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And the rule is where you go 30 days of not answering texts or calls and totally ignore him. I don't think it's right since he can only trust me with his emotions and his different emotions. While with friends he can ignore it all so it may build and then release. He's always apologetic and...

So I should just continue to wait in him to text or call and continue to be patient. He had a super angry week last week and had a long weekend on flights to think it thru and has been very kind this week and has asked to come over the last 3 nights. I wait for his contact first as I don't want...

Why would my sufferer say he "needs space" yet text and call daily?

So my USAF PTSD sufferer went into his shut down mode, not so much isolation mode, because we haven't gone a day without texting or talking or both, since March. His cup overflowed and March has always been a bad month for him. I got him to agree to go to therapy which no one else has ever...

Yes in that you don't want to escalate it, no in that it's unacceptable behavior you need to shield your children from at all costs. Why are you willing to subject your children to such behavior? I don't understand that. My children love him and adore and receive love him after they went thru...

At the point he's at now I can tell he is slowly coming out of it. Asking me reassuring questions to know I'll always be there for him. Last year I write him a long letter about our whole relationship and told him I needed to heal and I would contact him when I was ready. That was a Thursday. He...

I'm praying a lot and all I hear spoken to me is patience and this is the toughest lesson I've even learned.

When we are together and everything is perfect. My children adore him and he is never ugly to me or them. His episodes hit when we are apart. They've never been like this when we are together. He Nagy ask me to lay with him while cries but in way is he a threat to my children. They don't even...

Do not doubt yourself @Neverthesame yoy perfectly made it make sense to me! So back to patience and only letting him contact me, which is daily and constantly when he wakes up until he goes to bed. Thank you for this. He has also tried to articulate it to me but then ends up shutting down or...

So I orinslly posted in March when I was in the deepest pits of hell from depression bc my fiancé took off to get a job in Austin and a place for to have our little blended family move to when my children finished school. Less than a week in his cup overflowed and he broke it off and shut down...

I even told him to send the ring back, because I shipped it to him and my friend was the jeweler and she understands and will have no problem, but he refuses to do so and that also gives me hope.

I have lived with my boyfriend and since I was the only one he ever opened up to about it, I found it easier to help him and take him to counseling. Now however, he moved back to Austin in March to set up a life for us there, 2 days after giving me an engagement ring. Once he got there his cup...

@Pencil Thank you. I reassure him daily that I'm always here no matter what. Despite all the pain he has caused me (which I would never tell him) but that for now I needed to step back. He has continued to call and text since then. I'll always be there but I won't reach out to him first. The...

@Pencil, with all due respect, I am not codependent in our relationship. Except for his PTSD episodes which are few but severe we have a very healthy relationship. But thank you for your opinion. And in any healthy relationship there is give and take over time, however that doesn't make one co...

@Penci, sorry. I mean he abandoned me when he isolated from me but calls an texts daily. Through some other issues I told him I needed my space, to be done with the situation for my health. I felt like I deserted him while he is sick and I felt quilt about that. A friend pointed out he is the...

@Sighs thank you very much. Makes so much sense. I'm just too depressed myself to see it clearly.

I'm in this same thing now and he is constantly coming to me for support but very quick to remind me we aren't together. He finally admitted he needed help and is seeking it. It was too much this time and I broke it off. I told him I needed space to heal. A dear friend jus,t explained as I was...

So he abandoned me and I shouldn't feel guilt?

Thank you all!!! A good friend just pointed out that I didn't dessert him, he deserted me and she's right. I have to let go of the guilt.

Can anyone answer why the supporters, in my case, I'm the girlfriend, always get pushed so far away and then the sufferer is always with shallow friendships. I'm the only one he's shared his events with and the only one that's been there to help him but when the going gets tough, BAM, I'm gone...

So I posted awhile back about my boyfriend going into a bad PTSD. Episode right after he moved away to begin our new life. It has taken such a toll on me I've been in bed for 2 weeks straight and I've been unable to function for myself much less my children. Now I'm frantic and feel like I've...

@desiderata310 Thank you. I just try to be consistent always.

@desiderata310 What you describe sounds dead on. The more I forgive and try to understand he gets upset. What do I do? I don't want to push him away, but want him to know that I love all of his broken parts unconditionally.

Thank you @Santa_Laurie as always.

Thank you @Santa_Laurie!!! You're always a blessing. I think this is similar to the stage last year where his feelings for me flood back back he doesn't want me to suffer in his private hell. I try my best to not push but I remind him that I love him despite all the broken pieces just as he...