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Thanks Laydee <3! I guess I will just not reply, but she pressurises me so much to see her - i feel like I need to give her some kind of reason or at least assert myself and make a case for it? But I can see it's going to be really hard.

Thanks everyone - you are so right! For a long time i have known what a negative influence they are having on me - on my wellbeing, happiness, self-esteem. I come away feeling so shit every time, and the main reason I still go is because I feel bad about not going and feel bad it would hurt...

Bloody hell, sorry guys - guess we all have awful family >.<. **sending virtual hugs to you all**. At least we aren't like them, is all I can say - some small consolation :/.

Hello everyone! Happy holidays and all that :) ;). I've just got back from a draining few days with my toxic family. Critical, abusive dad who jumps on and berates everyone for everything they say and do, selfish, controlling, over-dramatic mother who pushed me (or manipulated me) in to...

Yeah, I totally couldn't watch America Horror story!! Might try this show!

Iris, I've done a lot of reading on the abusive mindset, and it doesn't seem to me like you are demonstrating that. An abuser feels justified and entitled and blames the whole world for all their internal issues, external problems, and their own bad behaviour; that doesn't seem like you. Yes...

Hello @Mr. Anonymous, it mostly helps me to put it into perspective, find the flaws in my thinking, gain command over and insight into my own story. Writing it out somehow leads you to perceive and form new connections and meanings for some reason, it's very helpful. That's not much to it, it's...

Hello, I'm so sorry for what you are going through, it sounds so hard. Feeling helpless and hopless and then having layers of anxiety and depression on top, really sucks - it's such a hard place to be in. I have GAD as well, and sometimes I can be symptom free from my PTSD (or near enough)...

I don't think most people are thankful for their experience of trauma. What do you think I'm talking about?

I don't think you could say the same thing about 99% of traumas. I don't endorse the view that we should be thankful for our traumas, just because I am recounting what he said and his opinion of it. As a survivor of sexual abuse, I certainly don't feel thankful for it. I'm just talking about...

Which approach is he using :)? Out of curiosity. Both my Somatic Experiencing therapists say something like this. One smiled when I asked him if he thought PTSD could be healed/I could see an end to symptoms and I recounted the expert opinion it wasn't curable, he smiled and said I was reading...

I actually find that Somatic Experiencing enables me to be able to rationalise and work through things, as my nervous system isn't super triggered. Normally with CBT, it's like I have to keep telling myself something or trying to rationalise something, but all my emotions are screaming something...

I hope you don't feel invalidated by my opinion on this, but is not all part of C-PTSD? The low self-esteem like you should just suck it up and get over it, that was the mentality caused by your abuse. And maybe some sense of pushing away how bad it actually was, compared to a healthy family...

I know this is an old thread, but just wanted to send you a big hug! I hope you got into the treatment program that you wanted to.

Hello, I haven't experience this exactly but I've also laughed and cried before. Normally I laugh after crying, because something inside of me seems to say "this is so ridiculous that this happened to me I almost can't believe it" lol! My sister also said she has had this. I feel like for me it...

Life is hard to manage in a downturn, but with the right therapeutic help and some good self-management techniques, you come back up again and you start to recognise yourself. I struggled so much to work, to leave the house, to even eat and sleep when I was in a rough place!! Slowly I dragged...

Hey Daisy :), yeah I used to get so, so triggered all the time. Dreams are a way of working through things, it sucks to have unpleasant dreams but I think it's the mind working through things... interestingly they think EMDR somehow connects to how we process dreams and it's meant to be very...

You're not giving up, you're just giving yourself a rest. Your PTSD doesn't define you and we always come back from the bad times. I know that it can seem so hopeless and like it destroys the future, when you're in a downward turn - but we've been down before and have come back up. In my down...

Hi Daisy, Absolutely there is hope!! All I wish is that i could go back and put myself into therapy right away and invest everything into recovery. Ensuring I do practical things and paying for a therapist, that is what has really helped. In the past I stagnated, just trying to find a...

Interesting :)! I agree! And it's why I think Somatic Experiencing is such an effective treatment for trauma or PTSD, as it allows you to complete the loop - to use up that flood of hormones or energies to their full degree, as was intended for you to do by your body in the traumatic situation...

Hey sweetheart ^_^! It takes SO much to leave an abusive relationship, with the intensity of trauma bonds and the pain, fear and confusion these situations cause, it can be so hard to leave. It took me a year to disentangle myself and find a new place, it's really f*cking hard, so I understand...

Thank you so much, that was a great reply! Very thoughtful and eloquent! Thank you :)! Best wishes!

Hi everyone :)! What are your experiences with meditation? And what are your opinions on it? I've read conflicting information and know that sometimes meditation can push people far too deeply into traumatic material that they are not ready to face/shouldn't face without a therapist. I'm...

Hi BoN-bOn, sorry to hear about things with your sisters. Do you have any hobbies that you enjoy? The website Meet Up is a good place to meet new people who share interests :). I've recently joined a dance class and a meditation class and I find they are good ways to meet people, I also have...

Thank you :)!!