@desiderata310 no need to apologize! I wouldn't post if I wasn't looking for honest feedback and advice. I took no offense when reading any of it.
So the update so far is I still have not made any moves legally. I'm just not able to at this time. Whether that is a major mistake or not is written in the stars but it's just how I feel at the moment.
I did however have the conversation. We had a 3rd party there albeit my mom but still a 3rd party to keep the conversation on track. It wasn't easy. I found it incredibly difficult to stick to the subject of my daughter and he appeared to find it almost impossible to not get up and leave but he didn't.
I expressed my wishes, he pushed back and in the end we settled on a plan that I'm comfortable with and gives me time to pursue things for myself.
Mon, Wed, Fri he will pick her up from daycare and he will spend the day with her on Sunday. If he does this I will be over the moon but I'm prepared for any outcome.
I realize in his state of mind he may not be able to commit long term to such an arrangement BUT it is going to give me the opportunity to be away and get it together however I need to.
I'll keep everyone posted and as always thank you for your support.
On an ultra positive note he followed through on day one (yesterday) on a strange note when I returned home he made a comment about how much different she is just after a few weeks.... I felt it best not to say it's been two months!!!
Is time distortions common in these situations? When we had the moving out episode he told me he was incredibly miserable and why hadn't I noticed he had been sleeping on the couch for a month... The next time he said it it was 3 months. When he repeats the statement now he says it was 6 months!
He had only slept on the couch about 2 weeks... Lol
