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It's an interesting premise - though it's also hard to imagine extrapolating this approach to a broader population. Speech patterns of the English language are subject to different tonal habits based purely on socialization as well as other factors (multi linguistic capability, situational...

Based on what you're describing - I think it's pretty reasonable to find the neighbor's behavior upsetting. I'm not meaning to minimize your experience of it as being triggering - because I can see how it would be. My point is only that your reaction isn't that far way from what any other...

I don't think I saw anyone reply to this part of your thread....It's fairly unusual to find a Psychiatrist who works with adults and also does therapy. Psychiatrists who also do therapy tend to specialize in adolescents. Another web resource that I've been impressed by is GoodTherapy...

This was a few posts ago - and a question you asked @Freida , not me - but I'd like to jump in and say: this is not the best way to be thinking about it. You need to think about how YOU want to be around him. What way of being will feel right to you and contribute to your happiness in the...

Those kinds of big emotional flare-ups are in-line with PTSD symptoms. But that doesn't mean that you just need to continue tolerating them. It sounds like you may be hitting the point where he needs to get professional help, and get his symptoms under control - or at least start to show some...

As much as is possible, I'd encourage you to start framing things based on how YOU will experience them, and get out of the habit of trying to predict what the impact will be like on him. So if you want to be in contact, and do so as friends, and you find that ends up being OK for you? Then...

I've found this to be helpful as well - for me, cold always works better. You should listen to this fear - do you have options for getting the basics done if you aren't driving yourself? I know this can be challenging. Another thing that has helped me in the past is saying out loud things I...

This is a very valid way to feel, based on what your experience of her has been like lately. Do you think it might help you get some clarity to take an extended break, and see how things go, look for a new therapist maybe, but be able to go back to her in eight or so weeks if you want to see if...

This thread has been moved into Social, as it's a more appropriate fit.

Essentially, yes.

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That's exactly it, well said.

Nothing to apologize for. In fact, I think you can be proud of yourself for reaching out. The times we are most in need of help often turn out to be the times that asking for help, or telling anyone how you feel...that can start to seem impossible to do. I'm glad it sounds like you're a bit...

Do you have any extended family outside of the home that you and your sister could go stay with? It sounds like you and she both would be helped by having an adult advocate, to get you into a safer environment so that your sister can get the help and support she'll need, following the rape...

I'm not enough of a researcher to properly argue this point - but I'll say that it's a hypothesis, a rhetorical question - not a thesis or conclusion. @dutchmortimer - I'm glad you found some relief from your symptoms. I wouldn't go so far as to assume that the particular combination of...

Alright, I'll bite. @dutchmortimer - can I ask, what was the nature of the trauma that caused your CPTSD? And, what was it that caused you to 'beat' PTSD in one night?

This all makes sense - and yes, partly it's to work on caring more about what you think about you than what others think...the other part is acknowledging that trauma work takes up a lot of headspace, and it's hard to aggressively pursue big life changes when one is in recovery. Eventually, the...

Yes, to all this. I couldn't agree more. Also, '[no] need to serve the other members divorce papers' is now entering my personal lexicon. I needed that laugh, thank you - it's funny because it's true.

That's an excellent point. Hadn't thought of it that way.

Yeah, didn't say it was. It's an essay, that's all. I think it helped me because the context of my event was completely devoid of any connection to what I'd call a heightened environment. Backyard depravity; nothing international, nothing entangled with a government in any way, no meaningful...

@prynne - I think you're mixing together very different levels of community (a not uncommon type of distorted thinking) Lets say there are four levels - People we are intimately connected to (family, partners), who have been around us before and after the trauma. Friendships that are solid and...

A link to an essay a member shared with me, on a thread from quite awhile ago - The Psychology of Torture. It's by a psychologist from Israel, his bigger focus is writing on narcissism but he's drawn a connection between narcissism, psychopathy, and torture. It's weird; I'm having a pretty...

Matthew, do you mind if I ask what country you're writing from?

You know, that's one of the biggest things many of us have in common here. I might gently encourage you to venture outside of your diary a bit more, maybe start a thread asking other people how they experience their own versions of 'it's not that bad'... In a lot of ways - getting better is...

Slight tweak to this - I don't think CBT itself is dangerous; but all therapists are definitely NOT created equal, there are more than a few bad ones. And CBT being applied by the wrong therapist to the wrong situation - that can create a real mess. I guess my point is mostly semantic - just...