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I often feel stronger and more bolstered when I get a chance to help someone else who is experiencing something I've been through or can empathize with. It makes me feel more useful and less "needy". I don't know about the side of professionalism, I'm jast talking about like friends and...

Someone's crazy here and it's not you... 1. If she's representative of this community, LEAVE. 2. If she's not, and the community will not stand up for you against an abuser, LEAVE.

Is there a real possibility of someone actually still trying to track you? If not, then rationality and bravery would probably be your ally. If so, I don't know. I 'm in the same boat, trying to be as invisible as possible (like I do real good with that e_e). Mostly because of my ex, but I...

I think nationality has nothing to do with it. However, any sensory trigger can be met by things that correspond with certain people. Men who visually resemble any of the men who've abused me put my hackles up. Men who share the same names are harder for me to interact with, and I avoid...

I love it when that happens :) Isn't that how it always goes down, too? Some little thing and it's like a door has opened to a new unexplored corridor. This is something I've been observing in myself a lot. When I'm voicing things that I recognize are worries exclusive to me, I remind...

That's interesting as well. I have frequent "physical anxiety" (is what I call it). My mind might be totally calm, but my body is in a "Holy crap we're going to die" state, and it can be very difficult to function, but I usually manage to pull it off. Lots of self-distractions, no...

The only advice I can see if to set BOUNDARIES here. If you really hope he can pull through this, do NOT let him abuse and manipulate another second of your lives. Get out, stay somewhere safe, and give him an ultimatum. He should go get counseling alone. YOU aren't causing the problem, he...

I was holding my breath reading this. I'm glad you're okay. My severe PTSD is from a "military man", whose episodes drive him close to murder. Remember: YOU are NOT responsible for HIS feelings. YOU are responsible for YOUR feelings, and how you choose to react and respond. Same goes for...

That's really interesting! I never really thought of it being "abnormal". I mean, I understand that what I perceive around me is usually different than others, but I never attributed it to anxiety/PTS/etc. I definitely hear every little sound everyone else is missing. My hearing is superb...

I feel like I'm browsing the forums in fast-forward motion. Absorbing so much of what everyone's saying, finding connections, relating to experiences. I'm trying to find puzzle pieces to put together. I read something a moment ago about being hypervigilent and closing your eyes being a...

I keep a fertility log and have noticed I almost always have a panic attack around ovulation. I also have depression and dissociation issues when menses is approaching.

I've struggled with living alone and getting wound up with paranoia and panic and fear. I've been lucky to have a couple good friends that are willing to spend many hours on the phone with me through the day- or better yet, if you have a good gamer friend who spends most their time on the comp...

From what you've shared I feel like I've been there. I've spent full days tucked in the sofa cushions trying not to scream and cry because if I make noise I could be found or hurt (that's what the panic is saying). My panic attacks are vivid and I'm often fighting off an invisible attacker...

How do you feel about the topic of empathy? I'm a super empath. It's hard to be around others and moderate what of them I take on. But for friends I would take any amount of their pain, take it upon myself, wishing I could rid them of these horrible feelings and experiences. I'm better with...

I'm on a strange phase 2 of this; I know most of the things that have triggered me, but even if I see it happening, recognize the trigger, process the situation, understand there is no danger or harm, and "keep moving"- minutes, hours, or DAYS can pass, and that "trigger" is still vibrating...

I appreciate the input. "everything will go to shit and I can't be happy because it has to go wrong". I adjust that to "I am afraid to be happy because I feel like I don't deserve to be or it's too good to be true. I don't know what the future holds and the world doesn't work according to my...

Having been abused by a lot of different men, my first thought is "yeah, on some level there probably was a real danger", and from there the decision is what to do about it, if anything. I do NOT trust a man I do not know well. I don't care how public the situation is, it doesn't stop...

No need to apologize. I'm not hear looking for a specific answer! What coping skills work best with you? I'm not sure I have ANY coping skills when faced with actual panic. My anxiety I can work through, sure. Depression, yeah I can get through it. But the panic; reliving, feeling...

I just joined today. I've browsed the forum only briefly. Normally I spend awhile scoping out a forum before I join, if I do. What I've read already feels amazing; people describing things that I've struggled to convey to others. I'm hopeful that being here will be educational and helpful...