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I think I'm really trying to figure out how to keep myself sane in the short-term here. Sure, I can work towards financial independence, but that doesn't keep me from making myself sick crying now. And unless I want to leave all my stuff and move into a homeless shelter, financial independence...

A lot of it right now for me is feeling financially stuck in a situation that, while not abusive, feels like it still has a lot of disrespect in it. I'm not really comfortable with putting up with the status quo, but in the short-term I don't feel like I have a lot of options.

They don't say that, but it seems to be a fair representation of how they act. I'm not sure how much it matters to me if it's actually what they think. At the end of the day, the problem is I seem to be in a situation where "I think you're being rude/disrespectful" is consistently treated as a...

I think my frustration is that sometimes, it feels like a very one-sided thing. Like there isn't even any potential consideration of changing Y, even if it would be easy to change. Because the problem is obviously with my feelings, so it's totally unreasonable for me to ask someone else to...

I understand the basic idea behind "I statements." The trouble is you do need something that puts the onus on the other person. In my experience, if I say "I feel X when you do Y", the focus becomes not on fixing Y, but on figuring out what's wrong with me and what I should change so I don't...

I guess at this point...I'd only be comfortable with a therapist if I knew absolutely, 100%, that they could not and would not use any sort of coercive measures on me. My worry about point-blank questions is that asking too many direct questions is another sign that something's seriously wrong...

It's not that I believe all therapists are bad. It's that by the time I saw that he was bad, I was already sucked in to where I didn't feel like I had the option to get out. I don't feel that there's really any warning signs or red flags in a therapist that I could rely on that wouldn't force...

Honestly I think a lot of it was just bog-standard bullying. He saw me as a problem to be controlled however necessary rather than a human being who needed treatment. What I'm afraid of is if I go back to treatment, they'll put more lies in my record and then say if I don't continue treatment...

Well, what happened to me was that this guy didn't believe a lot of things that I said had happened - like being abused by a fellow student. So he put a bunch of stuff in my file that wasn't true, or was only half-true, in a way that it made it look like I was in a significantly worse mental...

Honestly at this point...I feel like I'm coping, but just coping, if that makes sense. I am on medication - meds are easier to handle than therapy because I don't really have to open up, just tell them some symptoms I want to be treated. I'd like someone who would actually answer my questions...

Part of my problem is that I experienced a lot of trauma and disbelief within the mental health system. I have multiple examples of seeking mental health treatment significantly worsening my condition, often to the point of wanting to die when I previously didn't without the treatment. At this...

I'm mostly looking for someone to handle meds. I've given up on therapy at that point. So my other big ones are "willing to explain diagnoses and medication choices" and "willing and able to handle unusual reactions to medications without skepticism."

I don't really have scene friends in the area.

What I'm trying to say is I've had mental health professionals take things that I think are perfectly reasonable actions (such as dressing goth) as a sign of deeper problems. I want to avoid that by being clear on what they're looking for as "danger to self or others", but I'm afraid that...

Well, I'm not having suicidal ideation or anything at all. I just ran into a psychiatrist who wasn't listening and seemed to make freaking everything into a symptom (for example, being a goth was listed as "dressing bizarrely" and put up as a symptom of possibly being delusional).

It's not just the goth thing. It's that I don't feel safe that I'm not being judged on superficialities to determine whether or not I'm suicidal, which makes me not feel safe with psychiatrists. And that I often feel disbelieved when I report my own history, which again makes me feel very unsafe.

It's not just that I've had bad experiences, but that, when I reported my bad experiences, the response I got by and large was they're only trying to help and you must be misinterpreting something and that doesn't happen. So I'm a bit wary of being told I'm being paranoid, because I was being...

I've had a lot of bad experiences in mental health. One, I'm a goth, and I've had a lot of practitioners who seem to have negative views of that and see me as disturbed or even potentially suicidal because of how I dress. Two, I've had practitioners disbelieve or mishandle the fact that I was...

I'm tired of having to remove toxic people from my life. I'm tired of having to do all the work of having "safe boundaries" when you end up having to abandon things that are important to you and getting really badly hurt. My experience is that most toxic people...you end up hurt as much from...

Just an ongoing frustration. Abuse by mental health professionals is NOT bad therapy, or painful therapy, or whatever. It is abuse, and it has all the traumatic ramifications of abuse. Telling a survivor of psychiatric abuse that therapy can be hard isn't helpful. Nor is talking about how...

The minute you bring up that something's "considered abusive", that's not a neutral statement. You may disagree but I don't think that's neutral language nor language that would naturally be read as neutral. If I said to someone in my life after they mentioned screaming, that screaming can be...

Ok can people stop on the yelling thing? I'm sorry I posted. Good to know that putting up with people pushing and pushing and pushing until you snap because the only other option is to exclude your family from your life entirely makes you abusive and bad and wrong. I don't DO that with people...

I'm thinking more, I say, "I need you to not be criticizing XYZ about me. For right now I'm not going to listen to any more comments about XYZ." They nod and say ok, that's fine, they'll do that. Then the next day, they start in on criticizing XYZ, I say no this isn't ok and leave the...

This is an ongoing struggle I've been having. I have a few people in my family who just forget everything I say, it seems. And it's made it almost impossible to set boundaries, because inevitably the response is "But you never said anything about that, you always were ok with me doing that and...

I think...feeling like I'm being heard is a big thing. It's like...suppose you get up and go to cross an intersection. Wait for the light, look both ways, and bam, you get hit by a car. Get out of the hospital, go to cross, be even more careful, bam, you get hit again. And this happens a...