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After crunching the numbers I realize that I cannot pay for a storage unit here while saving to get my things out of storage back home and bring them here. That means this crazy-making cluttered tiny house is going to stay this way indefinitely.

Some other things that might help are using a natural shampoo specific for fine/thin hair, not brushing or styling wet hair, not sleeping with wet hair, sleeping on a silk pillowcase (which pulls less on hair than cotton or poly), don't always pull it back in the same spot, don't wash with hot...

You are an inspiration. Well done!

It does leave a hole, which is one kind of price, but the price to remain in contact was much higher. Knowing that makes the hole that it leaves a little easier to live with, as does the resulting self-respect.

It depends on who they are. With some you minimize and manage the contact, with others you have to let them go entirely. I confronted my parents one last time but I prepared for it for a very long time in therapy. I wrote and rewrote and rewrote what I wanted to ask and say. The therapist and I...

It's been almost 20 years, this isn't new. For me impoverishment was easier at first and it gets harder and harder over time. After all, in the beginning you still have a "cushion" left from when you were comfortable. Maybe you've lost your monthly salary but you still have bank accounts...

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Nights are grueling for me, too. What sometimes helps is books of lighthearted or whimsical newspaper comic strip collections: Peanuts, Marmaduke, Garfield, The Far Side, B.C... those might be before your time but you can look them up and get an idea. Look for strips that are not overly...

I've heard really good things about that.

Our neighbors like to burn crap in fire pits when the weather gets cold. They burn all kind of toxic crap, not wood. All the smoke is drawn into our little house and fills it up. It's like having a smoker sitting next to me which sucks for my asthma - and my throat, and my nose and eyes. One of...

@Link Removed - is there someplace you can go or something you can do to regroup and get your feet back under you? Conferences can be relentless even when there aren't people problems. Can you take a long hot shower, order a pizza and spend a some "down" time alone in your room with the door...

A friend from high school was an MP in the army and when she got out it was a relatively easy transition to go into civilian policing, so that is one reason. She's a CHP officer. She likes making a difference, even if it's only one person at a time. Every drunk driver she puts in jail means...

Interesting. I find being poor far more stressful than having money.

Basin

If you're unable to say anything can you write down what you want to say?

Maybe take a nice tote bag instead of a suitcase? I don't see any problem with that!

I'm curious to know if anyone here is living on resources totaling <US$11,670/year, without the means to add to that, ever? That was what I meant by "below the federal poverty line," if it wasn't clear. No other income, no house, no vehicles, no pension, no passive income stream, no spousal...

Pianos can be very healing, they facilitate a lot of emotional expression. I miss mine so much. It is far away in storage and hard to be without.

I think that's inevitable once a word or phrase gets into the general population. It's frustrating but remember that their misuse doesn't change what you have experienced and are dealing with.

You're braver than I am, Kefira. I haven't had one in years. I take a stuffed animal with me to the dentist sometimes, if that helps.

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Satisfied but also missing all of my animal friends today.

The assumptions made were the problem. I don't appreciate the derailing of an otherwise productive thread and I'm not going to address this again.

Have you been evaluated by a physical therapist yet? They offer movement therapies as opposed to medication. They might be able to show you some exercises that are safe to do with rectocele.

@SheilaKathy - what about yourself? Not how other perceive you. Surely you've changed, yes? How do you reconcile the "before" you with the "now" you, within yourself? @DharmaGirl - do you maintain relationships with any of your peers from "before?"