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@FridayJones you just made my day.

My mother use to pull my pants down and put me over her knee to smack me. She said it was a 'normal' way to discipline naughty children and for the most part I think society would have agreed. I never had any problem accepting that it was just a regular part of growing up. But when I was touched...

I don't have an answer either but after reading, Signs, comment above it got me thinking. People find it easier to open themselves to animals and children because they are safe. Its ok to trust them. Opening yourself to a relationship is not so easy. Do you think that could be why he is more...

I was touched inappropriately as a young child and told it was a game. I sensed something was wrong about the situation but was not sure what. A couple of years later when I told my Mother I cried and felt ashamed for the first time.

Arfie said it better

I don't think that would be possible. It can be about power and control. I think mental illness, substance abuse and personality disorders can often play a part. Plus other contributing circumstances could include, past experiences, genetics, the kind of upbringing the person had, unresolved...

I still have an ok relationship with one of my abusers. It was childhood sexual abuse as well, although it was 'mild' abuse. I wasn't harmed physically or penetrated. I still think about it every time I see that person. But it doesn't trigger me like other things do. It may be possible for you...

It almost sounds like the cycle of abuse. My mother suffers from a lot of anger and rage followed by remorseful periods. I'm not sure what causes her to act this way either. I suspect she may have been abused as a child too. Sometimes I wonder if having a children of her own triggered her and...

There is no ultimate meaning in life. Just make the most of the time you have here. Fill your life with the things and people you enjoy. Return the favour by being the joy in others lives as well.

5 hours might just be your thing then Trauma. Enjoy the energy while it lasts ( :

Maybe a little of both ( : Happy Birthday!

Hi Justmehere, I read you post earlier and wanted to reply but had to go to work (different time zone here). I just wanted you to know that I was thinking about you all day and wishing I could offer you some confront. Although I'm fairly new to the forum I can see that you are one of the...

What is right isn't always easy. Beautiful song.

Welcome.

Some people can get by on as little as 5 - 6 hours. How do you feel? Do you feel adequately rested when you wake and do you have enough energy through the day?

Is confronting her at all possible? Or if not writing her a letter but never posting it? I'm sorry for the less than adequate suggestions. Its terrible that you have to feel this way. I wish I could come up with something better.

Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences. I've take so much from your stories.

There is no such thing as karma. There are just circumstances and choices. You were a victim of your cousins terrible choices and now you have to live with it. She has just been a more fortunate than you. It is not fair and it never will be. How do you deal with anger? I'm not sure. What, if...

For years now I've fantasized about selling everything we own, putting the kids in the car and driving up the coast until we find somewhere nice to live. A place where nobody knows our past, where we can start again from scratch without burden or fear. I want to leave to escape my ex husband...

How awful for you to have to relive your trauma so often. If I am right about this (I think) CBT addresses our thinking patterns. Teaching us to replace negative or non helpful thoughts with positive or helpful ones. I'm just assuming a lot here but if you haven't already tried a trauma...

I agree with the above. Couples therapy doesn't seem to be very effective for domestic violence. But if you were seeing someone who was trained specifically to work with people in domestic violence situations it may be more effective.

His behaviour is very unhealthy and he needs to seek help for it not just for himself but for you and others he hurts too. I agree with what others have said. You should start therapy as soon as possible. Not because of anything wrong with you but because his behaviour is very damaging and it...

I am glad you can finally see things for how they really are. One of the things that keep us trapped is how confused we are about what is happening. Its only after getting away that these perceptions slowly begin to untangle. You didn't ask for PTSD. It wasn't your fault. Be kind to yourself as...

A close friend who always listens to me vent and has something supportive to say.

I had one that complained about his sore back the whole time. He kept making overly dramatic facial expressions and groaning every time he moved. Then he just talked about how dumb one of his dogs were. I never went back lol. Good luck, Change, a good therapist makes all the difference. I hope...