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We've had this cat for 7 years now. We bottle raised him from 9 days old. As a kitten, he was in the carrier a LOT, as I had to take him everywhere I went in order to feed him and care for hm. He's so affectionate and bold when it's just my husband and I involved, but he is TERRIFIED of...

The carrier will stay out on the floor in the living room with the door open for the next week. I'll also be putting canned food in there every day. The other cats are all comfortable with the carrier. Hopefully Tabibito gets more comfortable over the next week. I don't want to be torturing...

There seems to be a recurrent theme here. Towels. Must use towels. I'll let you all know if it works next week.

Thanks Mal. Ambushing might work well. I didn't think to try it, but it's definitely part of the plan for next week. For the next week, the carrier will be on the floor in the living room with the door open and each day, I'll put canned food in it. Hopefully that will entice him so he...

The towel idea is a good one. The bath... I'm thinking not. He loves to play with water, but only with his paws. Submersion, he hates.

Our other four cats are fine with the carrier and with the vet. Our oldest, Furbis, went a couple weeks ago to have some teeth pulled and get a dental cleaning. He was perfect. He loved the vet, gave her lots of head-butts and purring. And he goes in the carrier no problem.

I wish it had an opening on top. But alas, it just has the front door. The burrito idea might work, though. We'll try that next week when we try again. The carrier is out on the floor with canned food inside. He has zero interest in it, but maybe over the next week he'll change his mind?

Okay. I have a standard sized carrier. And a 23 pound cat. Said cat needs to be inside the carrier so I can take him to the vet to have a growth on his nose looked at. I tried for 30 unsuccessful minutes to get him in there before his appointment today. I finally gave up and called and...

Police DO do a lot of target training, but they are trained and ordered to shoot center mass if threatened with a gun. When a person has a gun and won't put it down, that is legally using lethal force, and lethal force warrants lethal force in turn. For an officer under stress, it is EXTREMELY...

I know how great this feels. The same thing happens to me with teaching martial arts. It's an incredible feeling to be contributing to someone's health and well-being, and to see them overcoming obstacles and excelling.

@Poofycat You are right, they are. Too cool.

I've lost days to dissociation. Lots of hours, too. It's less intense now than it was 5 years ago, but I still feel like it happens WAY too much. I hate that I drive when I'm like that, because I don't know if I'm driving safely. I also hate that I interact with people, as I don't remember...

Congratulations @Katiesue . That's such a huge accomplishment! It reminds me of when I tested for my second degree black belt back in May. I was all nervous about it, but it turned out I was well prepared and did just fine. It feels so good to set your mind to something and then accomplish...

I'm from the Midwest in the US.

Self harm was part of my life for a long time. I started when I was five, and the last time I did it was when I was 27. I've been free of it for six years now. But it is still tempting, especially when there is a lot of dissociation happening. It's so hard to resist sometimes. I try to take...

In my experience, just reading DBT manuals isn't enough. I went to weekly group meetings, filled out the work book, and had to fill out a diary that tracked my emotions and urges and behaviors as well as what methods I utilized. I went through the entire course twice. Now when I notice I'm...

Hi @Toadette Welcome to the board. I went through some pretty intense abuse, and as a teenager and young adult, I was CONSTANTLY manipulating people. The only time I felt safe was when I felt like I was in control of the people around me. Over the last 11 years of marriage, I have learned...

The only time I have ever felt like screams were being ripped from my body was when my intracranial pressure spiked due to encephalitis. It was the worst pain I've ever felt, and the screams just kept coming. I couldn't stop them. I screamed uncontrollably for five hours before they were able...

My husband and I foster kittens for a local no-kill cat rescue. We take the kittens that need to be bottle fed. We have a cat that we adopted from the humane society, and four more cats that we adopted after fostering them and raising them on bottles. My cats make life SO much better. My...

This is something you need to talk to your doctor about. He or she can help you determine the next steps to take. I second what JoeyLittle said - no alcohol while on these medications. They do not mix well at all.

Personally, I do not drink alcohol ever. My parents are both alcoholics, and I've seen the destruction that goes with excessive alcohol use. I refuse to have even a sip, for fear that I"ll like it and want more, and eventually end up in trouble with it.

You are doing a superb job of being the alpha for Hank. It sounds like you are doing exactly what he needs, and he in turn is doing exactly what YOU need. A beautiful partnership. Thank you for updating us!

I fight. I've been in traditional martial arts for 20 years, and have trained at least three days a week, every week, all year, every year, since I started. I am trained to defend myself and others, and do so effectively. As a child, would either freeze or fawn, depending on who was hurting...

I have interstitial cystitis. If I go more than a couple days without taking my medication, I have the same problem. Have you been evaluated by a doctor to look for a treatable cause? I went ten long years with the problem, until one doctor said, "Let's take a look at your bladder." After a...

My T won't see two members of the same family (or two people in a relationship) separately unless it's part of couple's therapy. For individual counseling, he will only see one person. He says that it would interfere with appropriate client-therapist bonding and trust if he were to see more...