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His apt building is literally the only thing at that corner. I live in a city with several shootings per week. I don't care whether we aren't still friends or not. If something that draws that many cops to his street happens and the news is vague, it seems normal to check in on someone you...

To the OP...my guy started pulling away after the first unsolicited "i love you." It's been 6 mos since we last saw each other. I tried to see him in June for my birthday and not only did he shoot me down but told me he wasn't missing the relationship. Well I am. I miss it and him every day...

On the local news yesterday, they reported there was a robbery right in front of my ex's apartment building. In the news video, you could see FOUR cop cars in front of my ex's street sign! Unfortunately, the news report was VERY vague. All it said was, police arrested at least one suspect in...

This is hard. I have no advice really cuz i did not handle my situation well and would not wanna steer you wrong. At least you can take some comfort in the fact she still loves you.

That all makes sense. And yes on the no contact. Tho I expect to run into him somewhere eventually as we travel in the same circles. Both involved in theater and film

If she is anything like my ex, prepare for confusing mixed messages :/

Yeah..I dunno. Maybe if I post the context? He said: "After everything I don't want to be with you anymore. I don't say that out of malice. I am not saying it to get a reaction. If that's what you need to be at peace with it, then fine. I am past thinking about why it went wrong, I am past...

No, you're right, and I do keep re-reading his last email to me, so it will really sink in how cruel it came across for him to say, "I'm not missing it", re the relationship. That cut like a knife. Not sure how someone could be simultaneously the sweetest person I ever met, and the meanest one.

Honestly, after my experience, I would not reach out. She needs to be in the driver seat. To give her space, just focus on yourself and do fun things for yourself. Whenever you think of her, just distract yourself. And post here for support :)

Ayyyy carumba. Your story felt so familiar to me. I was with MY ex for 6 months, before things fell apart. Now that I've had more time to read other people's stories, certain things he did make more sense to me. Things were going so well for us, and he had said I love you, unsolicited, for the...

How are YOU doing, btw?

This new guy--even tho we've only been out once, we text a lot and he seems to really like me. I feel bad tho that I was up til 4a depressed and crying about my ex, yet making plans to see this new person tomorrow :(

I do plenty of that. And no, I didn't "wrap my life up in him"..we both had our separate lives. And yes, I started dating again..online dating and have one person I've been out with once, and planning to see again, but I feel I'm maybe being unfair to any new person I date since I'm not over...

I feel like I'm grieving too much, actually :(

It's been 2 weeks..just wondering how it all worked out?

Wow. You just totally nailed it. That describes my relationship perfectly. And yeah, I've been with many other people, as well, and so I feel I can tell the difference between what my ex and I had, and what I've had with others. This was on a whole other level. I just posted because, even tho...

It's been 4 months since I've seen my ex, and 3 months since we last communicated over email (where I felt he was rather cruel and harsh to me. All I wanted was to see him for my birthday, and he shut me down. Said he wasn't missing the relationship etc.) I can't even believe how much I still...

I got divorced in 2006. Have had quite a few relationships since then--the longest was 4 years, off and on. Honestly, not since my marriage had I felt a connection with someone, the way I did with my most recent ex. Not sure how to describe it. But it's something that rarely happens, in my...

That particular commonality of so many of us feeling like we had found a rare connection..I wonder if it's because our partners have in common an ability to mirror us, or something? I thought it was really unique the sense of humor my ex and I shared. We were both really sarcastic and dark. In a...

Yeah..sounds all too familiar. The hardest part for me were the mixed messages at the end, and the total projection of my ex's abusive ex onto me. (My ex's ex, killed herself on his birthday, after they had broken up.) He even asked ME if I was gonna kill myself if we broke up..ugh. I gave it a...

Yes, of course. I AM. That wasn't why I brought all that up. I brought it up under context of the discussion of how someone with PTSD behaves when they leave you behind. My whole point of posting is that yes, mixed messages seem to be the norm. And while the person may leave to "spare" us, or...

And yeah, at some point, the person who loves you HAS to draw a line in the sand. There is literally only so much rejection some of us can take. I finally had to sign off with "wow, must be nice to get over things so quickly. I won't be bothering you again." Because I am not putting myself...

That is so maddening for a supporter who hear. Not a day goes by that I don't think about my ex. I haven't seen him in three months and I still cry over him. I tried multiple times to reach out. I even offered to go to counseling with him. I was swiped away with "I'm not missing it" (the...

This is one of the risks you take when you get into a relationship. It just is. I got with ppl who were dishonest..disloyal..cheaters..and certainly didn't warn me of those tendencies at the start.

Yup. My ex has said about 3 times during this process "maybe we can be friends down the road when things are calmer." I just don't even address that. I agree with you. Plus, I think I will always have feelings for him and won't be happy as 'just friends.'