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I have kept a daily DBT diary card, which I've customized to track things I want to monitor, for over a year now. It's not so much to see if I'm "winning", but rather to watch for trends...especially if I'm spiralling down. It's also been a good record for what works and doesn't work for...

Or if you want to really freak her out: "The therapist rubs the lotion on its skin or else it gets it gets the hose again." :wideeyed:

Not an "issue" really - just a weird feeling that makes me go "hmmmm". On a scale of uncomfortable feelings in therapy, this one ranks pretty low :).

That's exactly what I did @shimmerz - not only was I going to barrel through the trauma stuff, I was going to do it perfectly. And, like you, I'm learning how to be more gentle with myself. I agree with you too @Hashi...I have found much of the "preparation" work to be immensely painful - but...

My therapist did this too...we were talking about something and I said I didn't share that with anyone and he responded "not even your therapist"? I also felt a little weird about it. Maybe because it was a direct reference to what the relationship really is? I don't know, I need to think on...

I keep getting the toe fungus one as well! Maybe it's becuase I searched for pedicures for my sister when she was visiting? It is pretty gross.

You could tell your therapist you are planning to harm your cousin...If he believes you, he's obligated to warn him :).

I very much disagree. This approach almost killed me.

You have been in my thoughts all morning @Chava. I'm glad you "uncancelled" your meeting. So much of what you've described that you're going through right now resonates with me. I actually set up an agreement with my therapist regarding cancellations that makes it very difficult for me to do...

Awesome post @BloomInWinter . I'd like to print this as well.

You are in crisis right now. If your therapist accepts calls, call her now. Personally, I've found crisis lines to be less than helpful....but if that's your only option, you may need to consider it. I don't know you, but based on your other posts this week, I suspect you have become...

You are so on the healing path by knowing this about yourself. For me, the thought of pushing through the "avoidant attachment" into trusting and connecting is scary as hell - but I also have this sense that what is beyond it is worth confronting the fear. I hope it's that way for you as well.

Ah...this resonates with me a lot. I have been reading about attachment disorders and only recently brought it up as a possible "to do" item in therapy (I think it says a lot that I brought it up with my therapist and then immediately changed the subject - look! something shiny!)....but yes, I...

I am in awe of your ability to stay on target and know exactly what this rupture is and what needs to be done to repair it. I hope I have this level of self-awareness the next time I have a rupture with my therapist. (I think I may be close - at least I would look into repairing the...

I agree with Anthony - everything is not a disorder. I think, especially when we're in therapy working on our "stuff", we get end up pathologizing everything. I lived in terror of a borderline diagnosis until my pain was so great that it really didn't matter to me what label was attached as...

I'm pretty sure I'm in a grieving space right now. I've been experiencing profound sadness (which feels very different from depression) along with 4-5 crying spells a day. I'm trusting it will ease up sometime...hopefully soon...

Wow - it sounds like you've been doing a lot! Good for you! :tup:

I read this a couple of months ago and thought it very interesting: Link Removed.

"All I know is I have been suicidal; felt like I am taking up too much space. I feel dirty and gross and just this terrible need to apologize for EVERYTHING." I know when I feel like this, everything that my therapist says sounds like he's telling me he doesn't want me around any more. And...

I would love to shut and lock the door, but kids, cats and dogs make that an impossibility. Oddly, I can't have any of my limbs hanging over the side of the bed...

A couple of people have suggested trying different forms of writing...which I think is a great idea. I make "fiber art" and when I was deeply depressed, I had absolutely no ability to create. In order to keep with it and to help self-soothe, I found a pattern for paper piecing a small piece...

Give me a "D" - D :D ! Give me a "B" - B :D! Give me a "T" - T :D! What does it spell? Skillful use of Wise Mind! :D:D:D

This has been my experience as well. It has been really really painful, but so amazingly healing. I have found, through a lot of fumbling around, that if I am angry about therapy, it's usually really about a past relationship and I am able to start with the "angry at therapy" part and dive...

I think my therapist and I have a plan in place - I just continually forget what it is and ask to be reminded. I hate the "stabilization" phase (especially because we keep having to come back to it). It makes me feel like I'm not DOING anything (and there's definitely a voice inside that...

Oh aack. This time last year, I was in the final descent of a downward spiral culminating in a suicide attempt and hospitalization in mid/late August. As cringe-worthy as it is (I missed my son's birthday and the start of school), it is a good reminder of what a very different and better place...