Anxiety, Panic Attacks and Intrusive Thoughts - Ending a 10 Year Relationship

[parrotthepolly]

I keep thinking to myself when I feel that way, “It’s not forever, just for now.” I hope that’s true for us both.

Depends how attached you are. For most people love fades after a decade apart and it's like the connection was never there. Some still hold on to one person until death.

 

[CazzTheGeek]

I am going through a fairly identical experience. My partner and I of 9.5 years broke up in March, and we have been living together since. We are finally packing to move out by the end of the month, and everything got bad. The PTSD, the anxiety, the SI, all of it. I’m using every coping mechanism under the sun, but it doesn’t feel like enough. I keep thinking to myself when I feel that way, “It’s not forever, just for now.” I hope that’s true for us both.

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm trying different things to keep calm, deep breathing and grounding techniques. It is so hard, especially when you live together, I find myself getting triggered daily. My ex has not made this week easy on me and last night we had a huge argument.

It was clarification for me I should not be with this person. Unfortunately it will be awhile before I can move but looking forward to it more everyday.

 

[CazzTheGeek]

Yes!!!

Hey @Survivor3, good news. Health in Mind have decided to give me counselling! I'm on a waiting list and will be contacted when there's availability.

 

[Survivor3]

Hey @Survivor3, good news. Health in Mind have decided to give me counselling! I'm on a waiting list and will be contacted when there's availability.

Wow!!! That's great news, that's really made me feel happy, thank you for sharing that. Progress! Love it

 

[CazzTheGeek]

I relapsed tonight, my ex went out with his new girlfriend and I just started drinking and I can't stop. No lectures please but kind words and strength welcome.

 

[Survivor3]

I relapsed tonight, my ex went out with his new girlfriend and I just started drinking and I can't stop. No lectures please but kind words and strength welcome.

It happens right! It's just life! Hope your not feeling too rough. Maybe today you can have something nice to eat.

 

[Susan Jane]

I relapsed tonight, my ex went out with his new girlfriend and I just started drinking and I can't stop. No lectures please but kind words and strength welcome.

No lecture it happens… look after yourself… you are worth it

 

[CazzTheGeek]

@Survivor3 and @Susan Jane You've both been unbelievably supportive since I joined, thank you.

 

[CazzTheGeek]

I just poured the rest of my rum and whisky down the sink. I feel nothing but numb or pain, however I know alcohol is not the answer. Still fighting,.

 

[Survivor3]

I just poured the rest of my rum and whisky down the sink. I feel nothing but numb or pain, however I know alcohol is not the answer. Still fighting,.

That took alot of courage pouring away your alcohol Cazz. Good for you.

 

[CazzTheGeek]

I'm really struggling to cope with everything going on in my life. My ex still cares about me a lot, more than my closest of friends. His doing more to support me than my closest of friends besides my bestie. I have so many mixed emotions.

He shows the type of caring you would do for family or a partner when his around, he told me he worries about me when his not with me. Yet the same person is breaking my heart, everytime his out with his new gf or texting with her, my heart breaks even more. This confusion and pain is so unbearable.

 

[Survivor3]

I'm really struggling to cope with everything going on in my life. My ex still cares about me a lot, more than my closest of friends. His doing more to support me than my closest of friends besides my bestie. I have so many mixed emotions.

He shows the type of caring you would do for family or a partner when his around, he told me he worries about me when his not with me. Yet the same person is breaking my heart, everytime his out with his new gf or texting with her, my heart breaks even more. This confusion and pain is so unbearable.

It's good that your talking(writing) about it cazz. And yes it's painful isn't it. But from what you've said, your (ex) partner still really cares about you. And that's really beautiful. It's a different kind of love.