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Thanks for your thoughts and support, that really has helped a great deal. I'll certainly take your advice. :) Good luck with your recovery too! :):hug:

I'm posting today to see if anyone has any advice about an anxiety attack. As background, I have CPTSD and DID. Well, the story of the past few days: My partner's Mum came to stay last week, which caused a lot of tension in my partner before the visit (she has a pretty dysfunctional...

Welcome to the forums, you will find a lot of support and help here. I empathise with where you're at right now, as I've been there too. My advice would be to take the time to help and heal yourself, and go slowly. I think its always wise to care for yourself first, then see how it can go with...

Thanks for your input guys, I really appreciate the advice. I can see with a lot more clarity now, and that it is something to allow and validate, for both of us. I can see that I was triggered to being really defensive as I'm still trying out and gaining confidence with self care and self...

I wanted to reach out today and ask for advice for a recent problem in my relationship, to see what you guys think, so I can get some perspective. As a background story, I have CPTSD and have been with my partner for 4 years. Last weekend my partner had her old University friends down for a few...

Thanks for sharing about your experiences, it sounds tough. I relate to the convulsions, as my body often has a lot of 'energy' in it, that comes out from the stomach and ripples through me up to the head. It can be quite dramatic and strange, but overall I feel it's a positive thing. For me...

I think this is really common, for people with trauma and difficult situations, as well as people in general. I think there is a lot of pressure out there for things to be a certain 'way', or to be 'normal'. With something so intimate and personal, who is to say what things should be like. I...

Thanks for all the comments and advice guys, I'll certainly be taking that on and giving those a go! I find it so invaluable getting the information from someone who has tried it, as when researching or reading from books, you have no idea what works and what doesn't! It's inspiring to hear of...

I'm looking for any health tips and diet advice any of you guys have picked up along your journeys. I have the basics covered and would consider my diet healthy, but I'm now on the look out for more specific, perhaps medicinal/homepathic tips. By this I mean something like, 'I found eating raw...

Thanks very much guys for all your suggestions and help. I'll try the things you've suggested and see how it goes. I'm feeling much more positive about it now too. :):hug:

Thanks for your comments. They sound like good advice. I can see that it may be obvious, or that it seems like a normal thing to do and understand, but I just struggle to grasp what the best option is. I guess the experience of asking is a bit humiliating, as it makes me feel very...

Oh, well I guess I mean 'healthy' as a balanced relationship, a functioning non-codependent one. I guess I can't really see or understand the issues she has, as I can feel its all my doing. But I recognise I don't really know how to balance a relationship. From our discussions I thought she...

Ok, so its becoming clear to me that my relationship is and can become codependent. I'm looking at ways to try and change it and better help myself, but I have to be honest...I know nothing about relationships and how a good, healthy one functions! Something happened a few hours ago that is a...

I can really empathise with your story, and agree with a lot of it too. Weirdly, I feel that I fall into both sides, and can act out both sides from time to time. I have CPTSD and 'fragmented self' Personality Disorder, and I think I can get stuck in a 'fix' mode, wanting to fix myself, my...

Thanks for those comments, they really help and have helped. I agree with them all. I can see that its a lot about how I feel about it. I can see there is a mix of needing better boundaries, and it stirring up a lot of pain in myself. I guess it highlights the places where I need to move...

I've had an 'interesting' few days with my partner and wanted to tell the story and look for any advice, reflections and suggestions from you guys out there. As background, I have CPTSD and am working well through recovery. My partner has been suffering with anxiety for quite some time, and...

Thanks for sharing. It sounds like a difficult and scary situation. My advice would be to have a think on what boundaries you have for friends and friendships. This, in an abstract way, like making your own set of guidelines. 'What would my friend be?' 'How would they behave?' 'What do I want...

Wow, what bravery to tell your story like that. Welcome, and thanks for sharing. You say its a long lonely road, but not too lonely. There are many, many great people here, with tons of advice, compassion, understanding and companionship. To write so well and fluently shows me you have great...

Thanks for sharing about the issue. I think its quite common, in many forms, not just those who disassociate. I've had problems around confidence and driving, especially when I was learning. I had a break from driving too as it just didn't feel right, but now I'm back to it. From what you've...

Thanks for sharing your feelings. I hear what you are saying, and relate. I would say it's a big struggle for all of us. I agree with concentrating on healing your trauma, as that will help a great deal. It did with me. I would also suggest to have a think about what you are really after in...

Thanks for the replies guys. Rain: I agree with what you've said and the advice you've given. It's nice to get some reassurance on it all. I'm not sure why her history triggers me. A fear of losing what I've got? Well, I have to say, my previous ex-partner complained for quite some time about...

Thanks for sharing. It sounds like a difficult situation. I can't offer much advice, but I send love, peace and encouragement your way. :hug::):hug:

I'm looking for any advice, viewpoints, similar experiences, on the following problem that my partner and I have at the moment. As a background, I have CPTSD and Disassociation, with my partner suffering from mild to acute anxiety. So, the problem is around intimacy and getting close. We can...

Thanks for sharing about this difficult situation. I would say most certainly things now trigger flashbacks, as that on the whole is how they work for me. But I'm not sure if you are wondering what you 'saw' in reality, the now, was exactly like a flashback? Something obviously happened, enough...

I can very much relate to your positive outlook and how it helped you. I did something similar too. I think it was really helpful back then, and is a really useful tool, but isn't the only tool there is. That is what I've learnt over the year anyways. I don't think being 'negative' is ever that...