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I heard at some point recently that oral sex could be rape and that surprised me because I had thought it was only penetration in the genitals. I also thought fingers weren’t enough, which that’s a hard one for me because sometimes I think that happened to me and sometimes I don’t. I don’t...

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Yeah… How does the law treat penetration by objects? Is it a separate crime?

That’s what I was thinking. She kept saying “I’m not saying it did or didn’t happen” but continued to strongly imply it by saying things like “Why would you be so afraid of something that didn’t happen to you” and “Why would after learning about sex would you know what rape was and fear it...

She must not really work with “CPTSD” then. She’s kinda showing a lack of understanding of what it’s like to be a child going through all this. I didn’t know the UK had that definition. That’s odd because then it’d be impossible for a woman to rape a man, but if you’re raped by something...

Yeah I get that. What you describe follows her narrative, you were raped before (not being allowed to say no is rape even if it’s not violent or physically forceful), and then later you felt like it could happen again so you’re maintaining control in the same way. But honestly, why would it...

What kind of treatment did work for you? I’ve only had talk therapy and barely started EMDR, and talk therapy isn’t great for me because I’m not the talking type.

It’s the argument of “severity”. I wasn’t raped as in PIV at any point in my life to my knowledge. But having been molested and sexualized isn’t really far off from rape so I think irrationally fearing my husband could rape me really isn’t all that far off. She specializes in PTSD and EMDR...

I guess that makes sense. Being afraid my husband would rape me is strange for someone that hasn’t been raped, but also is it? My “no” was never respected by my dad. I have no knowledge or memory of being raped. It doesn’t make sense to me that it could happen to me and I not know or remember...

I was molested by my dad when I was three. He continued to be sexually harassing such as grabbing my butt, kissing, hugging, constant touching, making comments, etc. To my knowledge, nothing else happened sexually besides that sort of thing. But I had and have an intense fear of being raped...

Hello all **waves** So I finally got therapy for PTSD. It’s EMDR which I realize is a controversial modality of therapy. I have years of sexual abuse to unravel. My therapist suggested not having sex during this time due to triggers and spicy things that are going to inevitably pop up. I...

UPDATE Baby was born yesterday morning! The birth went smoothly, the baby is healthy and I had no trauma/ptsd issues spur up! Which is great for me. I found it really empowering to put this in writing and give this to my midwife team and they were very respectful.

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Exactlyyy

It’s probably a really effective coping mechanism, it’s easier to understand a character than yourself. Often villains have their reasoning displayed or directly explained unlike real-life villains.

I just watched All Dogs Go To Heaven for the first time since childhood. If you haven’t seen it, it’s a very strange cartoon movie. I probably couldn’t even explain it that well. But anyways, I’m a CSA survivor, my dad was my abuser, and he also abused me in other ways (verbal, psychological...

It pleases me that this many of you use earplugs regularly xD I discovered them a year ago or so and they’ve become a mainstay in my life. I even converted my mom and sister on them 😂😂😂

I’m referring to earplugs, which generally muffle the sound I don’t actually have noise cancelling headphones, I think if you have no audio playing they muffle the sound and if you have audio playing you pretty much can’t hear anything at all

Loop are comfortable, and good for sleeping. Foam ones block out the most sound. Etymotic concert earplugs allow you to hear conversations, voices, and music clearly just at a lower level. The other above options sound “muffled”.

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Thank youuu, I know, plans help but they totally get thrown out the window when things change (and a lot can change in birth)

I’m working on a birth plan that will specifically inform my midwife team on my triggers and what to do or not to if I get triggered. Is there anything else I should add? So far this is what I have: Trauma and PTSD Birth Plan Background: Childhood sexual abuse survivor, with PTSD, anxiety...

Thank you 🙏 I so hear you on the wedding vs. marriage and labor vs. child thing, that’s my mindset too.

Oh yes, I was recommended a child birth class but I decided to just do my own research instead.

That sounds interesting, for those of you suggesting music, you and @Friday what about sensory overload? With everything going on with your body, multiple people, etc is sensory overload likely? I mean everyone is different but I’m not sure about playing music