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Dissociation is a coping strategy, which serves us well in many situations. I do absolutely think it is a good thing. I'm very glad I dissociated through the worst abuse and I'm glad I don't remember most of it. My brain has served me very well through all that. I talked with my T tonight...

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Congratulations, that is fantastic!!! :) :tup: :woot: I am very pleased for you too!

Hi there and welcome to the PTSD Forum :)

Hi there and welcome to the PTSD Forum :)

Hi there and welcome to the PTSD Forum :)

Wow Ms Spock, with how tough things are right now for you - well WOW! I am so so pleased for you that it went well! And you deserve that clap. I'm clapping for you too! :hug:

Thank you Abstract, haven't been yet, 3 hours to go :( Sorry you are not feeling good either, big hugs to you too ((((Abstract)))). Big hugs back for you ((((Jaret)))) - for that continuing strength :) Hugs for everyone else who needs one (((((hugs)))))

I know intellectually that I didn't deserve it, but too many years of conditioning by many people that I did deserve it, it's a struggle to accept it in my heart. Shame and guilt are hard to shake off. I know I didn't deserve it, but I've always believed everything happens for a reason, so...

Hope the surgery all goes well. Glad you are calmed and organised :)

Nervous, anxious :(. T tonight and have to tell her how badly I'm doing and I don't want to :bag:

It is okay that the teeth part made me smile? Hope it is! Yes, I feel like that too - every day - my medication makes me hungry all the time. Plus I can't drink alcohol anymore and that irritates the :poop: out of me too! Oh PTSD, you are such a joy, not!!!

You didn't do anything to deserve the abuse you had from him, at all. The abuse was about 'him' entirely, and nothing about you, or who you are. Abuse is never acceptable or justifiable. I doubt he has changed, and as Whitney said, the relationship is new, but the abuse sadly will probably...

Mine is PTSD related, definitely. I was a perfectionist and a control freak and everything was organised, in it's place, clean, tidy. Bills were paid immediately, I checked the bank account every day etc. I was super-organized in work. In fact I think I was OCD. Now, it's the opposite. It's...

Sues, I'm really sorry the TRO was denied. I know how you feel and how invalidating of your situation that is. The legal system is crap for victims. I tried to get a RO when an abuser came out of prison and immediately started harrassing me and approaching me and was told by the police as...

I put off everything until the last minute, or do things late. I used to be very organized and micro-managed everything but not anymore. For me, it is an avoidance mechansim. If I avoid it, then I don't have to be stressed about it.

I think many of us who have abusive parents have similar strengths, like resilience. We have it, because we need it. I know your situation is really hard Jaret, as you are living it every day. I am 41 now, and only just realising how abusive my parents are. You are much younger than me, but...

As forgiveness is an emotive subject, which most people here will say is not necessary, I will give the other opinion to balance this issue and say that for 'some', not 'all' - it may be something to be considered for healing. And people IMO should not say it is absolutely in every case is...

Dear Jaret, I am really glad you have so much insight into your family's abusive ways and I am so glad that you are so different to them. You are like a shining light of goodness in your family. Someone who cares and isn't selfish, nasty, abusive, or manipulative like them. You are very...

Hi there, Welcome to the PTSD Forum :) I'm sorry you went through this and your friends don't understand. I know how that feels. There are lots of lovely, understanding people here though, and it's a very supportive place. I'm glad you reached out on here :) Shellbell

Sues, I am really sorry you are having to go through this. I'm glad you are getting the TRO and I hope that goes smoothly tomorrow with the judge. I'm glad you have support at work as well. Take care of yourself and don't hesitate to phone the police if you have any further contact or issues...

Defeated. I don't have the strength for this. I want to just block it all out. I can't do therapy and be a mother/wife at the same time. It is beyond me.

I told my T that I have realised that fear is the worst part of anxiety. Fear about having the anxiety, fear that I can't control it, fear that I will embarrass myself etc. Learning to accept the anxiety will be/is there, and that it's okay and I can control it and not having that fear is the...

Hey FOOW, I started a thread on this 'Forgiveness - Is this a necessary part of true healing from abuse' back in Sept. There were many replies, if you search that, you'll see lots of good points there. It's a very emotive topic. Shellbell