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Hi grit, Some great insight in your post thanks for sharing. Just wanted to follow up on one or two things...You mentioned that the whole point of going to therapy is to realize things and how much PTSD has affected us. Yes, for me therapy has been hugely helpful in this sense in many ways. It...

Your post resonates so much with me. I find any break at all from my therapist and the 'connection' is gone after a few hours/days. I tried to explain it a few times to him but I'm not sure he 'got' what I meant. I am hugely attached to my T and think of him ALOT. I always hate the idea of him...

I have not asked about desensitization explicitly but I asked if certain things she has said or done that triggered me (and in hindsight, it would have been quite obvious that they would have done so) were on purpose. She has always said no. Yes so is there a difference between exposure...

Could it be used as a way of increasing my window of tolerance perhaps? I have been in therapy for over a year. The PTSD is from stuff that happened a long time ago.

I might need to do some more reading to be honest as I'm not totally clued up on what Desensitization really involves. I guess the question comes down to me wondering if therapists trigger clients intentionally without telling them they are doing so in the hopes of helping them to manage their...

Nothing wrong at all with wanting or needing an appointment sooner than two weeks time. A week can even be a long time for some especially if you have hit on some deep stuff. Hope you manage to get something next week and your pain begins to ease a bit.

What are peoples thoughts on the use of desensitization in therapy? I am being triggered A LOT in my therapy sometimes directly and sometimes indirectly by what my T does or doesn't say/do. When I have brought things to my Ts attention she has always been very understanding and has even...

I do have difficulty not letting other peoples moods affect me and it's not just going to stop because I realize that logically I shouldn't. In the session, I have tried to just ignore it and continue on as yes I am 99.9% sure I know it has nothing to do with me etc but I just can't seem to let...

Only you really know the real reasons you want this extra time some you may be aware of and some not. In relation to the anxiety it may in one way cause you to be avoiding dealing with in session but in another way, it may allow you to be more 'open' with him. I get a lot of in session anxiety...

I'm not really going anywhere with it per say I was just curious if others find they pick up on their therapist's mood even though many therapists try not to reveal them (or remain professional as you say) and if it brings anything up for them in therapy. I have had difficulties whereby my...

I find therapists (at least mine anyway) tries to hide her moods and does quite a good job of it. I agree logically I am aware that if someone is in a mood it is not always about me. That doesn't mean it doesn't affect me.

Does anyone here ever find they pick up on their therapist's moods? Do you bring it up if so? How do they respond?

He listens to me with his full undivided attention He is consistent He is reliable He is dependable He is professional He is caring and kind and empathetic He is gentle in his mannerisms and his voice. He makes me feel like I am all that matters during those 50 minutes He is non-judgemental He...

I've had My experience isn't the exact same as yours in that my T has always had very strict professional boundaries. Looking back, however, he did clearly encourage my attachment to him (but I'm guessing that's because it's his style of therapy). I did have the intense feelings you have for...

Yes, I was the same when I went once a week I found it very difficult. We changed to twice a week and it really helped. It's interesting how that works. Some people think twice a week for someone who is not in crisis is a bad thing! For me, it saved me a lot of pain and anxiety. It also allows...

You may very well be looking for reasons not to like this T and that is worth exploring more. It's normal to compare with previous T's but if you are nitpicking every little thing then maybe there is more too it as others have suggested. It's new and different and change is always uncomfortable...

I also believe that it's imperative that a T should be on time for appointments. All paid service professionals should IMO but particularly therapists. To me, it's not about perfectionism it's about professionalism, respect for the client and their time and also appreciating the implications...

I do this too. Always the start of sessions but recently I spent a session or two mainly talking about what I would call small talk. It bothered me as I felt like the clock and money signs were ticking with each sentence I spoke but I couldn't seem to get off the train. I was trying to think of...

Thanks @UnicornSightings . I know my T isn't the real object of 'all' of my feelings (I do feel he is for some of them though even if only a small amount) I just don't understand why some weeks I literally 'long' for him and want to be with him physically while other weeks it almost makes me...

I posted this on another site but thought I'd also post here. Does anyone else have transference for their T and experience a huge variance in the intensity if it? I'm guessing it's quite common with those who experience it as I've heard its normal for your feelings to fluctuate from week to...

Yes, you are completely correct. Apologies if my posts seemed like that's what I was saying as it was not at all. It wasn't meant that way. It was more about that none of us know the OPs full story to make these judgements and then I perhaps went too far the other way as I was angered by the...

I felt like this too with my T. Felt like what was the point when it means I was only going to experience hurt, pain and heartbreak in the end. It will hurt but leaving now will also be extremely painful and not help with your healing. Stick with it and discuss it further with your T. If you T...

It may be that you have unconscious romantic feelings that you are not yet fully aware of. It may also just be that he is worried this may be the case and therefore trying to now set boundaries that he should have set from the start and began to panic.

Not all therapists use diagnoses I don't think. Especially if the client doesn't ask for it. They may have many reasons for this but I know some therapists who don't like 'labeling' clients especially if it's not required.

I've learned so much about myself since I started therapy. When I went initially I thought my childhood hadn't actually affected me that much. I was only going for growth purposes and try not to pass any negative traits I had picked up from my childhood onto my kids....Oh how wrong I was. I've...