I'm aware that he was unhappy for awhile (now), but the behavior change was ridiculously fast. Sooo when he was fine (or acting fine) he never in a million years would have done this to me...

@Sweetpea76 He told me last night that he paid our att bill... This morning it still said unpaid so I called att... He lied. He didn't pay it. He is obviously lying about money which is not good. But my gut keeps telling me that other things he has been telling me are true... :/ Thoughts...

@Sweetpea76 Unfortunately he was the sole income at the time... I just got a job and don't even have my first check.

Pay* not probably treating* not train Thanks!

Also... When he says he will probably something and then lets it go what should I do? I'm having a hard time separating when I need to set boundaries and when I just need to try and understand that what he is going through and the way he is train me is not his choice...

@Sweetpea76 I'm hoping it's just sensory overload. We are currently separating bills and trying to relet our apartment. He is letting bills go late, and when I bring them up he shuts down. Do you think it's too much for him to handle or is he actually angry that I bring things up? He acts like...

@itsKismet Thank you... We generally have days where we either talk or we don't. When we talk it's great and it's all day. When we don't talk he is fairly cold and angry about it.

My (ex) fiancé and I used to be inseparable... He was so loving and kind. He has Combat PTSD with TBI, and he is going through a spell. We have been together for 3 years, and I was unaware of what was happening when he suddenly changed. We broke up due to what he is going through... Not my...

@digger Only bc we are talking abut a guy that didn't want to leave me to go work let alone over night. In one week he completely changed. So while I chose to believe and trust him... it was hard. He didn't tell me what was going on until it was too late. I had no clue, so my mind went to a...

@Mallaky Thank you. Looking back on our relationship I just know that I can't give up.

@Mallaky Thank you so much!! I have been giving him space, not asking questions continuously, and learning how to be patient. It does seem to be working. He wants to know what I'm doing, when I'm working, and how I am. He opens up every now and then. I'm willing to give it time. He is seeing a...

But you make a very good point. He watched me cry and ask questions before he told me what was going on. I think gave me the space to protect me and work on himself.

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@Mallaky He has told me before that he doesn't want to drag me through this with him. I basically said... Well I'm here and I'm going to make sure you are okay. I feel like part of his reasoning for leaving was that he was afraid of his anger. He never hurt me, but his anger scared him. Do...

I have posted a few times before about what I'm going through, but now I have a specific question. And I know everyone is different, but what do you think? My fiancé left me with weeks ago, because he couldn't handle our relationship with his PTSD. He hid it from me for awhile, and it was too...

Thank you @ihateusernames Right before we broke up he didn't want to have sex. I'm aware that he wouldn't be cheating now, but that doesn't change the fact that it was happening at the end of was was. Now he wants to have sex... saying he lays in bed at night thinking about what he wants to do...

Also... He has changed his appearance slightly? Is that common? I read all the signs of cheating, and it fits... But PTSD makes everything so different. It's on a different level... The signs could just be part of the PTSD. He grew his beard out... then shaved it bc it bothered him. He hasn't...

Okay... This is the 2nd post I have made... Feel free to read the 1st one... It tells our story. My fiancé and I were together for almost 3 years, and we lived together for most of that. I knew he had Combat PTSD with TBI, but just recently in the past month it has taken over. A number of...

@Keepingthefaith5 Thano you... My thoughts are with you as well. There have been a few times where he has perceived what I say in the wrong way... He is starting to realize it days later and he apologizes. He has never told me that today was hard for him until this morning... even after 3...

Thank you!! I really do enjoy just talking. I know there is no need to talk about the future right now. He needs to work on himself, and neither one of us have a crystal ball. He did tell me that he has never wanted to see or talk to anyone that he has ever dated after they broke up, so I feel...

@Sweetpea76 I read the link you sent about triggers versus stressors. So obviously I was stressor, and he is better around me now that we don't live together. Do you think he wants me in his life so he can learn to do seal with me as a stressor? Maybe he wants to be with me but just can't...

Thank you for your advice. His cup overflowed in such a short amount of time... Literally in a 2 Week period we went from being fine to being broken up. In the 2 weeks since we broke up he has been very talkative... Better now than he was 2 weeks ago. We talked for about 8 months before he...

@Becksknox I saw you post on some other boards... I'd love to hear what you think.

This may be a long one guys... But Plz read. I have known my (as of now) ex fiancé since high school. He liked me then and I didn't feel the same way. Little did I know he would become the love of my life... He graduated a year before me and joined the Army. He was in an infantry unit that...

We got into a fight a couple months ago. I'm not proud but I pushed him. He said that triggered stuff. A week after we moved out we actually hanged out. He said he no longer had flashbacks when he was around me. I think the pressure of having to use his emotions and affections around me when we...