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Welcome to the forum Nathan. I am so sorry you are going through this and can empathize very very much to your story and understand how hard this time is for you. Many of us here are currently going through it or have been through it multiple times. It can feel like you are very much alone in...

Hello @Annabelle. I am a supporter so I am ill equipped to offer you any advice on your struggle with PTSD but I can tell you that being in a relationship with someone who suffers from PTSD from my own experience all I ever need from my partner is acknowledgment of the situation. I don't need...

Thank you @Purplemunchkin! I think regardless of what happens to the family I will be proud of how I've behaved for her.

I've been slowly coming out of the shock and awe of his leaving and am very slowly beginning to take steps to secure my daughter and I for a life that doesn't include him. It is so so hard. I still cry everyday but I'm moving. It took me 2 months to print the child support papers and another...

Welcome to the forum Mark. The people here are very kind and there is lot of experience and information for you here from supporters and sufferers alike. I hope you are able to find what you need. Even if it's just a place to vent out your thoughts, it helps.

Welcome! The line for word vomit and emotional healing and starts here.. The line is long but we are happy to have you ;)

I get it... But I still don't get it. Why is he so damn mean and cold to ONLY me?!?! It's starting to make me believe that oh my god maybe it is me?!?! He's got everyone else convinced, why not join the parade of people who think I'm a lunatic. Ugh. We are in month 3 now operation family...

@desiderata310 no need to apologize! I wouldn't post if I wasn't looking for honest feedback and advice. I took no offense when reading any of it. So the update so far is I still have not made any moves legally. I'm just not able to at this time. Whether that is a major mistake or not is...

Came across crystal clear hahaha! I am in therapy and have avoided legal action due to emotion but I know it's what needs to happen. I can't thank you all enough for tough words and support. There were so many things I want to quote and acknowledge as "aha moments" in what you all wrote but...

Phew... Ok. I've read through the latest posts and I will do my best to respond to each of the talking points that struck a cord with me or that I have answers to. So I know this. In my logical brain I know. My emotional brain says WTF?!?!?? I fortunately allow my logical brain to rule "most"...

Thank you everyone. All VERY helpful and insightful replies. My gut tells me to push for him to get help but I feel it's a fools errand. When we speak tonight I will open with that and if I receive the cold no, I will move on to what I feel is appropriate although I'm still not sure what is...

I feel that a barely there relationship with her is worse than nothing at all but I'm honest with myself that my judgment may be clouded by my own hurt feelings. I just want to make this as easy as possible for her and I. I won't burn the house down today. Maybe tomorrow after our "chat" lol

I have considered the "you can't see her without therapy" option but I get a lot of feedback saying that is me trying to manipulate the situation. Not accepting the end of the relationship and not according he doesn't want help... On and on. I would like to clarify that I am NOT afraid for my...

So in a nutshell I'm looking for sufferers and supporters to give me their insight and guidance on how to handle an upcoming situation. Short version long term relationship, have a 3 year old together. This is our 3rd "abandonment" episode. He is an Alcoholic, PTSD from childhood sexual...

I feel THIS so often.

You will take the advice whenever your ready... We all do! At a minimum try your very best to not place blame on yourself for his words or actions. Even when you do get a little "persistent" haha. I hope your having a better day and remember tomorrow is another opportunity to do things...

Please don't beat yourself up. Everything you are doing I have done and I believe most of us supporter have. It's hard to just "move on" straight away when they do this because it is so abrupt and our brains can't make sense of it. That denial I assume is your brain just trying to play catch...

I've made that "last" stab at talking it out and reasoning with my guy as well and walked away feeling even worse. I don't think we ever get to a place where we feel there isn't SOMETHING we can say to make them see or something we can do that will snap them right out of it. Just today I...

@Wastinglight your "little annoying things" are NOT the reason as you well know. I was once given this list in no certain order "you don't sweep enough", "you always have that look" and my personal favorite "you always leave the used Splenda packets on the counter" I assume at the time these...

Last night after my pity party I decided to read my posts since I've joined the forum... It was EXACTLY the same lol. With the major exception that I remember feeling weak and desperate when I were them and I tried to compare it to now. I don't feel weak or desperate at all. Sad yes but not...

Week 5, or maybe it's 6 since he left us. Not sure. It could be 7! Being a single mother is hard. Far more difficult than I anticipated and I certainly don't recall it seeming easy! The worst of the pain I believe has passed but who hell knows anymore. I've done all the right things...

I am currently on the outs with my vet but during this time I have said to my therapist and myself multiple times that I wished I had done this very thing. If your able to make a change in order to prevent being hit by the speeding train that you KNOW is coming then who cares what others...

Many thanks! I am going to do exactly that. I will offer a different day and request more notice in the future. Therapy appointment this morning so I won't communicate back until I've seen her.... You know to ensure the message doesn't go a little something like this "F*ck you, you...

Sigh... This thread is very similar to a thread I posted a few days ago in regards to my daughters father and after reading BOTH threads I'm even more confused. I've received feedback on both sides of the spectrum on the forum and off. Some say let him see her and you can't control it and...

Ok... The mythical unicorn sent a text that he wants to see her Saturday. So here is where I am... I was instantly pissed. First we have plans to go to a mommy and me yoga class Saturday and I'm angry that his reappearance will throw off my plans to do good things with her. Second, I know...