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@Disco Dancing Queen My new tactic is to stop resisting the compulsive speech when I can (when I'm alone) and instead to just keep talking. I always come around to talking about fear. I don't know if this is helping me stop, but I do think I'm digging closer to the core issue, since I usually...

I think I understand what you're referring to. Tangential to this, I wrote a couple of years ago about being triggered by children because of the dissonance between what I felt I endured and the kids I interact with: The Cruelest Self My best friend has been gravely, fatally ill over this whole...

I get hung up on labels, too, but the distinction between cPTSD and PTSD seems pretty arbitrary unless it directly relates to treatment. C-PTSD, cPTSD, Secondary PTSD... it's all PTSD. I would focus more on the fact that you feel your T is not addressing PTSD but is focused on ADHD. Sounds like...

Currently, only the ICD has cPTSD as a Dx. The DSM5 does not. I see that you're in the US; your T might not even recognize cPTSD as a Dx. I have been told I have cPTSD, but ideologically I'm not really on board with the distinction. I don't think it matters enough to treatment, at least in my...

Killed me to read this. I wasn't psychiatrically mistreated, but I sure was made the problem. My family really f*cking sucked when it came to constantly asking me when I was going to stop "tearing the family apart" and "get over it." My abuser implicated at least four other victims in my abuse...

I understand this too. I live about 800 miles away from my brother and still wake up in terror when I have nightmares about the abuse, even though I've known since I was about 13 that I could hand him his ass. He used to be far too much older and bigger than I. But he is weak. And I am strong...

Cutting ties with someone, especially family IME, is so hard. It takes enormous strength to walk away, not least of all because what usually motivates staying is a deep desire for connection to the other person, often fueled by some good memories (however few or sparse or seemingly small)...

Well, there is absolutely no such tenant in the LDS faith forbidding this, so something is definitely up.

I'm sorry, Hermione; I have no words other than to say I'm here listening.

I have gotten the response many, many, many times that I should be flattered or "learn how to take a compliment" because I receive so much "attention" when I'm just trying to do the most mundane things in life--grocery shop, wash my car, pump gas, order food. This attitude epitomizes the...

I agree with JMH here that your current partner is victimizing you. That is not okay. His behavior sounds extremely worrying. My T has a saying: before you decide you're depressed, first make sure you're not just surrounded by assholes. Seems fitting for you right now. The good news is that...

Gifts have arrived! :woot:

Everyday she grins.

Peacefully awakening together.

@dulcia Something that I've learned since healing from my abusive relationship is that I can assert agency over myself, and when I am asked why, I can say, "Because that's what I want." And that's all that's necessary. I recently asked my boyfriend to stop doing something--probably rough...

Have you studied or practiced healthy communication patterns? That helped me enormously. Anthony changed my life by sending me this: Dead Link Removed It takes time to practice and sink in and feel that you're equipped enough with the tools therein to implement them in the heat of the moment...

Try this exercise, if you'd like: Frame your feelings as, "When you say...[fill in the blank]... I feel [this way]."

If I were you, I would A) switch internships immediately B) contact the T who worked with you for 10 years--or Ts, whatever C) keep journaling, but I wouldn't try to force anything that you don't recall until you know more about why you were in therapy and what the content of those sessions was

The processing and crying and the yelling and throwing/shaking stuff don't have to be mutually exclusive reactions. You can do both.

Hi @acoa82 . Sometimes it takes quite awhile to garner responses to posts; patience is a virtue when asking a community for feedback, especially in the midst of the work week. I read your post and felt somewhat confused about how to respond. Yes, your early experiences could have affected your...

I was in a bitch mood all week due to a massive increase in stressors. It rained some. I complained. Don't let knowing you could have it worse affect your ability to validate that sometimes you just feel down about a situation.

I haven't done REBT. My therapist does a model of several talk therapies with some CBT thrown in, although we don't do CBT, which I've done in the past. My T focuses on interpersonal psychotherapy, which has been very helpful in getting to the root but doesn't handle a lot of what I would...

Journaling might actually help. It used to be the biggest thing in my toolbox, but I've been really bad about it since moving here, which actually aligns nicely with when this symptom started getting ridiculous. Journaling really helps me put shit in a proverbial box instead of letting all of it...