Relationship Over It

[alise06]

Today I'm at the point where I've just had it. I'm tired of being the one to take the hardest hit. I'm tired of being blamed and neglected in every sense of the word. I'm tired of giving everything I've got just to get nothing in return. PTSD or not, this is just selfish cold heartless behavior. 5 years of my life wasted. He's ruined the potential for his daughter to have both her parents, and in this moment I hate him for it and all hes done to me. I'm sick of his familys enabling behavior. I'm sick of wondering what I did when deep down I know I did nothing. So what do I do now? The life I lived all of this time disappeared in a two minute phone conversation out of the blue...

 

[nursenurse]

You dust yourself off, and you move on. Of course it takes time, but it's what you have to do. I had 21 years invested in a marriage, and it dissolved. You can be a dust bunny, or you can rise above it all. If you don't have a job, get one. Not sure where you live. If he's moved out, change the locks. If you need to get out, then just do it, no procrastinating.

There is no time spent in a relationship that is wasted. Without it, you would not have your daughter. You would not have learned the lessons you have, as painful as they are now. You would have been looking back, wondering if you had done everything. Now you know you have. You learn about yourself. It is hard to see in the throes of a breakup, but once you have settled, and raged and then grieved, you will then see what you were meant to take away from the relationship, hopefully minus all the bitterness.

Remember to always take the high road. No bad mouthing Dad to your daughter. Nor his family. She will learn all on her own without you helping her. And that way, it will never come back to bite you. The best thing you can do for her is to show her there is life, there can be happiness, all in its own time. Seek out those who support you, who love you, who can be kind to you. You need people who are in your corner. Don't beat yourself up. And above all, be kind to yourself

 

[celia]

You will get through it.. I did.., I went through all of the pain and I'm better now.. Way better and grateful to have come out a better person, mother , and friend .. YOU WILL get through and you will be blessed

 

[anakant]

I have a young daughter with my sufferer and she's backsliding with me while being amazing with her. I feel like it was tough enough to have feelings for me before and now she can't possibly include us both. I hate seeing posts like these but am so glad you've had "enough" and are going to do something about it. If not, consider it a successful rant.

 

[Mtnativecohome]

I am four months out on my own and am finally doing better. You will get through day by day. I was in a similar situation and saw the impact my ex's PTSD had on my kids. I didn't want them to be screwed up and traumatized. The kids are sooooo much better. I'm finding myself again, find positive affirmations and repeat them to yourself. One I love is " I deserve to have my needs met"