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I just poured the rest of my rum and whisky down the sink. I feel nothing but numb or pain, however I know alcohol is not the answer. Still fighting,. 👍

Here if you need to vent or chat. 💚

@Survivor3 and @Susan Jane You've both been unbelievably supportive since I joined, thank you. 💚

I relapsed tonight, my ex went out with his new girlfriend and I just started drinking and I can't stop. No lectures please but kind words and strength welcome.

Grieving is hard, I'm doing it now and sometimes I feel so overwhelmed with all of it. I also have to live with the relationship/person I'm grieving, which makes it worse. I'm coping by putting me first, I'm on a waiting list for counselling and looking into a women's only boxing class. I'm...

Hey @Survivor3, good news. Health in Mind have decided to give me counselling! I'm on a waiting list and will be contacted when there's availability. 👍

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm trying different things to keep calm, deep breathing and grounding techniques. It is so hard, especially when you live together, I find myself getting triggered daily. My ex has not made this week easy on me and last night we had a huge argument. It was clarification...

Hey @kocean, I feel you. Right now I'm blaming myself for losing my marriage, my CPTSD done a lot of damage over the past four years and I didn't realise how much until it was to late. Now I'm watching my ex thrive and start a new relationship. Worst part is we live together, so everyday I see...

Therapy my first time round was so rushed and now I'm ready for it, I have to wait. I understand why though, so private could be best. Just waiting for the email with the potential list of therapists and hopefully I'll be able to afford it, even if it's just once a month.

Hey @Survivor3, hope you're doing well? I just spoke to Health in Mind. So I've been rejected for counselling however my representative (a CBT Therapist) is challenging the decision. She's also sending me some details of some private therapists in my area who offer affordable counselling.

They're called Health in Mind, been very supportive so far. I will let you know how I get on Wednesday. 💚

I am in the UK. My therapy will be through a NHS organisation. I'm getting a call Wednesday regarding counselling and wait times. I'm hoping it's sooner rather than later for my sanity.

Finding my own place is going to be tricky, my friend will be giving me his spare room but it won't be available for 3-? months. His in a very slow process of breaking up with his girlfriend. I would need to save at least £4,000 to move, so I could be here with my ex until the end of the...

Hey @Survivor3, thanks for checking in. I'm back home, we talked, set rules and such, his being super respectful. But I'm finding it extremely difficult, there's been a lot of tears today. He started greving a long time ago and was ready to move on. We haven't even filed for separation yet and...

Thank you, all of this is happening so quickly for me and I really need the support.

Thanks @Susan Jane, it's my first day back in my home after two weeks and I'm struggling with all the emotions and grieving my marriage today.

Some definitely are and not being subtle. I've even had this happen when I've been out with my former partner and they've commented on it. Very aware some people are just staring or looking at their surroundings. It's when I'm getting checked and stared at Thanks Thank you @Sues. I'm...

Update. I'm back home and my husband is seeing someone else which really hurts however he is being very discreet and respectful about it. He had started mourning our relationship a long time ago and we both admitted our faults in the marriage. I honestly think it's one of the best conversations...

Thank you 💚 I agree, connection is so important and I lost site of that for sometime. It was a big step for me to start reaching out like this and one I do not regret. Thanks again, I'm very nervous and anxious but I have no choice but to deal with it.

Thank you for your kind words, I am doing my best under the circumstances but today is very hard and it's been very emotional. I'm returning home later because neither one of us can afford to move out. So I'm hoping we can discuss things with kindness, understanding and compassion. Then set some...

Thank you, the situation I find myself in, is one I never thought was a possibility. Today especially, I'm struggling with so many emotions and intrusive thoughts whilst trying to be strong. I'm going home later to clear the air and discuss terms and things with my husband. We have to live...

I completely agree and that is a great technique. The messes and actions of my decisions were not the best either. And they would be worse if I started again now. It's not worth it.

Haha, not preachy at all. Talking and admitting how I feel about it, is enough right now not to send me back there. I need to go through the emotions, feel and process.

Wow, sounds like you're doing great. I can't wait to get to that place. I started using the site because I feel so f*cked up, talking to friends is great and helpful, but my main support and part time carer was my husband. So I'm using the site more, only a survivor truly understands. I have a...

I used to be big on art and still am a fan of some artists but as for doing it, I think I'll find it quite therapeutic. Thank you for the advice and reaching out. This is not a easy time for me and I can't get therapy until I have a permanent address. Speaking to people who have experienced...