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@BlueOrange, I'm glad my response struck a chord with you and helped you gain an additional positive perspective. As long as we continue to share and learn from each other's shared experiences, we help the world become a more peaceful, tolerant, mindful place. Peace. @Junebug, I couldn't...

Okay @jefemundo, I've finally brought myself to read your post fully and take some time to reflect. WARNING: Major rambling ahead... First, a brief update on my situation. I'm now divorcing the woman that I mentioned in the original thread...

@jefemundo I saw the notification that I had a reply to this thread and, I'll be honest, it kind gave me a mini anxiety attack. Things have changed a lot for me since this thread started and it was a bit painful revisiting it. I'm not looking for sympathy, just... I guess making excuses for...

I don't have any advice, really. I'm still trying to figure out my own big ol' mess. But, I do find that music helps me cope. It's an escape for me. Especially when I can find a good song that relates well to how I'm feeling. It really drives home that I'm not the only one that feels that way...

Thank you. It really was done with all the best intentions. Please keep in mind that as long as my posts are, there are just so many details that can't possibly be covered adequately in this medium. However, you're so right. Unfortunately, those conversations about boundaries and our concepts...

I'm open to all criticism, comments, questions, etc. I appreciate your input @FridayJones. No offense taken. But please, (in Sam Jackson voice) allow me to retort. I've had *all* kinds of facial hair throughout our relationship. We've been together since high school. I've had sideburns...

Thanks for the input @Sweetpea76. Always appreciated. I'm going to get some much needed rest while things feel fairly calm. Enjoy your wine. ;)

Ain't that the truth.

Wow, @Sweetpea76, awesome information. Thank you for that. Can there be an addendum to the cup diagram, though? Like a fourth cup representing a supporter, with a block about 2/3's the size of the PTSD block labeled, "Supporting a spouse with PTSD?" Because while we are dealing with the same...

Thanks @Sweetpea76. I actually breathed a tiny sigh of relief that someone else sees this as being as effed up as I do. I'm still so quick to second guess myself when she snaps. I start to think, "Shit, did I just screw up? Is this another example of me 'not getting it?' Did I just cause a...

I didn't want my wife to be surprised if her psychologist mentions to her that I contacted him during their next session. So, I gave her a heads-up tonight that I reached out to him. She got a tad peeved. "I'd really like to know what you said to *my* doctor," she said. I didn't tell her any...

Ooh, yes, thank you for posting this. This is something I've been working on a lot, recently. I've started cutting out meats, too. Have been doing it slowly. Starting with "weekday vegetarianism." Pretty self explainitory. I just had a chicken quesadilla today. It was delicious... And hush. I...

I just got off the phone with my sister. We're going to hang out Sunday afternoon and do something fun with my girls. She said, "Maybe if it's nice enough out, we'll go on an adventure." She is such a free spirit. My girls love hanging out with their aunt. I can't wait. So that's the good...

@Sweetpea76, I sure can. I have no f*cking clue what, where, or when, but I've got to find something. I am so wound up. Thanks for suggesting. Otherwise, I probably would have wallowed this weekend. ... So... How's ^ that for unintentional alliteration?

Thank you for sharing, @deaj09. As nice as it is to know I'm not alone in this, I'm sorry there are other people experiencing this pain. To have someone you love turn on you so drastically, with so little ability to reason... My wife and I had a long conversation tonight. She has walled...

Thank you @Sweetpea76 so much for your input. It feels to me like she was being selfish too, but when I try to look objectively at our situation, she's selfish about everything right now. She has to be. "Unfortunately, recovery is a selfish process," as T would say. K definitely understands...

I could use some advice today. I introduced my wife, Be, to a friend of mine, K, a few months ago. They hit it off really well. I knew they would and thought K would be good for her. They got close, very intimately close. K wasn't my wife's first girlfriend, and I am okay with her exploring...

Thank you for your input @Nicolette. This, I think, is my biggest struggle currently. I just don't know who she is anymore. She has changed so much over these three years after her break down. And she's not the only one. This process has really made me take a look at who I am, what I want in...

Thank you for you input @Sweetpea76. I've read a few of your other post and find your approach to your sufferer and their symptoms admirable. I hope I can someday come close to that level of understanding. I have read quite a lot about compassion fatigue. I'm at such a low point though, that...

I hope I'm being a good Dad. I've really tried to be very honest with my girls, but at the same time, tried to keep them from a lot of the drama recently. They're such wonderful,smart girls. They know something is up, but have just been so sweet about it. There have been a lot of times (prior to...

@Solara Is it this one? I sure hope so. I just ordered it.

My youngest just came in and gave me "big monkey hugs" before she went to bed. It's amazing how much a hug helps. @otakujome Your message brought tears to my eyes, though. I have felt so rejected recently. Having someone, anyone, ask how I'm doing is an emotional shocker. I don't know how to...

Thank you Solara. Though I don't feel kind and I certainly don't feel like I understand a damn thing. I feel weak, exhausted, and petrified. But it's fantastic to hear, nonetheless. I appreciate your time and input.

Thank you otaku. I appreciate your insight. I bawled tonight after going downstairs to see how she's been doing and found our wedding picture face down. I need hugs so badly. Thanks for those.

My wife and I are at one of our lowest points. We've been married for 11 years, together for 16. She was physically, verbally and emotionally abused by her father throughout her childhood. He was more physically aggressive with her mother than with the kids, and she always protected her mother...