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    Abandonment Of Children Questions

    I'm going to look into this tomorrow. It is true that after two informal chats with the pricey attorney I felt overwhelmed and not understood AT ALL. I think that has pushed me toward just letting go of everything. I still may very well do that but I think it would serve me well to do what...
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    Abandonment Of Children Questions

    Holy hell @Alice.in.Wonderland... I'm going to have to copy that entire post and print it out. There is no doubt you are 100% on point with your comments. I received the exact pressure you spoke of already "Well he IS her father" and I fell for it. It came from my mother also codependent...
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    Abandonment Of Children Questions

    @Alice.in.Wonderland, I copied your last paragraph and saved it to my phone. Very to the point and I need to remind myself of those facts on a regular basis. Thank you.
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    Abandonment Of Children Questions

    Thank you for your replies. I don't know how much he drinks now but I can only assume it has gotten worse after his exit. He hasn't gone a day in at least 5 years without at least a 6 pack and a pint of hard liquor. That is the minimum. The eviction "letter" was just that. A letter from a...
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    Abandonment Of Children Questions

    I'll take it @Fadeaway!
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    Abandonment Of Children Questions

    Hello everyone. I was wondering if any suffered had personal experience with abandoning their children? I am sure it is a difficult topic to discuss but I really need to hear from you. My ex left me and our 3.5 year old daughter 6 months ago. When he first left it was out of nowhere and it...
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    Relationship Encouragement I Hope.......

    @Amack i am so happy to hear this news. I'm sending all of the positive energy I can your way.
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    Supporter Of A Cptsd First Responder......and I Am Drowning

    Welcome Amack. As you read my situation is quite similar and this forum has been incredibly helpful. I have made friends with other supporters and although thousands of miles away, they GET IT, and when I need to be heard , they hear me. Stick around and ask tons of questions. The knowledge...
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    General Intervention Is Coming.... Looking For Feedback.

    Hello @Amack. The post is old but I'm still here! I'm sorry you have to relate to my story. It's a terrible place to be. With 4 kids no less. I can barely keep it straight with 1. So, it did and didn't happen. We went as far as meeting with the interventionist where I did provide information...
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    Relationship No, You're Crazy! No You're Crazy!

    My recent favorite in context of not seeing his daughter? "There is just no telling what YOU will do?! YOU have extreme highs and lows.. YOUR bipolar!" Really? I have extreme highs and lows?? By extreme highs and lows are you referring to my calm demeanor and the lack of insults being...
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    General When The "moving On" Hasn't Moved...

    Hello Everyone, I've been away for a bit just trying to keep my head on straight with my new normal. I wanted to give an update on what's been going on in our lives and get some wisdom, opinions, etc.. First, I'll start with the changes I have made personally for the better. I started taking...
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    Relationship The Universe And The Postal Service Have Terrible Timing!

    Good news, no drunken holiday I love you, let me fix you texts were sent and my daughter and I made it through the holiday just fine. She enjoyed every minute of it. Couldn't have asked for more than that really. I will admit that I did refuse a gift that was left for my daughter by the...
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    Relationship The Universe And The Postal Service Have Terrible Timing!

    Filing was the right thing to do.. No doubt about that but him receiving the notification on the holiday. Ugh... Terrible terrible timing. I agree there is nothing I can do. I suppose my question should have been what coping strategies have you found to be successful in letting go of that...
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    Relationship The Universe And The Postal Service Have Terrible Timing!

    As hard as it was to file the child support paperwork, I got it done and tried to put it out of my mind. I knew the holiday was going to be difficult with his absence so I was prepping and felt as ready as I could be. Yesterday I get a text from his mother telling me that his aunt (he is...
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    Relationship Does It Get Better?

    This is likely the most important information/advice you will ever receive on this forum and from my own personal experience sometimes takes the longest to believe and practice. I believe if two people are committed to their own individual growth and development and can support each other...
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    Emotional Exhaustion

    Hi @TimidZiggy. I don't know why there haven't been any responded to your post since what you described seems me to be a fairly common feeling many people with PTSD feel. I myself do not have PTSD but my current ex does and lord all mighty what I wouldn't have given for him to have the presence...
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    Supporter And Sufferer - Exhausted By Trying To Support So

    Welcome to the forum @PrayersPlz. There are so so many kind people here who have a lot of support and wisdom to offer you. Please stick around. I think you will find comfort here. Sending my support and well wishes to you :)
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    General No Title... No Words.

    Thank you @nursenurse. That is what is happening. It's a slow process so pandemonium it had been for a bit. We haven't heard from him at all since then which has been a relief in many ways but of course it's still very painful. My little one brings him up more and more every day. That hurts...
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    General No Title... No Words.

    No worries, I have thick skin. It's a must have in these relationships right :) I do appreciate the different perspective. I really do. My intentions are good so if the way I deliver my messages is not being received as such I want to know. I can't discuss it with him so although we don't know...
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    General No Title... No Words.

    To further clarify and apparently defend myself, there are many things I have done throughout our relationship that would be classified as undesirable, we all have but let me be very clear about this... The only blame I will ever accept is being to caught up in raising my daughter to notice...
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    General No Title... No Words.

    I will attempt to clarify the situation as briefly as I can to avoid confusion. First this is not my first ride on the roller coaster. He and I have been here before and weathered the storm. Th last ride was 3 years ago and my daughter had just been born. Navigating these situations with a...
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    General No Title... No Words.

    I just need to vent this out because the past few days have been rough for me. I very well could have gone out of my mind woman crazy. We all know the kind of woman crazy I'm talking about. Hell hath no fury kind of thing. Last I posted I felt stronger and more at peace. I took a stand for...
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    Supporter No Words, Just Gone

    I think it's normal to feel the way you do. I feel that way every time it happens. It's your own emotional response. Once the shock and awe of the situation wears off I always let go of that and cut myself a break. A good friend of mine whom I met on the forum just started the going through this...
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    Supporter No Words, Just Gone

    @Brii1515, I'm so sorry you are going through this. I know how confusing and hurtful it is. I will throw out a disclaimer before I share my own thoughts with you. I in no way advocate for you to give this man a pass on his behaviors. I'm saying that because, sometimes we as supporters don't...
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    Supporter Hello All. Supporting Wife With Ptsd, Need Support Myself.

    What Muse wrote made me think of the book I'm currently reading "once a warrior, always a warrior". I recommend it to you. It was recommended to me on this site recently. It does the very thing Muse suggests... Offers a view on PTSD and the people who suffer from it a different perspective. A...
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