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I'm guessing you are in the US?

It's not to help you emotionally - it's to make sure you're not fully 'gone' (psychotic, or incapable of stopping yourself from harming others or yourself), or in the process of dying, or already dead. The important words here are "right now". I am not trying to minimize your pain - I have...

I hear you, @juliana - and don't get me wrong, I 100% support your choice to stand your ground in this matter. I'm simply aware that you'll need some other way to relieve your anxiety, besides needing them to stop. It's really hard to exist in a state of constant anxiety. You've mentioned a...

Why do you think you heard it?

Yes, it's wrong that they are bullying you. But you can make a choice between actively fighting them and getting consistently triggered and upset, or you can cut them all off, move forward with your life, and heal. Personally, I don't consider that a bad thing. I'd really ask that you try and...

@Agita Kaput - As @Sideways pointed out - this is a thread called "One Thing That Made You Smile Today". It's a distraction thread. Not a debate thread, and not a place to start holding court on Django Unchained, slavery, and intergenerational trauma. While they are all valid topics, this is...

Can you just block those numbers entirely? Other people will never, ever do what we want them to do. They'll make their own choices. What we CAN do is make choices about our level of exposure.

@Fay Sanders - Sufferers must read this link prior to posting in the supporters area. Thanks.

^^^ Nailed it.

From the article: The hypothesis being posed is that gene expression - how an individual's genetic code is changed into a physical reality - alters as a result of exposure to extremes. Take an individual whose ancestors have had zero exposure to any kind of stress. Then, expose that...

From the article: I appreciate the 'healing as well as hurtful' concept, re: life experience. Useful to remember.

This event is pretty recent, still. That's very good news, in trauma terms - it means that (theoretically) it's not been able to take hold in a deep-rooted way. I'm always leery of ending up sounding like therapy is the only solution to everything...but I think that a few things are important...

This. Never underestimate how powerful these kinds of situational stressors can be. I'm not saying, "oh, it's nothing, you're just working a lot" - more like, yeah, this is the sort of shit that can pull everything down. I can identify with this, esp. the anger/frustration, when you can know...

Breakfast, lunch, dinner

I think you've already done it, thanks for this clarification -

I've got no idea what this means. You're new here, so a word of advice - you could use all the emojis in the world, but they'll never fully express tone. My guess is: the bold text is you writing in the persona (or 'voice) of what is, to you, a prototypical individual with NPD - and that this...

@Lilac98 - in your short time here, you've posted about your abuse - and people have expressed empathy. You've posted myriad questions about the meaning of dreams that you think might be suppressed memories, and people responded both empathetically and with some healthy reality checks...

Well, you start by working on challenging the thoughts that you are having, and the feelings they are connected to. Remember - she isn't doing anything. I'd be saying something to myself like, "I know that I got frightened because she reminded me of an event in a dream, but she isn't that...

Welcome to the forum, @Agita Kaput - nice to meet you.

She's not making you feel anything. I know that might just seem like different words, but it's really a whole different idea. You feel unsafe around her. But realistically, there is no threat or danger from her, right?

This actually sounds like a really reasonable compromise. Not even a compromise, actually, since Debbie isn't anything to do with your grandad - she just reminded you of a bad moment in a dream. I also don't know that they are asking you to ignore your feelings about Debbie - it sounds like...

It's a specific screening question that is frequently asked of women; based on the (flawed) assumption that only men abuse women. It's pretty safe to assume that would have been her next question, even if your previous answer had been that you were afraid of wide open spaces (or anything...

Are you confident that she's telling you the truth, with this story? I ask because she's demonstrated some triangulating already, and it wouldn't be out of character for her to lie to you about her ex's behavior. It's possible that she is still quite entangled with this ex...and it's possible...

Perhaps focusing on those, then?

Same for me, @OliveJewel - I did manage a decent dinner.