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Ask yourself, if he was legit using this account, would he have an old city listed and have success claiming to be 8 years younger than he is? If he was 'deceitful' wouldn't he do it under a different name and all. Sounds like an old account to me.

Sometimes people who don't understand the compulsion and knock on effects of these things will tell you"oh just let it go"... It's like saying to someone with depression , "oh just cheer up"... Might be good advice, means nothing though and it certainly doesn't solve the problem. It's almost a...

Ask and you'll find out... Don't ask , and you'll kill yourself wondering.

You just summed up how I feel, thanks, I really appreciate your response.

I agree , and never said she can't see him, she used to see him months ago and I was fine with it. It crossed the line for me once she started to tell him about our problems then hide it from me... They basically planned together to do things that couples would do...I didn't even know of...

Her reason for refusing therapy was that she, 1. Had nothing left , was tired etc. 2. Didn't see a point as were not married or have had kids. 3.Didn't believe it would work Point 2 was like a knife to my chest. Marriage and kids are not the measure of a relationship. I was like "Really, so the...

It affects me because it damages trust, it's like she's acting out of spite.It hurt when i realized she was in pain, it hurts even more when she refused therapy and it hurt 10 fold when She lied and repeatedly kept seeing him knowing every time it would cause a huge problem between us. I don't...

As the fabric of my relationship has unravelled rapidly since my diagnosis I find out my partner has been getting closer to a guy she dated years ago. I express my unease at the fact that she's getting closer to another male precisely as we drift apart... Lack of healthy regard etc. She defends...

I've heard this referred to as secondary trauma... It sucks. Could this also be the case if 2 people got together, both unknowingly afflicted with trauma? As in, could PTSD in one possibly bring out the trauma buried in another?

This is a horrible thought but probably so true.

Thanks, this does make a lot of sense actually- hypervigilance so to speak.

Thanks, do you mean uncommon for someone with PTSD or anyone?

Driving down the highway I come to pass a truck , as this occurs I experience vivid imagery of the truck out of control taking me out, almost like quick screenshots from a movie. I'm not flashing "back" though, as I've never had a motor vehicle accident nor a close call with a truck. This could...

I've been told ( I guess anecdotally) but obviously through experience, that often relationships crash when someone with PTSD starts therapy. Apart from the obvious reasons (like perhaps going backwards whilst working through it) why is this opinion so readily held amongst people? Is it that...

Our circumstances are almost similar. It's such a shame when you realize the person you have beenfor the last few years has destroyed your own life without you knowing. You're action plan above sounds right , Just be aware that sometimes it's out of your control, that is, sometimes making...

Possibly true but not the best reply for someone in Hell.

Can confirm the above video link is awesome ^^^^^

Also , I should mention that studies show that TM supposedly helps calm the Amygdala and strengthen the frontal cortex (I think I got that jargon correct) anyway, what this means is that you become stronger and less likely to be emotionally hijacked.

I started transcendental meditation maybe a month after I started therapy. As usual with everything I do I hit it too hard and "over meditated". My anger was insane... It actually made me realise I had an anger problem, it was my first WTF moment. My poor partner even noticed the radicle change...

Couldn't someone be a narcissist due to their PTSD? And if so could change given they were therapized appropriately?

Newsflash* Thank you for all who participated in this discussion. As a result, it's actually occurred to me I've been depressed the entire time - Anxiety and depression have coexisted, I've just for some reason noticed the anxiety and not the depression. It's pervasive though, it cycles...

Immediately get away from these people who are uniformed and toxic to you. There's a reason for that. Part of you is tough as hell, man that's admirable, stop for a minute and try and admire that courage.If you strip yourself down in this moment project the anger you have in you back at the...

I get this, it's like you've read my mind.I used to think it was what people just did but now realise it's perverse PTSD induced non sense. I'd get 'eternal thinking' and project very far into the future and ruminate on possible life failure modes , catastrophizing , dramatizing and so on...

It's interesting you say this. I've often been a pretty bad sleeper but thought nothing if it. Years ago I decided that alcohol was the remedy to get to sleep. This actually worked for a while. Then it backfired.. Sure I'd get drowsy (and fall asleep) but then I'd suffer from broken sleep and...

Thankyou all for the replies, everyone is so willing to help, the information is definitely helping.