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Yeah, can relate and that is exactly why I am on this forum, do not want to talk to anyone that can not relate to me anyhow. Why bother with that?

Very strange, it sounds like your mom may have had some severe problems to overcome herself. Sometimes there are so many secrets in a family that often it is not found out until much later. My family was like that, I watched my sperm donor treat my brother like crap while I was there. I don't...

Can pretty much guess at it, because that is contained in my therapy, don't know when it will strike, can happen just by hearing a single word too. All I know is that it is very painful, because so many times I have no clue what is going on.

Well, I think avoidance can be rooted in many different directions. Avoidance because of undeserved shame, avoidance because of severe triggers and remembering assaults, avoidance at being embarrassed about seeking help. I used to be terribly avoiding too and extremely angry, but now that I am...

So sorry about your pain, it is understandable. I am a business owner and every penny I make really does go to necessities, it really does pay for my food and shelter only, no luxuries, very seldom. So from my point of view when I charge certain fees that I have not raised for years then I do...

Are you in a position to attain therapy? Because without therapy it is a lot tougher for sure. Be patient with yourself mostly and concentrate on how you can get better, it is a beautiful thing when a person will give you the time and patience to get better again. You will know who really cares...

Try to go to grounding videos that are also posted on Utube, those really help. Then try to go to some EMDR sessions on You Tube. Those really help me when I need to cope with this horrible condition. Hope you feel better really soon

Agreed, that does really annoy me too. There are so many dangerous situations in which a victim's life is threatened that can cause PTSD. It is very unfortunate that most interest should be directed towards soldiers. I think there needs to be much more awareness of how so many other life...

I think a lot of people are scared to help, but many have lives that might mirror yours without admitting to it. I have learned that almost all of the people I work with are in some kind of totally destructive relationships at their homes, relationships that I would have walked out of for sure...

I know where you are coming from, I tried to figure that out but recognized that since my own father groomed me as a little child that I was so early placed within an abusive environment that I could not have escaped out of it for the rest of my life. But now I am finally healthy enough to know...

I have given up hope a long time ago that predators will be stopped. The best defense is an early offense. It is painful to eliminate want to be predators out of my path, they attempt to punish me for eliminating them before they even get the chance to get too close. But that is better than...

Holy cow, once your mom says that to you she is not your mom anymore as far as I am concerned. I am still grappling with the death of my mother and my father's desperate attempts to take over my life. My family life was very strange, I was thrown in between an abusive dad, and a reactive mom...

So sorry for your pain, these headaches that accompany this condition are horrific. I hate them, but I can look through the tunnel now because I know that suffering leads to recognition and recognition leads to healing, all powerful tools that I am being given from a person that truly...

Well, I know that the negative thoughts in my life stem from predators who attempted to force me into situations that I was not comfortable with. Therapy shows me that such negative thoughts have to be explored, and then I understand more why these negative thoughts are there in the first place...

Don't worry, that is normal. That is definitely PTSD. I have more intelligence than 99 percent of the people that I have to deal with every day. But when I am going through intense therapy or I am being violated by others then the intelligence can not break through, then your brain is not able...

You are in a tunnel of pain and that is normal. That is horrible of what happened to you. I don't think it is right to place the responsibility on victims for their behavior if they get abused. Even my own son is doing that. In a normal world we should be able to trust that people will do the...

I think human trafficking is experienced so commonly these days by guys attempting to fix their "property" up with others. Such behaviors surely show the horrible decline of our society. Any victims of such crimes I have sympathy for, however there is a difference between people that are truly...

Welcome to my world, your words resonate strongly with me. I couldn't stand up or the dizziness hit hard and I fell once because of it. I sit and tried to fight it and lost. Yes, that dizziness is debilitating and it really shows how destructive this condition is, also get the flu like symptoms...

Are members in this forum interested in discussing US politics and the ramifications of politician's behaviors after elections as well as the NATO standings within the European countries and how the middle eastern political scene may affect all of these happenings? I would love to discuss all...

Keep on singing black bird, I like your tune. I have learned similar facts within the last couple of weeks. To un-brainwash your mind is a tremendous task, daunting for sure. I have been brainwashed by my dad, and one of his most destructive messages to me was that women are made for the...

The Soloist, great acting, reminds me of the traits that many autistic people have. The person in that movie has a lot of my traits.... Other than that I love nature documentaries, history, and I am currently searching for higher intellect entertainment. Because most of my peers operate way...

Your horrible abuse pains all of us, the one thing that I stay away from is other females, due to such facts. Because to live within their psyche makes me sick. Thankfully I gain more and more knowledge about their ridiculous lies every day because they allow me to see them for the loosers they...

Yes, that is one danger that you will be retraumatized. That is such a difficult issue and everyone would have to decide for themselves which is right for them. I would love to take my abusers to court, but then that would take time away from my healing. But I have the advantage of the care of...

Nope, have gotten no healing in that area. My dad was abusive and my mother had to totally submit in order to just survive. So many parenting choices were lost in childhood. What I have found is that I have often entrusted in others who show those kind of qualities, fatherly or motherly traits...

Members here are all in pain, and all of our lives are precious in so many ways. I would rather talk to innocent victims all day long than to any of the liars that I have to deal with on a daily basis. What I would like to instill into you is this: when a victim gives up the predator has won. Do...