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I agree with Springer, as well as Gizmo. I'd bet, for example, that when you pdoc decided to take you off your SSRI meds, your circumstances were particularly less stressful than they are at the moment, and likely to be in the near future. A life transition is always one of the most stressful...

I honestly believe that asking "why" too much is to get stuck in the problem. When I focus on the problem, the problem gets bigger...when I focus on the solution, the solution gets bigger. I usually find that, while I would tell myself that constantly asking "why" is just necessary to...

no...if you didn't lash out, or become melodramatic in claims intended suicide...you passed. And no...her not listening was part of provoking you..the "does this hurt? does this...?" Pdocs aren't there to be out friends..they're there to shake our cages, collectively, to listen to the rattle...

She was testing you....by not giving you what you wanted/being oppositional/argumentative...someone in the extreme range of BPD would have flied off the handle, become abusive, dramatic, and possibly violent...in other words, not have been able to accept her authority or used pro-social coping...

I'm right there with you...though I realize that's small comfort, if any. I've had to relocate in order to assist my mother, whose memory issues have begun to become more pronounced....and to a part of the country I literally couldnt get out of fast enough, when I left at 17. I feel as though...

I know from personal experience how much easier it is to recommend exercise to someone else than it is to actually do it, yourself. But the more I read, the more recommendations I read about exercise being one of the best all-around stress reducers, anxiolytics, and mood enhancers. I've been...

The difference between SSI and SSDI: SSDI is based upon your lifetime earnings...SSI, on the other hand, is only available to those who have not had a minimum level of lifetime earnings, judged by amounts paid into Social Security. In other words...if you have not had a minimum of earnings...

Hope you can find a support group for Supporters of PTSD Sufferers...even if only online. There's a Supporters resource on this site, in fact. You'd likely draw even more strength and satisfaction from the resonance you find there. But so glad you're looking for opportunities to both vent, and...

Isn't therapy glorious?!! SO straightforward!!! ...(sarcasm break). :) Anyway...I know exactly what you mean. And I think you're both right: TO whit...your therapist is trying to be one of the few..maybe only...who's expressed support and solidarity in validating your experience.... and...

I have the same thing. But I realized that it's of a different origin, actually. ...In short, I've realized that I'm bound and determined to make myself miserable...because that's what I'm used to. I'm addicted to shame, misery, etc. So much so, in fact...that I'll take over my abuser's role...

@Link Removed @franciemarnie My heroes. Thank you for your honesty.

I'd be interested to know more about this as a reaction...what you meant, exactly. You mean you disagree? I'm confused.

Yep...Yep. Yep....and Yep. Really strikes a chord with me. Just as does the reaction you received from your friend, upon voicing this sadness. It's happened to me more times than I can count. What I've had to realize is that more often than not, when people react to others--meaning me, in this...

I don't think this can be stated often enough. Thanks. Same for that. Thanks.

The human condition never ceases to amaze me. Mine, as well. How much I'd like to think that I'm "the master of my own ship"...that all of my choices are conscious and rational...rather than just another part of some repeating loop of self-fulfilling prophecies I continue to unconsciously feed...

@gizmo I agree that you're giving yourself entirely too much power over...and therefore, responsibility for...your sister...that only some "higher power" can grant mercy, in the first place. One of the things that helped me most in recovery, in general, was seeing myself as just another human...

@Solara I'm curious as to which "previous poster" this post refers. As my version of the forum shows no posts subsequent to my own, yet previous to that made by the above member, I'm forced to assume that the reference was made with regard to my previous post...despite the fact that none of...

@BehindBlueEyes My heart goes out to you. You should know, first of all, that you deserve a huge amount of credit for remaining with your fiance through such a time, in the face of seeing him "become someone different from the person you fell in love with", most especially. It speaks volumes of...

You're absolutely right. I stand corrected. In fact, I thought after posting the former that in order to be fully accurate, I would have to include the fact that I no longer find that this works as a strategy, in general--not with those under approx age 40, with "mainstream" anglo Americans...

@change "How Do You Live With an Unguarded Heart And Survive", Indeed. This definitely falls into the category of "Questions For the Ages". While I can't answer it specifically for you, and don't think anyone else can do so for any other...as these are matters without "objective" 1+1=2 kinds...

I feel your pain as well Fridayjones. Your story is astounding...it left me bitter and discouraged, and it was not even my own experience, much less my own son. I can't imagine how you're carrying on. And I certainly don't blame you for having regrets that you didn't save yourself the 80k by...

I don't think that this misplaced anger, really. Granted, even justified anger is unhealthy if it becomes a preoccupation, and sours the quality of any part of your life. But just in terms of whether it's "valid"....I think it would be very unusual for ANYONE to not feel anger at those who had...