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I take lots of dance / workout classes and it's a great place to meet good people. Even if I only see them at the studio. Although some have branched out beyond into regular outings. It's saved my life.

Journaling is the oldest. Lots of writing, over time it has gotten less furious. I have done therapy, which has helped. EMDR was major. Also, a lot of failure over and over has redirected me. Long hikes alone. And kind people. Reading, self-help books, energy healing, crystals, pets (who I...

I am sorry your family was violent. Your spirit will get where it was meant to be, in this lifetime or the next. 🤗 Caroline

Good for you for taking a step to take care of yourself. Steadying support is being sent your way 💜 Caroline

Mine is never discussed, they act like it never happened. I have had my share of anger issues, and have mostly let that go (through years of various gentling exercises). It really does teach you what matters and how NOT to act.

Yes, I can relate. Decades of violence and neglect and I am still the black sheep.

So sorry this has happened to you! Therapy is effing hard enough, without people discussing you behind your back. I agree this is not okay (and may be some law violations) as well. I don't blame you for not wanting to make a big deal out of certain things, but go with your gut. You *may* be...

I see now it's self-abuse for me to keep trying to rationalize with certain people.

I get it. Different facts, same situation. I've reached the point of stopping reasoning with them (mom and dad) entirely: no telling them they are rude, etc. They will make themselves the victim of every situation and I end up churning more anger and self-abuse upon myself. I've let all that...

Agreed. You need someone to bluntly tell you this is not OK. You should want better for yourself.

I prefer the paddles.

Agreed. Find friends, even if it's not the depth of friendship you most want.

This was super helpful how you explained this :)

That is beautiful how you took care of yourself. Inspiring.

Yes, for some of us who developed PTSD early on from our caregivers we'd never know the difference...

It just happens to me, getting emotional in public. Nothing has to occur.

Yes, I eat a lot of nuts. I do eat eggs that I buy at the store, and lots of beans, tofu, tempeh. I am also flexible at certain times when not at home - each situation is different, depending how I'm feeling.

Diet is HUGE for me. I really watch my caffeine intake, hey I love coffee but it's bad for me to have it regularly. I've cut it down to usually twice a week and I find I am calmer. I substitute it with green or white tea. I also have a sweet tooth but try to consume natural sugars (e.g., honey...

Hip-focused workouts are the best 💜💜💜

Put this on my to-read list. It looks wonderful. TY 🌺

Yes, I think they work, with or without a therapist.

I think it would bother me, too, to be interrupted. I'd raise it with her and see how she responds. Good for you for writing about it here :)

Regardless of all the details and the entire situation, you can tackle this problem by telling yourself it isn't true. You ARE lovable. If you have doubts about that, explore it with a therapist and work on loving yourself. But don't put yourself in a place where people will say that to you...

I'm so glad you are venturing into this new territory! Your soul is piercing the veil. Sounds like a wonderful person.

I struggle with the same. Now that my hobbies are mostly me moving and pushing my body, the people I hang out with don't consume a lot of t.v. and are also more respectful/understanding. Change one thing, and it affects your whole life.