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OMG Louise. You are special. Take really good care of yourself and tell me, what is it you like to do that you really enjoy doing? Whatever. It is, try and do it tonight... For me it's knitting. crazy maybe, but knitting gets me through those dark times....... I don't know you, but...

Glad you had a great day. I read your posts and so much resonated with me., I've learnt gradually to just let him get on with what he wants to do and be with him when he wants it. It's hard though and very lonely at times. Hubby had a birthday March and I made more of an effort myself this...

If he's worth it, then there is no problem reassuring him you're there for him. It doesn't have to mean you lose any face or anything. Without mutual trust there could never be a relationship. You can be a strong person yourself whilst doing it, we all want to be loved don't we? It's just...

Busy bee, I would suggest go with your heart. If you want to wish him happy Christmas why the hell not? Sound like you answered your own question in the last paragraph. Do what makes you happy too. One thing I do think sometimes is yes my hubby has PTSD and that's a significant part of...

Thanks both. Yes hubby is doing better, I've been with him 17 years now and over the years there have been lots of changes. For the most part though when I met him he told me he was cured. In 1990 when he was diagnosed and treated they thought there was a cure...... So we naievely went...

Yes, I find letting him know that I'm here, no doubting, 100 per cent, my rock, makes a difference. Never play those silly mind games some do in relationships. He knows how I feel yet he still checks in covert ways for reassurance sometimes. I'm conscious he worries he's a burden to me. I...

Hi sighs. I've got some serious deep lines under my eyes though that no amount of moisturiser will resolve!

Wasting light, be easy on yourself x crickey it took me Years to understand how to support my vet. Took him years to come to terms with it too, don't forget that's a factor too, we are just human and not machines. I was on anti depressants for two years due to the difficulties of his PTSD and...

Hi lemon tree. It's taken me many years to finally get this one! When my PTSD vet tells me he wants to be alone, I now say ok, you know where I am when you're in a better place, come find me. I don't try to hug or kiss him, I just let him be, but tell him I'm there for him too, if he wants...

Is that indicative of him perhaps just asking for some reassurance from you that you're for keeps? That he might just need some loving reassurance. I'd surprise him with something nice!

Yes, love is about mutual respect, with or without PTSD.

Can only talk about my experience with my PTSD vet I married 13 years ago. I learnt over time to avoid conflict language, that what I try to say is misinterpreted and there is an over reaction. You can feel like you're walking on egg shells and I get a feel of that from your post. Rest assured...

Thanks. I've actually grown to love him more. Strangely perhaps he's been horrible at times. The key for me was getting included in his therapy. It helped us both. Working together to make things better now and stopped fighting. For me understanding was key. He tells me feeling a burden...

Thank you!

I agree with wasting light above. I've always made sure my hubby knows that I'm here for him. He's walked out on me and gone for his own space but I understand now his stress levels have been pushed into a heightened stress response and he needs to get away. I don't take it personally now, I...

Anthony your first post is insightful, thank you. My husband has PTSD from his service in the Falklands. Much of what he experienced, he's protected me from. But he says similar, that much was about not being in a position to control or improve situations, so when ships were sinking for...

Hi Katherine, I've experienced similar from my PTSD vet husband. Have you read the stranger in my bed by Debbie sprague. It's on amazon and kindle. It helped me a great deal and may do you too. It's a positive slant on dealing with living with a partner with PTSD. Give it a go! Take good...

Hi, Found this group purely by accident. I'm married to a PTSD veteran 13 years. He had PTSD when we met. The last couple years though were particularly tough and he needed treatment again. Took me two and a half years after I contacted combat stress in tears to get him help. Ie to get...

Sorry there are two posts above, I'm new here so thought first didn't work! I'll introduce myself in introductions!

Hi Sabrina, We all screw up and sometimes best to move on and learn from mistakes. Your priority has to be your husband and your family, by hanging on to wanting your BF, you'll never be able to sort that out. I don't think your BF response is because of PTSD. But he could feel...