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Co-parenting. He wants me out of my childs life for good. He wants me perminently intitutionalised, incaserated or dead. I dont know what he gets out of this - I am told its all about power and control. He can move on with his life. I dont want him in mine.

I feel pain, a heaviness, hopelessness, powerlessness. A grave Injustice, psychologically tortured, exhausted, trapped. Poked and poked and poked. It will not end. There is no respite.

I walked the dog for 6 hours on the weekend. But generally manage less than 1 hour. I am very anxious about it.

He'sdoing it again. Wants me diagnosed based on his 'narrative' rather than on the 24/7 observations of mental health staff over 15 years, including hospitalisation. Why is it being entertained that he gets to interfere in my mental health duagnosis and treatment again, and again. He won't read...

I saw a movie on 'gaslighting' - a documentary -and I empathised with how she was feeling. I think films are powerful ways to make sense of life and get messages and stories out for understanding and change. But I find the news triggering so I have to be careful what I watch. Good on you for...

Thank you Arfie, you made me smile. You are right, he doesn't matter in my recovery, but he impacts it by interfering with it. My friend says I still talk like he's here now, because he got into my head. I need to use your words like a manta/ affirmation. So I will sticky note it around the...

I know, its exposure therapy. I just shake like I have parkinsons when I have to speak to people. I am so socially aware of myself now, when I never cared that greatly before. I would just chat with anyone. I get triggered by gaslighting and the 'glare' or 'smirk' I saw on his face. I couldn't...

I was just told that I am self gaslighting. And, I am talking like he's in the present. I had to see him yesterday. I shaked and cried the whole time and he still minimised his imoact on me, not accepting my diagnosis of PTSD.

My family know I was gaslighted but my sister just gaslighted me. She switches everything onto me but she is really heartless. She knows that I have PTSD and been abused for decades, but she doesn't show up for me. Won't even call to see if I am ok. I read somewhere a question on a PTSD fb...

I am gaslighting myself sometimes. He is very much still in my head, abusing me.

Nature Photography is a great hobby. I'd love to know about the books you have written. I like to write too.

I am so sorry for your loss Roland. I can sympathise with how you must be feeling. I have a living loss, and it is very painful. I found somantic yoga to be quite gentle. It releases trauma held in the body. There is a lovely lady on youtube who does free lessons. Caitlin K'eli

The meds contributed to my weight gain and in turn that affected the negative comments about body. When off the meds I dropped 40kg in 4 months with healthy eating. Back on them, weight piled on again and then some. Its a real blow to confidence. Now the doctors are telling me to loose weight -...

Your santury sounds amazing. And, I'm with you a pilots license. I'd like to be able to travel by any means, in the drivers seat of course.

I love snorkling too. I'd love to suba again. And I love doing film workshops. We gave a lot in common.

I was going to say EMDR? And maybe DBT which is used for other conditions but may help with dysregulation. For nightmares, I apply my own exposure-esk directly after. Directly in waking, I go back to the nightmare and imagine different endings that are better than the one I had. Like magyver...

Love it. Taking care of my dog is also a hobby.

I like art and yoga and writing. But find it hard to get into it at the moment. It's the 'lack of interest in things we use to enjoy' thing. I use to play flute but haven't in a long time. I bought some new flute music for zen, irish and asian flute. I have a guitar and ukulele and wanted to...

I like your explanation, it makes sense. I will re-read what you wrote again and ponder on it. Very thoughtful.

I think one of the examples given is that if you get irritated by someone chewinging loudly, then that is a mirror that you hate that you, yourself, chew loudly. I thought sensitivity to sound had a name in psychology and it is a sign of trauma that you are hypervigilent to sounds? But, my ex...

He was in abusive family and his parents lived in seperate countries. Everything that his mother complained that her mother in law did, they dud to me. And, the father in law was very verbally, emotionally and economically abusive. He said they were an emenmeshed family and had an unhealthy...

In his semi-autobiographical book Memories, Dreams, Reflections, the pioneering psychologist Carl Jung said, “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” Is this always true? As an abuse survivor (working on it), what irritates me is the abuse and...

Hi Torch, This is almost 99.9% my experience. I cried reading this. As it broke me. And, I have had PTSD for 15 years while being gaslighted. "Not all abusive relationship have gaslighting, but all gaslighting relationships are abusive" I need to re-read that over and over. I don't know...

Thank you for sharing your story, I'm sorry for what you've been through. How do we stop self gaslighting?

What are the ramifcations of it? I have no agency, no confidence, no sense of self worth. And, PTSD of course.