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Thread update. Tragically, my father committed suicide three weeks ago. In a strange twist of fate, I feel that I was brought to this website for a higher calling; dealing with the death of my father. Everything beforehand seems so peripheral and ancillary. I should have been focusing on my...

Sorry to Necrobump this thread. Actually ran into the lass the other night at a bar. I was having the time of my life, back to my old self, and spot her across the bar on a date with her next victim. No smiles exchanged between the two. No words between us. Enough reaffirmation that I made the...

Yep. Opened a lot of old wounds that I had put to bed and wasn't ready to experience again. It's not so much the breakup itself; it's the whole package from beginning to end.

No offense taken. I'm just upset that this, in fact, has caused me to need therapy and has derailed my life for a period of time.

Like I said, lesson learned. I'll continue to hang around and learn more about this illness as I have friends (combat vets) who suffer from it as well. I'd also like to learn how I can volunteer/donate in order to further the advancements in treatment for this disease. I'm tired of bitching...

Eh. You're kind of in the ballpark. I definitely agree that I handle breakups poorly. I could have not acted entitled to closure and pushed her when she told me to F off. I just have a hard time processing all the things that were said prior, her pushing so hard for a relationship, and then the...

I "lied" about deleting a facebook post and sending a letter. That's what caught me 12 hours of verbal lashings. When I say "lied" I mean I have a job that demands a lot out of me and I've got her texting me all day because her schedule is empty. I overlooked a text she sent me asking me to...

Amazing post. And thank you for taking the time to read everything. I know it's lengthy. I agree. It was a cowardly, self-serving crusade on her part. a 27 year-old invoking her parents' involvement in the monster that she created is unbelievably twisted and spoiled. It's almost like she knows...

Got all the closure I'm going to get last night. She's going through recovery and can't be involved with anyone. It's emotionally draining for her to deal with loving someone else when she can't love herself first. I should have let a sleeping dog lie instead of pushing this hard for closure...

I told her I had sent a letter when I hadn't... I forgot the stamp and it slipped my mind. And I had deleted a facebook picture of mine.... minutiae... It didn't matter what is was. I could have worn a blue tie instead of a red one and caught hell for it. She was nowhere near ready for a...

It's like she's got earmuffs on and she's reading from a script that reads "You're a liar and manipulator, my family hates you, I hate you, you're a hypocrite, you ruined dinner by saying that one thing, you're this you're that, go be healthy and happy somewhere else" Her mother stared me in...

Me either. I'm over it. I'm not going to get spat on anymore. To shoulder all of the burden for not giving her space after she walked away is something I can't do. I won't walk on eggshells for someone's happiness. She needs to be happy with herself before I even attempt to be involved in this...

Just received a scathing batch of messages; surely to be the last. Got called a psychotic, was told I'm embarrassing myself. Why do I keep getting called a manipulator?? She keeps saying I'm manipulating her and lying to her??? She's upset that I told her I was trying to understand...

I broke down last night and sent her a message. I let her know that I've been researching PTSD since we split and that I know that "NO" has a very important meaning. I told her I feel like we both triggered each other and that I feel like I had a blindfold on before I read about PTSD. I said...

The talk of a restraining order came from some texting and Facebook messaging on my part a couple days after she broke it off. I never got ugly or mean.. Just wanted to know why this was happening and didn't back off when she gave me piss poor excuses. I visited a friend who lives in the same...

I have seen the explanation.... And I feel like I've already lost half a week in my gloom. I'm reading about others experiences with dating a sufferer and it sounds like when they decide to shut out/down.. They never fully come around. Time to get refocused on my career and family/friends.... If...

I just had a real aha moment. She broke up with me the day before she was supposed to have dinner with me and my folks... Coincidence?

I'm just a guy who has feelings for a woman who happens to have had negative experiences that have scarred her. I understand it's not my fault and that she needs special attention and I'm okay with that. I was more than happy to provide support. One of the things that has me scratching me head...

Accomplishes what? She told me to forget her and move on with tears in her eyes. She felt she was doing me a favor. I can only imagine how torn up she is given the fact that I have far less demons and I'm beside myself.

Agreed. I just want to see her happy. It's the one thing I iterated to her time and again.

Thank you. This place has given me the freedom of expression and acceptance. I'm very grateful. It's given me a more understanding perspective on this experience and is helping me each day when the moments of despair creep up on me.

It's just the way I feel. I'm sad. I lost my friend. The person that came along and woke up my heart won't ever have a place in my life.

I wholeheartedly agree with this post. Maybe another day down the road I'll try and throw a line out to her. I feel that I'm getting a little better each day in accepting what happened; even though it still feels like a bad joke where I'm the punchline. Your post about her doing little things to...

I feel the need to apologize because I believe a misunderstanding has squandered something that was more good than bad. No fundamental schism or belief pulled us apart. She was shutting down, I pushed, she freaked. That was the extent of it. Do I feel justified in wanting closure? Now that I...

This post broke my heart :( Edit: After the dust settles... Is there anyway to show my apology without rocking the boat? i.e. Not crossing boundaries? Would something like having flowers delivered be a trigger? I feel as if I was wearing a blindfold before I searched for support and began to...