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I have no words of wisdom. I just wanted to send hugs. :hug:

Just venting I guess. He's been MIA three days now. I'm angry. I'm hurt. I'm confused. And I miss him so much. I miss his hugs and kisses. I miss his joking attitude and how he teases me. I miss holding him. I just miss how completely awesome everything is until he goes away. And then...

Thank you everyone. I have learned so much here in a very short time. I am so glad I found all of you! I'm hoping my bf will be interested in the mycombatptsd forums since its anonymous.

Sane, supportive loved ones.

Just curious how long you have avoided loved ones for? I am trying so hard to understand this and not take it personally. Thank you.

My guy is in therapy and he was on an online dating site looking for a relationship so he should be prepared to contribute. The thing about his avoidance is it makes me feel like the relationship is over. I don't know why I feel like this.

And I don't think he's intentionally hurting me. The first thing he'll say when he comes back is 'I really want to be with you but I don't want you to go thru the stuff I'm going thru'.

I knew you would be helpful. That helps a lot. No he didn't respond. He typically won't until he's ready. I think he turns his phone off but I could be wrong.

How can you tell someone you want to grow old with them and then turn around and ignore her? How can you just ignore heartfelt texts? I don't understand this. To me, it says I don't care about you.

Another thing is he seems to be easily manipulated. He went back to his ex because her son asked him to try again. He felt bad so he said yes. According to him he realized pretty quick that 'he just threw away the best thing in his life' so he ended it with her and came back for me.

It is very likely he's turned his phone off. He's good for that. If he doesn't want to be bothered he will go to great lengths to be sure no one gets to him. I feel that is inconsiderate but I'm not a sufferer. Although I may need some xanax soon.

I'm thinking it could be months before it calms down. I mentioned the need to talk and he's been distant ever since so what you're saying makes sense. However, on Tuesday he asked me to go to therapy with him because 'maybe it will help and maybe that is what he needs'. I feel like he really...

I just sent him a text asking if he is OK. I said we don't need to talk right now but I need to know you are still alive. Even with avoidance as his worst PTSD symptoms, he should be able to respond no? Or is that asking too much?

The break up is a complicated situation. I know we need to talk and establish boundaries. The odd thing is he was able to tell me on Wednesday that he was having an attack and wouldn't be coming by. And I talked to him earlier in the day Friday and by evening he was avoiding me. Its...

My PTSD sufferer bf is pushing me away again. After a 12 day breakup we got back together Tuesday. Tuesday was awesome. He was his usual loving, attentive self. Wednesday I didn't see him due to an attack. Thursday he threw his back out. Friday he said we'd definitely see each other that...

Thank you so much to all of you. You have helped me to understand in a very short period of time. I think you are all amazing individuals.

@seedling he is in therapy so hopefully he will figure these things out though I know you can't escape all triggers. Thanks for your input. @Justmehere thank you. It is difficult for sure. I guess I can equate it to when people don't understand my depression because they've never lived it...

Thank you @Justmehere. @desiderata310 I don't mean to sound insensitive by saying 'no apparent reason'. Yes I'm a supporter and my bf has told me at times he has attacks for no reason. I should have worded it differently. Like I said I don't understand at all but I'm trying to. I guess I...

Is it common for someone with PTSD to have an anxiety attack come out of nowhere for no apparent reason? It just seems fishy to me but I don't have PTSD or anxiety. Thank you!

Thank you everyone for your input.

No I do not. I guess I posted in the wrong place again. Sorry.

I do have a therapist though I haven't seen him in 7 months. I might give him a call.

My bf who has PTSD broke up with me stating he is going to try and work things out with his ex. Mind you, he told me she was a psycho, she used to belittle him, never supported him with his PTSD and anxiety and never gave him any space. He could never go golfing or fishing when he was with...

Thank you Chloe and Lilbit. I won't be asking. The last thing I want to do is cause him more pain or anxiety.

I am quickly learning that giving space is helping him. Thanks sweet pea.