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I have a pretty good grip on my anxiety until I want to sleep. It happens often before a nap when I am just starting to relax after 5 or 10 min then it's a sudden tightening of my chest, etc. Sometimes at night it also happens, or I can wake in the middle of the night from a sound sleep. While...

I need to eat breakfast but I'm tired of eating the same things all of the time. An omelette sounds good but also a lot of work. Blah.

When things become difficult, perhaps you could imagine what she would tell you in that situation. Self care and self compassion are huge tools to carry, so read a good book on strengthening those skills. Soothe yourself as she does. If she accepts it, maybe you could exchange a short, weekly...

I don't have full blown panic attacks but sometimes when I am in bed and ready to drift off, I get a panicky, anxious feeling that doesn't last too long where my heart rate amps and my chest tightens. I mark it up to my mind and body relaxing and quieting, distractions are gone, making room for...

Spent many school years as an SM. Took decades to discover it, and to find it is a serious disorder and I wasnt just a freak. Ive read conflicting info that it isnt a sign of abuse, but then had two Ts tell me it is. I suppose it could be a response to social anxiety brought on by abuse?

Another suggestion : how can you get more $? Part time work? I recently made $$$$$ unloading stuff I dont use via Craigslist. Donate plasma. Whatever it takes. We only get one life - make it a good one.

I went 5 years out of pocket at $140/session. Ive never missed the money. Ive always appreciated the growth. Healing is priceless and you are worth the investment.

You lost me at "He".

We need consistency. This ain't it. It seems he cannot commit time to you. If it's new, I'd let him go assuming you have other options. Imagine how irritating this will be 6 months and 20 changes in, for example. Or tell him you cant take the unpredictability and see if he can change it of you...

I quit my T in June. I still think about her every day. It's like any other loss...you grieve, you long, you miss that person. One thing that helps me to keep things in perspective is the reminder that this is a relationship that was never meant to be indefinite. We have to eventually let go...

Djembe class today!

My ex T would cancel once or twice per month when I saw her weekly. She let me know in advance but, damn, she had a ton of long weekends. I let it go on way too long without saying something and I wondered how she could run a biz that way! When I finally said something, her response was, "some...

Well, I quit my T in June after 5 years and it was tough on me. She suggested that we stay in touch and send each other silly things on a whim, but now I know it was her reaction to my abrupt departure as she never has sent anything. I also think an email relationship is too difficult for me. I...

I found with Psychology Today, many check box all areas and speciaities as tho they're casting a wider net to draw more clients. Recently was seeking a couples therapist and while most claim to do it, less than five promoted that exclusively. I feel better picking someone with a specific focus...

Yes on one account and we were best friends for a while, still are friends across the miles many years later. Offered to my most recent T after I quit as she suggested it would have been fun to meet under different circumstances and she initially offered to step away from the therapist role...

Yeah, very frustrating and hard to keep pushing on when hitting such resistance. They are supposed to be the experts and help break through but it isn't always so easy. I tried a different therapist as a test but felt the same defenses coming in to play. Do you trust her and is there anything...

^^^^what they said.

A few different scenarios were happening with me - 1) I often had no thoughts. I was frozen and shut down a lot of the time, even when I wasn't dissociating. There was nothing in my head! She would ask questions and often all I could conjure up were very short answers. Big kudos to her for...

I was a German major in High School. My instructor taught us about the country. I married a first generation American with German parents. I traveled around Germany. I have German ancestary and was curious as a child to learn more. I'm not a social scientist but Im not sure this is a valid...

while what you said in the beginning made no sense, it makes sense now. can i get a do over?

I love the smell of pine when the trail is still damp. I love my cat when he puts down his hard-ass veneer and succumbs to my needs to pass out love while he sleeps on my lap. I love that everyone guesses my age too young. I love learning new things, all of the time. I love being too small for...

I never could have conversations with my parts, I could only communicate with them through writing. It bothered me in a way because it was limiting but at the same time, I now have some amazing journals. I had one protector part that was so beautiful and the writing was so poignant, I wondered...

Hi, Eve - Sorry I cannot offer much at this point. I stopped going to therapy in June and haven't been dealing with any IFS work since then. I think @Hope4Now has some wise words here.

When I was in my 20s my mom declared she was no longer cooking for the holidays. This opened it up for me to cook for friends and finally holidays became fun. When there's no one around, going out to a movie works, or there's always volunteering. One time my spouse and I volunteered at a...

Right, attachment is a giant factor and so tough to let go of, especially if they modeled what a healthy, nurturing parent would have been like. I still like to check my Ts profile pic from time to time as a reminder, too, even tho we no longer have a relationship, Ill never forget how she...