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I’m not sure where you get that from - I’ve not seen anyone comparing trauma other than the OP implying that their PTSD inducing trauma wasn’t serious.

And in the context of someone saying they’ve recovered from PTSD, the trauma must have been of a particular nature (eg Crit A). The OP said they’ve recovered from this particular label, meaning they no longer meet the diagnostic criteria which assumes they did at one point meet the criteria...

my T and I have been really working on how I feel about myself and how that impacts the way I go about daily life. I tend to use keeping very busy as a distraction - a way to avoid feeling anything and from dealing with those feelings. Slowly but surely we’re unpicking that defence mechanism to...

What you’re describing isn’t empathy, it’s sympathy - “I’m sorry you’ve had a tough time” is a sympathetic response and in lots of situations feels like a social convention rather than a meaningful expression of care. You may need that kind of response but he may just not be the kind of person...

:D Great minds and all that @anthony.

Except the diagnostic criteria for PTSD is very clear about the kind of trauma that one needs to have experienced to be diagnosed with PTSD and that is the trauma needs to have represented an actual threat to life, sexual violence or a threat to your bodily integrity - ie major trauma by...

I think you might be overthinking - it sounds like a very kind offer.

I guess though you will have flashbacks - flashbacks are part of your body and mind starting to process or make sense of the trauma. A sign that your body is trying to do what it should to move through it - one of the symptoms of post traumatic stress (as in normal process). Avoidance is a PTSD...

This thinking is what’s kept you in this unhealthy relationship. She isn’t a mum to you - after 27 years any good mother would have supported you to live independently of her. It sounds like she’s colluding with your need for her - it may be that finding someone else and ending with her feels...

I think this is the key - you’ve got a strong attachment to your T which may be getting in the way of you doing the work you need to do. Something is making you question what’s happening with this T, can you articulate what’s making you ask now whether she might be holding you back?

@mtngirl2006 I deleted your last post because it came from a guest account, could you log back in and repost please :)

I think there are lots of reasons crying causes headaches, dehydration is a really simple reason (and yes I’ve cried to the point of dehydration), so drink as much as you can. I think sometimes too the energy release or stress that we’ve been holding can lead to pain. Can you head it off at the...

I’d second talking it through with a counsellor, it sounds like you stopped listening to the part of you that didn’t want what was going on and kept on with it. I’d also explore the part of you that, despite not liking the rough sex, wanted to be in a relationship with someone who did...

I’m guessing your parents thought you were asleep, and had no reason to think you were awake so didn’t think they were exposing you to sex. Also depending on the reason you were sharing a room with your mum (eg necessity, could afford/didn’t have another room for you), I’m assuming she didn’t...

That’s the thing though, post traumatic stress disorder happens when the normal post trauma stress, with all the associated symptoms, gets stuck in process somehow. Having had that process get stuck once does increase the possibility of it happening again. If you think of it like a broken bone...

Before I answer this, let me be clear I don’t agree with physical punishment and don’t hit my children. But the “you wouldn’t do it to an adult” argument is nonsense. My child is a child, there are lots of things I do to and for them that I don’t and wouldn’t do to an adult. I don’t bathe the...

Congratulations on getting to the other side - I know that’s taken a huge amount of work. Your Ts are right in that “curing” the natural post traumatic stress response isn’t possible or desirable - those reactions are there for a reason and aren’t pathological. It’s the “disordered” part that...

Watching porn doesn’t make someone an abuser, exposing your kids to porn (albeit you could hear but not see) is abusive but it doesn’t mean he would go on to touch you or molest you. Definitely worth exploring in therapy.

Generally speaking, the most simple explanation is likely to be the accurate one so what makes you think you didn’t take them off in your sleep? Stranger things happen, it doesn’t need to have been your habit for it to have happened once - I’ve done some very odd things in my sleep as a child...

I really dislike the whole mindfulness thing because it’s sold as a cure all but it did help me with intrusive thoughts in that I learned to be less distressed about them and so didn’t try so hard to push them out of my head. The thing that helped me was imagining my thoughts like cars on the...

I’m with @Justmehere, I don’t always know when something’s working on me but when the feelings are there I’ll find time to give in to it, to completely feel whatever it is but I’ll also plan something that I know I need to pull myself together for so that there’s a time limit. Sometimes that...