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I hear you. It sounds like you are in a tough place. I would not presume to suggest what you "should" (oh how I hate that word) do. Please know that your voice has been heard, and I am wishing you the best as you struggle with this decision.

I stutter and/or go blank (fish for but can't find the word I'm looking for). Then my inner critic goes ballistic on me! I'm on disability retirement now and can't imagine being able to interview for a job, let alone be hired and then actually DO the job.

I'd been working for 6 years with my former therapist. We got as far as we were going to go, I think. I've also seen my new therapist twice and already been ready to discuss things I never have before. Good for you, 7Cs.

I whole-heartedly agree!!!!!!!!

Another night, the same old nightmare. How many times/for how many years can a person have the SAME frickin' nightmare! It's like the many versions of A Christmas Carol- slight variations of the same plot. And it's been 3 decades of this! The setting is the same. The conflict is the same. The...

I respectfully disagree that sex addiction/porn addiction is "like any normal addiction." On top of the addiction itself there is a layer of betrayal of the non-addict partner and the impact on the non-addict's self-esteem (not that there aren't betrayal and self-esteem issues, but in SA/PA it...

Ok- And I had terrible nightmare/night terror last night and my breathing machine said I breathed well all night. So the PTSD can be devastating to sleep all by itself!!!

I feel the same way about the community I have found here- a big step to take, but so worth it!!! Thanks everyone!!!!

Yes, when the other person is having actual sex with someone else there is that to consider. Along with having yourself tested. FYI- many of the partners of porn addicts at reboot state they'd have left if they found out before the marriage/and or the kids. Even then, there are partners who...

Surviving is a step towards thriving. Pete Walker's book Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving is an informative and inspiring read. It's natural for the head to wonder, but listen to your heart- it is soooo worth it!!!!!

Suzetig wrote: "you don't need to blame yourself for what happened to you" to which I would add- you don't have to prove yourself to your friend, either.

Very timely post, for me. I spent the afternoon journaling about one of my traumatic situations and its affect on me. I kept blanking out on words, drifting between present and past tense, writing to myself and then my mother, switching from writing a poem to prose- I was all over the place...

You're welcome, and don't be a stranger here (aka- Keep coming back!). I just know that this is a very specific situation and that I have read many threads at that site that address what you've expressed. Like this website, they don't judge or tell you what they think you should do (Unless you...

That is so true, and a national disgrace! As a society we put our soldiers in harm's way (physical and emotional) and then expect them to return the same as they left. And when they don't we provide sub-standard care in many instances. Do you have access to any help for yourself?

I can certainly see why you are on the verge of giving up! Even if he is not having sex with other women, it sounds like he is a porn addict. And porn-induced erectile dysfunction is common in porn addicts. Not to discourage you from posting here, but there is a partner's section of the...

I don't mean to sound discouraging but I don't think this kind of thing resolves on its own. He may not be ready to seek help and get therapy yet, but have you considered getting help? My wife is in therapy and one of the issues she's addressing is my PTSD.

Dorian- you wrote: "Was it really just the mirror and nothing else? This has always bothered me because it's almost like I want it to have been more/worse for my trauma to feel valid." I understand your wanting to know more, but I don't think there's any "Just the mirror" about it. Trauma is...

Is he getting help? So many of our veterans need help and don't get it. Also, I applaud you posting here and hope you continue to, but from my experience many significant others need professional help as well. I have PTSD so I don't have much advice for the significant other, but I know my wife...

Rape is rape. Nobody's experience should be minimized. Please don't let your friend's lack of understanding and support shake your understanding of what happened to you, and the FACT that it was NOT your fault. Of course you have your emotional and physical reactions to her unkind, thoughtless...

I saw this on Dr. Phil the other day. I don't believe that man for a moment, or the wife either. I believe the foster child who says she was abused by him.

As an atheist and a Buddhist I am not offended at all- I don't think anyone here would be offended. While I have made the decision that I no longer believe there is a God (and I don't want to offend others, either!), I don't claim to certainty of knowledge of life's mysteries. I acknowledge that...

Great to know you are on step one! Sorry that you are stuck (for now).

Do you know if you snore? Many people who do have sleep apnea. Also, waking up choking/gasping can be an indication. I'm not trying to diagnose you over the Internet (and I'm not a doctor by any means),- just offering something to consider as a possible contributing factor.

While I am of a different religion than Shodokan (I'm Buddhist) I can attest to the value of spirituality in dealing with addiction. Also, I consider myself a Klonopin addict even though I do not "abuse it." I have been taking it as prescribed-never more in quantity or frequency. What makes me...

It's hard enough to find a person you like who likes you- and then we have to discover if they value the same things we do. It's a wonder love ever works out!!!!!!