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what makes you think I haven't invested anything in myself? just because I don't share what I've shared with my own counselor? But I'm done asking, I'll just put her out with the trash wednesday since you say she's no good anymore. thanks.

The only thing I'm wondering about is how can a person learn from a relationship when their partner always runs far and fast when things are bad, or they use the person, and then they run far and fast?? If the behaviour is repeated and they are called on it each time, sure. But at some point...

Over the years I've written poetry/song lyrics to help me through tough times, and often when I feel a bit emotional. Watching my friend go through her ups and downs, and reading this forum made me wonder about some things. I've seen her mother ignore her, "the less I know the better", her...

You misunderstood what I was getting at. I'm trying to figure out what and how her mind is perceiving something she did, and you're turning it into a battle of wits. I didn't say that I was trying to prove that I was right. If I must elaborate, I will. There is a situation that had become part...

Are you aware of anyone blocking out events or situations in their life so completely that the sufferer actually believes it didn't exist, and will continually deny it with such conviction that you start to wonder if you made it up? I'm curious about this, because there's a situation where...

This past Sunday when I broke things off with her and confronted her about what she was doing, I extended my anger towards her friend of 25 years, who was with her that day. I wasn't out of control, but it wasn't pretty. After I got home, I sent him an email and told him how I felt about what...

thanks, yes, I've emailed her and said if she needs a friend I will be there for her without expectations. She's fairly new in town so she only knows her neighbors, and none of them know about her PTSD or bipolar (though they have seen her bouts of anger). I don't think she will ever talk to...

thank you, I don't feel like such a good person right now. It's still very hard to understand and even harder to get over. I talked to a counselor today and it helped a little but I still feel pretty devastated. I just don't get it....I'm usually the strong one and I get over things quickly...

I was blinded by my own ignorance, I do realize that now. She is a very convincing liar, so much so that I believe she convinced herself for a while that these things didn't happen. I'm almost wondering if she's also suffering from MPD, because I've seen very different sides to her over the past...

thanks. I always try to go into a new relationship with a clean slate, each new person is a new set of values. I wasn't perfect, but I tried and I think I gave her more credit than she deserves. I still try to see the good in people, even if they don't see it themselves. But you're...

thanks, I think I'm finally starting to get over the heartbreak and how I feel about what she has done. She has so many issues that it's tiring to remember all her problems right now. I really thought that the other problems were diminishing because she wasn't as argumentative and when she...

I stated in another thread that it was my last post, but felt I should post this because it is something very difficult for me to understand. An overall view of the relationship with my ex is this: we met, I fell for her, then learned she had PTSD, and with time, she is bipolar. We struggled...

I don't know. And right now I don't know how I feel. This will be my last post, thanks for everything.

No, I don't think I can fix her. She has to and wants to do that on her own, and I'm willing to stand by her and support her. She's not just my girlfriend, she is also my best friend, and I do know when to be a friend...that's no different from any other relationship I've been in. She has a...

thanks, that's nice of you to say. We had a great weekend together, I think it helped immensely that I told her how I was feeling about how she handles things sometimes. She's understandably trying to get beyond what has happened in the past with guys who weren't very sincere. She wasn't...

Hi- I'm not sure if "hero" is the right word, but they do think that all she needed was someone genuine and honest. You are correct about coping; we had a nice long talk this weekend about it and I think she realizes that she needs to handle things differently. The next day we talked some more...

Thanks for the replies, I have to admit that I was confused and stressing a little about what went on, and probably shouldn't have vented the way I did. I guess if I didn't love her the way I do it would have been easy for me to just break it off, but I do see a lot of good in her, and since...

Setting boundaries is something that is new to me, because in the past the boundaries with a non-PTSD sufferer were quite different. How do I tell someone with PTSD that they are not to do this or that, or I'm gone? I know, that's ambiguous, but that's the bottom line, right? I'm not dealing...

When I met my girlfriend she was happy, content and affectionate. We had a couple of dates and they were incredible, and I fell in love with her. One of the traits that we both share is that we both believe in being monogamous, and are both loyal to a fault. Shortly after we met, she began...

Good for you.... Abuse is a very difficult subject with some people, and I know it is with me. My father was very abusive and as a result I'm very easily intimidated when people get mad at me. Since my girlfriend is both PTSD and bipolar I don't think she understands that when she snaps at me...

Thank you so much Spirit. I tried to send you a message but I can't, so I hope you see this. I would like to get in touch with you, so if you wouldn't mind me bending your ear I have a question for you. thanks again for all of your kind comments....

Hi- This is so very much like my current relationship. I love her with all my heart, and then at times I wonder if I'm the right guy for her. There are so many things I just love about her, and so many things we share in common. When she and I met, I had no idea. Now that we've been...

Thanks everyone, yes, love is funny and strange. I think the argument helped us both learn a little about each other - and ourselves. I knew I loved her with all my heart, but it's very hard to judge what is acceptable and what isn't. I don't feel that either of us is completely to blame, but...

Thanks Murphy, it's very hard for me to feel like it's not about me, because, well, I'm a guy...I screw up, say the wrong thing, make mistakes, you know...:rofl: But there was something she did differently that evening, she handled something in a very different way than she usually does and...