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Your not being selfish. It's in our human nature to defend ourselves when we have been hurt. I oray that's the reason my fiance is not here. I'm hoping she still loves me and just wants to see me get better for me so maybe one day we can work on things and rebuilding.

In what way are my expectations unrealistic? I'm going to group therapy. I'm going to one on one therapy. I'm on here several hrs a a day to see other people's problems and relate them to mine so I can learn not just from my mistakes but others. Seeing other people's problems helps me identify...

I just got done with my therapy right now. Dr. Is very pleased with how I'm improving. A lot of it has to do with the this site. However this was PTSD not just combat PTSD but from ky childhood as well. This could be her mindset now but you can get help to see if that can one day change

He needs to be in therapy! You both need to be in therapy. Hes nevet going to get better if he doesn't get help. Its likr the opposite of wine. Wine gets better after time. PTSD gets worse. Trust me I know. I've lost everything cause of this PTSD! I'm getting much better and the help from my...

I'm terribly sorry you have to go through the pain and anger you're feeling right. Sometimes walking away is the only way. If your partner doesn't want to see that what he is doing and how he is acting is PTSD then you need to walk away and let him either suffer or find it on its own. I know I...

I have backed off a lot.. I am focusing on me and my process to get better. I never said I'm a completely changed man. I know I know I still have lots to learn. My concern here isn't my healing process I just don't know or understand why she wouldn't want to see me get better knowing that there...

Lost again do you or someone you know have PTSD?

I'm not blowing her up with texts and emails. Just having faith. I love her and I'm going to do right as if we were together

You're absolutely right. However I KNOW I can manage my triggers. I have the focus and the heart of love for my family. I have all the motivation to do what's right for me and for the woman I love. I have been to 2 group classes and more to come 3 therapist counseling I have another one...

Lost again I think you need to find yourself. Cause words like unlikely promises are pretty rough considering A. You don't know me and B. Realizing your problem. PTSD is no joke and it can make a person do awful things. I'm not proud of what I did but I know the passion I have for her and love...

Unrealistic is for those who don't care and open themselves up to situations that can cause pain. But I was once a damn good man. I know with the PTSD being gone that Iwil l never hurt her as long as I live. She makes me happy its time I repay the favor. My heart and mind are focused on what's...

Its a good book. It basically tells how to fix things that you are struggling on. For example how you discipline your kids. Or how you feel the need tp lie to get out an isolated situation. and how to control your anger... my next plan is to get better. Continue my therapy and group classes...

I'm trying to do my best.

I guess I forgot to mention we lost the baby after 7 1/2 weeks. :'( hopefully your right. I guess I'll back off her for atleast a couple weeks or a month. I just want to be with her for Valentine's day. That's right when i fell for her last year.

See my problem is that she doesn't want to try. She doesn't want anything. She doesn't want the flower. I still take it and she takes itbut ssays not to. I'm so confused. Parts of me want to stop but then parts don't. And the only reason I would stop us so I don't drive her away more. I don't...

I take her 1 rose every day. I drop it off and leave is that to much?

Can I ask in personal question? You don't have to answer if you don't want to. Were you two still intimate during your friendship time?

Thank you. Ill see if maybe she's up for that.

I swear you sound just like her. Almost think you are. Jk

That sounds a lot like me. When my ex would want to talk about her feelings I'd crack jokes amd call her a cry baby. He still has a lot to learn and for both of your sakes I hope he does so the twp of you can be happy. Keep showing him your there though.

Maybe you're right. I'm not trying to use PTSD as my way out. Its just really hard because that's where the source is. And not that I don't love and care for her. Cause I do I truly truly do... :(

Maybe you should call him. When we as people with PTSD are suffering from it, those are the times we need people and loved ones most. You can't abandon him. Help him. I wish my ex stayed to help me.

And thank you for the responses.

And when I say support me I mean support me NOW KNOWING there is an issue. A disability if you will. PTSD takes over your mind makes you feel powerless. I've read so much articles on it and what it does. I have a book "courage after the fire" in that book it explains how all these things I did...

I know its not a get out of jail free card. And I don't expect her to just jump back in my arms. In fact I told her I don't want that right now. I want to continue working on ourselves yet at the same time each other. I want her to just watch amd see if she sees the difference in me after time...