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I haven't followed up regarding the work yet, but I think there's still time. Deadlines are a problem still. I'm doing netter with the positive feelings than last time I had this much reason.

@TheMinsterman , that continues to sound very tough. One-sided is indeed bad. And it's hard to tell about diagnosis, especially when it comes to DID, which is all about hiding things. @grimalkin , the sufferer's triggers are never your fault. He needs to understand that, and it's a difficult...

When you say 'whole new person', I get the impression that it's a change that has some duration to it, that she will 'be that person' for days or longer. In which case, it starts to sound like she has more than one Apparently Normal Part. (Did the Bad Things start happening before age 8?) If...

Wow. Well done! That's some really constructive handling of things with serious destructive potential. Some master-level stuff!

There's nothing like a bad marriage to teach a person how to be afraid of commitment :( I'd say he wants commitment, but he's likely to be really scared. Expect the fear to amp up every time it becomes impossible to deny that a new threshold has been passed.

There are a lot of possible explanations, and I'm concerned about how to manage your expectations here - neither false hope or false pessimism is of good service to you. What seems to be going on is that she switches rapidly between needing you desperately, and hatefully pushing you away. To...

*hugs*

Thanks :) I've always believed that if I'd been able to explain myself properly, I would have been safe. The upside of this is that I've made good money in jobs that essentially consist of 'Explain difficult concepts to people who control money'. The downside is the perfectionism, and the...

Really glad for the good news. I hope things continue to improve.

Yeah, I relate to that. It sucks, when people are complicated and messy, and refuse to supply us with neat justifications. *hugs* I'm glad you're protecting yourself.

Ouch :( It sounds like having her around is hurting you. In this place, we talk a lot about the importance of letting people withdraw, and sort things out. It sounds like you need a few weeks where you get to withdraw. You're not obligated to spend time with her or communicate with her...

YAY! It's awesome to see a member of the family getting good things :)

I'd like to offer a clearer reply than the stuff below, but this is a difficult topic for me. There are things that I've done that I've been ashamed of. People tried to tell me that it wasn't my fault, and my response was, "Well, you don't believe in personal responsibility!" High standards -...

@TheMinsterman and @grimalkin - I'm sad that you've had such a horrible time. @TheMinsterman , you're very clearly hurting a lot, and talking about the hurt in terms of downward spirals and so on. I hope you've got a therapist of your own?

So, I just restrained myself from saying to someone (in another thread) "You can't have PTSD, but that event sounds terrifying, and Adjustment Disorder is serious business too." They pretty clearly had criterion A, but a lot of the rest of it didn't fit. I don't think that they'll be harmed by...

Regarding the age factor, it seems to predict the way that the mind breaks more than it predicts 'if it will break' - you and I both had traumatic experiences at age 4, but there's no evidence that you have PTSD / structural dissociation. However, early childhood neglect seems to be the only way...

Oh! In that case, I agree completely. That experience with the dog sounds terrifying. There was a girl in my high school with massive scars on her face from a dog attack, so I take it seriously. I think it's a really good example of a traumatic memory, and the response you describe sounds...

The 'genetic imprint' theory sounds like garbage to me. However, the first cause of my issues is that I was raised by someone with PTSD. His explosive rage and withdrawals were life-threatening to a small child. So I'd just follow the 'talk to therapist' path if interacting with this woman...

@Linzee I think it's awesome that you're making progress and are stronger than before. I get a bit nervous about the most recent comment where you said that you wish he could see that everyone has scars, and that he'd fight harder. If we take physical injury as our metaphor, then PTSD isn't a...

Your fiance sounds pretty cool :) Would you feel able to talk to the in-network person and say "This is how I felt during our last session, and I'm concerned that I might not be able to see past the messages that I found invalidating." ? I doubt that I'd be able to do that. If you think you...

I'm not clear on what it is that you'd like to understand. Could you elaborate?

My therapist did get nervous about my self-diagnosis at first, but once I demonstrated that I was able to think critically about it, and that I took him seriously, he encouraged me to keep doing research. I can relate to 'fear of being perceived as a hypochondriac' - but if it's your wife who is...

Both of your therapists need to know about the difficulties you are having. EMDR breaks down the barriers in your mind. It's normal to discover that the barrier was there because the stuff on the other side is really difficult. Breaking down the barriers further without improving your ability to...

When you say "I have no memory of the trip at all," that doesn't sound entirely normal to me. If your wife is getting freaked out, it may be because she pays attention to you, and because you don't present to her in a normal way. My wife said "When he loses his temper, it's like he becomes a...

I have a memory (non traumatic) of being under the influence of pot, and getting really excited about the election coverage. That unnaturally intense craving echoes through my feelings when I remember it. Traumatic memories are more intense versions of normal memories, and so they come bundled...