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This is why I like alternative practitioners. While some are sharlotens, most genuinely care about the whole person. I'm so sorry that your having to try to navigate this mess.

This is what your daughter seems to be telling you. It's so great you are listening to her needs.

This!!!!!

I hear you and understand. There is a mind shifting technique you could try. It's not easy, but maybe helpful. Every time Selena comes to mind, deliberately say to yourself a phrase eg "I am not going to waste energy on these thoughts" (or any phrase that has meaning for you) then deliberately...

You don't know how she is feeling behind closed doors. If she was abused then she like learnt to hide her true self and have a false self for the rest of the worlds viewing. Another thing to consider....it sounds like Selena's mum is in denial about what she did. This means she is likely also...

:hug: Hugs in the hope that it helps.

From what you have written prior in this thread, you have definitely done the right thing. Separating your daughter from her abuser will help her heal. It is normal for parents to want to alleviate their child's suffering but unfortunately you can not "fix" this one. You can however be there...

At the beginning of this thread I totally rebelled at the question but overtime I'm starting to see its relevance. At first I went through items like...., if I had no physical pain i would.....but that was depressing as I don't ever see it happening. But then I started having thoughts eg...

Maybe you could tell your social worker that it's not depression but anxiety. I don't know if that's true for you but I'm wondering if they would "hear" that better than trying to explain it. Extroverts gain energy from being around people, introverts gain energy from being on their own. Many...

That's my go-to for self soothing also. If it helps....I stop all input until I feel bored. I can feel all sorts of things including things I feel I should and could do, but waiting for genuine boredom is important to ensure I've de-Inputted enough.

You did nothing wrong. These people don't respect boundaries, that doesn't have anything to do with you.

@Ragdoll Circus I've written those post too, where on a second reading i can see a different interpretation from what I meant. From memory you are newish here, so to be helpful....If you click tools then edit you can edit you post. There is only a short window to do this, but much longer if you...

I agree with ms Spock on this, but as a mother myself it's hard to reframe so I've tried a few options to help you. The goal is to focus on feeling good for actions you can do and control, not for outcomes that are not in your control. I feel good knowing I am helping my daughter find the...

Trust is earned, not given. Is there some single item that you could tell your T that typically gets a bad reaction from others. I'm thinking something trivial like a bad habit of biting toenails. Then before the session take that item and think off all the negative reactions and what...

There are different learning styles eg auditory, visual, kinetic etc. each person favors one but typical has most of them. I would propose that you hear a voice because you are predominantly an auditory learner, where as others would experience the same but as a vision etc. If I'm right, it...

Also, one cannot control the outcome from a decision. The "best" decision skews the odds towards the "best" outcome, but it does not guarantee it. Letting go of that illusion of control is something I'm working on.

I understand where you come from fearing wrong decisions. One thing that helped me was to try to learn the difference between a critical decision and a typical decision. Almost all decisions are typical and only rarely critical (basically limited to trauma environments). Typical decisions...

I read in a people skills self help book once the below, I thought it might give you an alternative approach. If you see someone you don't like on the street but you have to talk to them then this is what you do. Walk fast towards them, body language excited to see them, the first sentences...

Welcome :)

I think this a very relevant topic for this forum as from what I understand, hoarding is typically triggered by significant loss. I watched and read tonnes of things about hoarding and declutering and over time I started to see some of my stuff differently. Have you tried this? Watching...

Welcome. I too suffered childhood sexual abuse. This place is great for support and help with healing.

Yes please for me.

I hope this question does not derail the thread. What does processing mean to those in this thread....eg talking through all the horrible details with therapist?

I hear you loud and clear. Maybe they mean more, what symptoms would you like us to work on?

I've lost time too. I don't think I act any different in these periods as no one has commented, but like you I was too afraid to ask.