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Well, I have PTSD. Probably both my parents do (my dad has said he does, on ONE occasion when he used it as a control tactic) but none of this is ever discussed. My mom was the principal abuser, and my brother. My mom was sexually abused by her father (dad told me this when I was in my 30's)...

Sounds a leeeeetle bit like my family dynamic, my dad abused by my mom (as well as me and my brother). My brother an abuser to me. My mom had a horror story of her own, but she never really TRIED to get help. I know in a sense she was always doing the best she could, but that's no excuse for me...

Cling to the little, good things. Welcome :)

I just avoid my family. Slightly different dynamic, but no one is ever at peace with each other. Or with themselves. I don't believe in saying "I can't": so I'll say it this way, the only way you can fix them is to let go of it all and work on yourself. It doesn't mean you have to cut off all...

Had a bad panic attack on Saturday because of my neighbor's loud sound system, and still worried it will happen again. BUT somehow being able to let go a little of the fear... my friend helped me out with it. TY 😚😚😚 universe for giving me someone who I could lean on.

You'll get there!

Yes, if you are focused on craving intimacy, you are sending out and attracting someone to respond to neediness. I struggle with this a lot, but I've learned, and am still learning, to be okay being single. To just hang out with my girlfriends and be silly. I still want a partner but I'm not...

Eating a really yummy omelette, that I made myself (and is so healthy!)

Hi Mr. Canis, Welcome to the site. I somewhat understand how your line of work can be traumatic... as I have worked in a similar field. Especially in the face of powerlessness and for those of us who are porous and absorb easily. Sorry you had to leave your career, but hopefully that has all...

Feel better.

Hi Barb, Nice to meet you. Sounds like a really difficult situation. Are you able to do anything for yourself that brings you joy?

To clarify: letting go of logical thinking.

Hi, I hope you are okay. Are you? lmk.

I was recently in a position I hated... with no clear way out. I am making my own way, and it is gradually building. The money will soon come; I am okay for today. It's day by day, and trust. Letting go of the big picture and logical thinking helped me.

Hi Lilly_76, I have struggled with much of what you mention. I also know that the simplicity given to me by therapists has been maddening at times and at other times comforting. You will find your way: and I agree you can change your beliefs. It's easier to see change on something you don't...

Just that it's Friday and 5 p.m., even if I can't tear myself from my computer yet.

These count ! The little things are the big things.

Maybe the reason you can't get through to your father is your father. Not you. I hope you are in a safe place; and I mean safety in all forms. I've spent a decade or two trying to present evidence to my parents, and reason with them. FWIW, it got me no where. In the short term, anyway, but I...

You cannot control your husband. You cannot make him stop. You can only remove yourself and your children from that situation to protect them. I Don't think anyone's intention is to shame you. That may be what you feel, naturally, after we are calling it like we see it. Having PTSD or any...

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Hello HeartySoup, I'm really happy that you have solid family support in this: people who it seems aren't pushing you one way or another. COVID was so hard for a lot of people; it brought out, or exacerbated, issues that maybe we thought weren't there anymore. I like soup too, and look...

This weekend... dancing every day. I used to get Panic attacks about dancing when I was younger, for many years. Now, look at me! I got a lot of compliments too :)

Beautiful post. Echo "journal like a mother f*cker." And immerse yourself in positive or acceptance affirmations and literature/community that makes you feel good. You don't have to analyze too much, if something makes you feel good, follow it.

We believe you. When crazy things happen, confusion follows. There is no normal, or even "appropriate" way to react to some things.

Hi Sunny Arnold, I don't know what to say to offer support: relationships are so complicated, aren't they? What makes you feel good that you can still do?