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It's been almost 10 months now, recovering from the divorce and dealing with some of the aftermath of living with someone with PTSD. I am suffering from some symptoms and am doing much better. This awesome group of people on this site really helped me and provided support that I needed. Life is...

Focus on getting help with the codependent part, I have been working on myself and it really helps. Hard habits to break, but finding why you are codependent will help set you free of it. Also read about betrayal bonds.

I am four months out on my own and am finally doing better. You will get through day by day. I was in a similar situation and saw the impact my ex's PTSD had on my kids. I didn't want them to be screwed up and traumatized. The kids are sooooo much better. I'm finding myself again, find positive...

Change is difficult, I'm two months out and I still miss him (even with all the disfunction) but day by day it gets easier. It is so emotionally draining, after you start moving forward you will wonder how you did it.

I was also married to a man with PTSD and depression. I took the very difficult steps of getting out. I have been on my own now for two months and believe it it not he is more engaged with our boys living outside of the house. I feel lonely partially because I was starting to get used to...

I hope that you are able to talk with someone professionally. I found it really helpful to talk with a counselor that specializes in child abuse sexual survivors. I tried counseling with the middle of the road counselor and they really had no clue about what was going on(not familiar with PTSD)...

I started questioning myself as well. You are lovable and great! You need to start loving yourself. You are strong keep plugging away.

Many words of wisdom given to me from friends on this site and my therapist that specializes in this trauma, "take care of yourself first". I finally had to look inward at myself and am in the process of letting go. Believe me you can't fix it for him. Your story and words are very familiar to...

You should read my previous posts, it doesn't seem to get easier. Your lucky you don't have children. It's a roller coaster and you can't make him get better. You only have control over yourself.

Thank you all. I know the answer in my heart, but it's really hard. I told him today he would have to leave soon and find a place by the end of the month. It's hard to see someone hit rock bottom, he was using marjuana and tried to clean himself up so he could pass a drug test for a job. He was...

My epic journey continues, we just completed the divorce and I have giving my husband who is suffering from this cruel condition time to get back on his feet. He is waiting for a job to come through. He didn't make it home last night and woke up in the hospital for third time since July from...

Thanks for all your supportive words and advice. Everyone on this forum makes a difference on the lives of others every single day.

It's a really hard day, I tried to do everything I could to save my marriage. I supported, I researched and I made all the appointments possible to help him. All the while I wasn't taking care of myself. As hard as it is today I will start to take care of myself by divorcing my husband with...

It's not even about sex, but emotional intimacy. I haven't been touched in two years and I'm longing for any human being.

I'm the female version of you, almost the exact same scenario. I'm hitting my breaking point and am divorcing with guilt. But the absolute lack of emotional and physical intimacy has left me completely alone. I have tried to support him in every respect and finally recognized I can't change or...

You can't help him. He has to help himself, you have to help yourself.

I'm sorry you are really sad. What you wrote about your husband being mean and cutting through you is nothing you deserve. I'm sorta going through the same thing but I'm letting my husband go although deep inside of me fear and love keeps me attached to him. I know it is for the best, and you...

I think you are really strong. I'm working on my courage to leave. It is so hard when you love someone. Keep your head up!

I'm in a similiar transition. I liked what you said about not depending on just the feeling. I have been on the roller coaster with my husband and have done everything in my power and granted he has improved. But the guilt and lingering feeling of whether or not it will be good enough is so...

I lived with manipulation from my ptsd sufferer to the point you start second guessing yourself over simple things. It is very difficult and you need to remember that you are sane and remember how this will impact your children. I finally am building up enough courage to move on, he used to...

Thanks for the insight. I'm very afraid of being in the same situation 10 years from now, and every month I do want to give up. I ask for wisdom and signs of what I should do, most recently he got really drunk and I felt afraid of what would happen next. I just need to stay strong with my...

Thank you all for your responses. It does help to have a listening ear.

He is in therapy and has seen a psychiatrist. He isn't on medication at this point and has even tried neuro feedback. Honestly it did help a bit. He has so much work to do, I know that and I really did set my boundaries up and was ready to let go but he has suddenly picked it up a lot. Granted...

I have been married for 12 years and two years ago my husband has been afflicted with PTSD from child sexual abuse. For 18 months he was at ground zero and has made significant improvements, started exercising and taking better care of himself but hasn't been participating in helping the family...

I thought you were writing a post about my life! My husband with PTSD has completely lost all inhibitions himself. Every noise a human body can make he makes. I have been seeing a counselor and she recommended that I not nitpick and leave the room. It will cause further insecurity when security...