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Welcome to the forum. I haven't done "anger". Maybe it's possible that you are finally comfortable in your life enough that you have let yourself feel anger about what happened and that anger is being misdirected? Just thoughts, I could be completely wrong.

Maybe this helps When I was a child my grandma noticed things and spoke to my mum. Nothing came from it (mums denial) and I'm pretty sure at the time I resented (was frightened of) my grandma saying things. As an adult I draw comfort from the fact that grandma cared enough about me to try and...

Surrounding yourself with only peoe who see "you" is a great idea. I recommend to add to that some self soothing and some grounding. There are lots of threads on that topic to help you find what works best for you. I hope you find some peace soon.

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I have snapshot images of the abuse but I also have same as you, this image of a particular room that comes with a bad feeling. I don't know what happened in there and I'm not sure I want to know.

I think laughter is a natural response to insane situations and it facilitates a level of detachment from the reality of the situation. I think that the detachment is needed to be able to function through it.

Welcome :) My 2cents...... Self care, self soothing and recognizing my stress levels rising before they get too high (and doing self care) has made a dramatic difference for me. I also had to learn to get past the guilt for "wasting time" which was how I viewed my self soothing activities...

With childhood sexual abuse, the perp does not (can not?) see the child's inner self, the child is purely a physical object to use. The child's inner state is irrelevant which ties into his comments that the child's inner world is not "real" (ie not valid). Just thoughts.

Welcome to the forum. There is great support here.

Is your family comfortable with this boundary. I think everyone has topics that upset them, not in terms of triggers, but things we don't want mentioned and everyone in my family (husband and kids) respects this. If topics have themes that can be explained, I would explain but not during the...

Reorganizing your routine to get a less busy bus. Eg, coffee in a shop before work, library visit after work. For such a long commute, maybe breaking each way up into two sections eg coffee/library vist at the halfway point.

My abuse memories are photo like images from a third person perspective. Because of this threads question I tried to think about non abuse memories and to my surprise if they are about me "doing" something (which are harder memories to recall), eg I carried something heavy yesterday....they...

Is there any particular symptom that you would want to work on. I like the phrase "small enough to manage, big enough to matter". For example my anxiety is better managed when I regularly take time out for self soothing. It took me a while to work out what is soothing for me, but I now have a...

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I found that for an emotional to be visible to me it needed to be intense. Learning to notice my emotional state early, and then self soothing early was very important. The best advice for me was to keep a diary and find the warnings that I was previously missing (boring and tedious, but...

So it's not that he prefers anger to sadness around you, it's that he gets tired of sadness? Are all his emotions at extremes. Eg sadness is sobbing and anger is aggressive? Just trying to understand so I can try and help.

Please excuse me if I'm off track. If he feels sad, but feels that "anger" is a safer emotion for him to feel around you then my goal would be to help him feel safe in sadness. His ex actively told him off for sadness. Can you comment positively on his sadness. I think the trick here would...

Welcome :) There is lots of support here.

Welcome. Friends who can't understand are everywhere, unfortunately they can not be true friends. There is a old movie called "gaslight". I don't suggest you watch it (it's scary), but maybe you could use it to help explain what happened to you. Not now I think, but maybe in the future.

In Australia you are allowed to own guns, it's just that you need a reason (eg farmer or sports shooter) and a liscence and there are also a lot of rules to follow (eg keeping guns in a gun safe) and if you are caught breaking any of them you lose your liscence and are never allowed another one.